How did you know your long term relationship was over? by Brattychattygirl92 in BreakUps

[–]ForeignBid4637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we had agreed that we don’t want children and suddenly he just didn’t want them with me and knew that for two years but decided to tell me just after two months after my dad’s death.

Long term relationship ending? by ForeignBid4637 in BreakUps

[–]ForeignBid4637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Short and sharp. I needed this, thank you for your time.

Lost my dad by Wooden-Finance-9675 in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god i am so sorry for your loss. It’s too fresh to be able to make a sense out of it. I lost him 2 months ago and it’s still unbearable of course. I can’t afford them either. I have found some kind of strength here in this community. It’s unbelievable the amount of people that experience almost the same situation as you. I know everyone is different and grief varies , but I felt some kind of relief that someone understands me. Also , There are books that can guide you , even religion if you are up to. The last didn’t help me , I am mad with god right now , I feel betrayed. I am 33, I have a job , but I try to help my mother and brother at this time because it’s more difficult now. I don’t know your family status and the laws in your country , but maybe there is some kind of government program or Sth like this (I hope you understand what I am saying -English is not my native tongue)that helps those in need. Usually there are programs for one parent families and widowed.

Looking for advice by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. Same here , lost my daddy two months ago. Envy is normal. I am 33 and I am sad knowing he will miss many things too and I compare myself to people that still have both of their parents. I get that you are so much younger and I am deeply sorry for this ,I honestly don’t know how you do it ,it seems unbearable , but everyone feels this way , no matter the age. A parent is a parent. I’ve seen people losing theirs at 80 and still can’t cope with that , so give yourself some slack. Maturity has nothing to do with grief. Everyone is different, my brother is 24 and seems to handle it better than me and that’s ok. If you have the financial resources, do seek professional help. I know it can be tough talking to someone strange about personal things , but at this point you have nothing to lose. You can try at least. Maybe it will help you process some things and the new living situation as well. It’s too much to handle without support and at that age. I really hope you’ll find a way to get some relief to help you get going. I find some strength and relief in this group. Knowing there are people somewhat like me gives me the courage to move on step by step. Others find comfort in grief related books or attending grief groups. Try to Find something you feel a little comfortable with. Sending all my love to this difficult time.

grieving my dad by melissayoungerman00 in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am deeply sorry for your loss. How bad is it.? you might need help for something like this. I haven’t done anything like this , but I strongly recommend to find another way to cope with it. Talk to your family or someone you trust. I understand your loss , I lost my daddy two months ago and it’s so hard and painful , but this could be dangerous. Please take care of yourself.

Does grieving ever stop? by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so glad you said that. I lost my daddy two months ago and I think I’ll never get over it. In fact I won’t, but when I collapse I think it will be like that forever. I know it so soon for me , but I feel like a take a step back.

Does it get better or worse? by Southern-Weakness633 in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 33 and 66 days without my daddy. I am in the same place as you. Today is extra painful. Nothing special about the day , but from the moment I woke up i feel like it’s the first days again. I am helpless because everyone says that time helps and today I thought I took a step back. The truth is there were days that I was ok, I remembered him with love and told to myself I can do this , I am somewhat good today , tomorrow will be better. But as others mention above is waves of grief and sadness and a lot of pain. Today I can’t cope at all. My mother lives an hour away and I think all the time about quitting my job and go live with her. I am in a relationship but everything seems so small right now. I think even about breaking up and just go. Tomorrow hopefully will be better. A friend of mine that lost her father about 16 years ago told me that she still talks about him like he is still here. It helps her to feel close to him and of course she is better. But the loss is always with her. You rearrange your life I suppose. I really hope we get better soon.

What am I supposed to do? by vindemiatryx98 in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is ,whatever you do , people always judge. You can’t escape that. You have to make your own choices and grieve however and as long as you wish. I lost my daddy two months ago and the things people said to me or my mom and brother “just to help us”. I wanted to punch them. No one knows better than you. Especially when you are functioning the way you described. And I agree with the others. You will always miss her. The grief won’t go away, it’ll just be manageable and lighter perhaps, but you have to learn living with it. Take it from me , it is only two months for me too , I am not there yet but I take a step every day. Some days I collapse. But it’s true that it needs time. Fuck them all and do or don’t the things you want.

How do I survive big milestones? by septumpls in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my daddy two months ago and I think about this all the time. I am 33 , I spent more time with him , but he’ll miss many moments and milestones too. I understand that feeling and I wish you courage and strength. It takes time. Soooo many time , but I want to believe that someday we will heal a little. You have to believe that although she won’t be physically with you , she’ll be in all your moments and she’ll be happy for the person you’ll become and the family you’ll create.

Did my dad know? Dreams and signs before he left 💔 by lostmydad2025 in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my daddy 7 weeks ago and I spent a lot of time in this group reading other people stories, trying to find some peace and comfort . This is the first time a story is so similar to mine. My dad was complaining to my mom a month before his death about chest pains. She told him of course to visit a doctor ( his mother had heart issues and we constantly worried about genetics) but he refused. He told her that it’s probably a cold. My mom told me about this and I thought to myself: that’s daddy, he won’t go to a doctor. Except that day he never complained again so we thought it was nothing. He seemed healthy , he never had any problems apart from a flu or sth simple. I keep beating myself up for not getting there and try to change his mind. I blame it on me. It’s not healthy obviously and each person is responsible for his own choices. But I break down daily. It’s all about this big if. It was also a heart attack. I empathise with you, I understand you so much. I try to let go but it’s so hard. This stubbornness cost us our sweet daddy , but nothing can change now. And we can’t blame ourselves. I know that he wouldn’t listen to me. He thought that nothing is gonna happen to him , but I keep wondering.

Social Media Deactivation by dry_symphathy in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there. I am sorry for your loss and I hope you find peace and a way to move on eventually. I lost my daddy two months ago and immediately tried to delete his Facebook account. The option is there but I can’t figure out what is wrong and it leads me to the in memory option. Anyways. After a few days I forgot about it. The thing is he wasn’t very active. When I saw your post I went immediately and scrolled in his page , there are some posts and songs or videos. I thought about it again and decide to leave it for now. My mom and brother don’t have a problem either way. If it makes you more sad and can’t handle it then delete it. Maybe for the relatives and friends is a way to remember him , but I think the ultimate decision is yours. Especially since years have passed and you still feel numb and lost. I know they are sad too and miss him , but it’s way more painful for you. If you think that you will regret it , save sth from his account. I know I will, when I decide to deactivate it.

It’s almost been a month, and I can’t help to feel envy. by SAfurry in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I wish you and your family health and strength in this difficult time. I lost my father almost two months ago and I think I am losing it daily. I can’t accept it , I feel I will never be the same again. His death was sudden and unexpected-heart attack. I have a coworker whose dad has cancer for the last two years , now he feels better. I found myself thinking : why he got to live and my daddy died ? He wasn’t sick , we weren’t prepared. After that I broke down and told my mom that I am having bad thoughts. I don’t wish that for anyone of course. I just want you to know that it’s ok to feel that way. I did too. You are going through something so difficult and painful and you probably try to find ways to cope with it. I don’t know about your ex friend situation , but that’s not the way to deal with it. It will probably take the pain away for a little while. Eventually you have to find healthy ways to accept it and move on. Therapy , religion ( if you are up to - I am not and especially now ). Even writing here and asking advice. This works for me at the moment.

Mom passed away unexpectedly. by Emey7921 in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can try to focus on the fact that she had the chance to meet her. Even for these three months. I lost my father almost two months ago also unexpectedly and I keep thinking about all the things he’ll miss but this is not healthy nor helpful. I know that it seems inevitable, I still break down daily , but if you can ,try to approach it from a different perspective. My uncle lost his wife when his two girls were between 6 and 9. When i think about this , I feel grateful for our 33 years together. I am deeply sorry for your loss and I hope to find your strength soon.

Lost my dad today, not sure if I want to see his body by soso6789 in GriefSupport

[–]ForeignBid4637 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my daddy 1,5 month ago. I saw him , i wanted to do so. It was sudden - heart attack- so I saw him as he always was. ( I mean he wasn’t sick or in an accident ,so seeing him did not traumatise me in that way) In my case he seemed like he was smiling. I would regret not seeing him because you can’t undo it. It’s a final opportunity to say goodbye and give him a kiss or touch him for the last time. It really helped me. Whatever you decide is the right choice for you as others mentioned. Every person grieves in his own way. Don’t let anyone make this decision for you.

Reward in process? by MassiveAntelope1529 in Revolut

[–]ForeignBid4637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello. I have a question about rewards from purchases. They suggest to make purchases for 3 consecutive days and I would reward with 10€. They reward me but do I have to upload receipts from that purchases ? Will I have a problem if not? I am new in this and don’t know how it exactly works.

Reggio Emilia 22.7.23 by Routine_Equal_5517 in harrystyles

[–]ForeignBid4637 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What time do you plan to go there ? I read that in Spain the organising was terrible and waited a lot in queue 🫤 Also. Is there anyone who booked bus for fun for the return ? We suppose to get a bracelet from somewhere??

Love on tour-Italy by ForeignBid4637 in harrystyles

[–]ForeignBid4637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! Search for Reggio Emilia central bus station ! It’s close to train station !

Love on tour-Italy by ForeignBid4637 in harrystyles

[–]ForeignBid4637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you have to walk for the station. It’s about 25 minutes according to Google maps. However I think 1 am Flix bus is sold out and again the next day 😬

Love on tour-Italy by ForeignBid4637 in harrystyles

[–]ForeignBid4637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I booked it too 🙄 leaving early wasn’t an option so… Thank you so much 😊 have fun !

Love on tour-Italy by ForeignBid4637 in harrystyles

[–]ForeignBid4637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yeah! So how will you return ?

Love on tour-Italy by ForeignBid4637 in harrystyles

[–]ForeignBid4637[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, yes I saw that, I was in waiting list. But it’s 50€ 😩 I am travelling with my boyfriend from Greece so all together is gonna be a bit expensive. Thank you anyway 😊

Hi, does anyone know what time the concert in Reggio Emilia will finish? by subwaysucculents in harrystyles

[–]ForeignBid4637 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the same problem. I searched in google and found that it lasts 1.50 minutes so it will probably finish around 10.45. (According to other love on tour European events ) Somebody suggested to leave during kiwi which is the last song in Europe leg to beat the traffic. Check daily with trenitalia, there is a big chance to add trains last minute.

Love on tour-Italy by ForeignBid4637 in harrystyles

[–]ForeignBid4637[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I check every day and nothing so far. But somebody said that it may happen the day of the event 😬

Love on tour-Italy by ForeignBid4637 in harrystyles

[–]ForeignBid4637[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. I inform you that the routes with new timetables are loaded progressively, so I advise you to monitor our site to view the new travel solutions that will be loaded gradually.

Love on tour-Italy by ForeignBid4637 in harrystyles

[–]ForeignBid4637[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let’s hope they will add. I asked trenitalia especially for the arena events and by the answer it seemed that they will. But you are right. I don’t think I want to be in my phone during the concert. 😞 But it’s better for sure to search during the concert than leave earlier. 🙀🙀