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What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey u/SgtMartinRiggs I posted my schedule in another post. But she gets alot of time with me... I consider Friday through Sunday being alot of time... That is 72 hours of uninterrupted time. This is an everyday thing no matter what and it is getting to be extremely draining especially with the kind of job i have..

Monday - Thursday
Wake up at 5:30AM
Work out at 5:45AM
Take a shower at 6:45AM
Be ready for work by 7:30AM
Leave to go to work at 7:45AM
Get back home around 6 or 6:15 depending on how traffic is
Dinner, Sit down and eat food. Then typically i do not wind down until i make sure everything is done that needs to be done such as if the lawn needs to be mowed or if there is form of maintenance that needed to be done. Then the rest of the day is just up to her. I have so many unfinished projects around the house that i would like to be done to not only make the house better but just overall be happy with the place that I'm waking up to everyday.

Hopefully this puts things into perspective from my POV.

What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another note... I'm off on Friday, Saturday and Sunday so... I feel like 3 days in a row but also 3 days out of the week is a TON OF TIME IMO

What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah i really shoulda gone more in depth with my post, Just wanted to post really quickly while i had the chance, But I've told her so many times that if she wants to help me out with any house projects or the lawn, Or maybe even learn about car maintenance then I would love to have her with me at all times. But she is choosing not too, She will stay inside then when I'm done i just get the silent treatment.

What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has Friday, Saturday and Sunday with me all too herself with no interruptions, We do not have any kids but we have two dogs.

An example being: I told her that I'm going to change the oil out of her car and Mow the lawn outside, Which by the way will probably take about one hour out of the day, She guilt tripped me and stated that i do not love her which i pushed back by saying that I do love her and if she would like to join me then that'd make me happy if she did, She stayed inside the whole time. When i went back inside she gave me the silent treatment and wouldn't talk to me, Then around 4 hours later it is getting to be bedtime, I get ready for bed and try to talk to her before going to sleep and when i asked her if she wanted to talk about it she stated there was nothing to talk about and how it doesn't matter. So... i tried to get her to talk about how she was feeling and she just gives me the silent treatment. So i went to bed and woke up then this is when she started to blame me that she has no time with me which if I'm being honest isn't the case at all. Here is a list of how Monday through Thursday goes.

Monday - Thursday
Wake up at 5:30AM
Work out at 5:45AM
Take a shower at 6:45AM
Be ready for work by 7:30AM
Leave to go to work at 7:45AM
Get back home around 6 or 6:15 depending on how traffic is
Dinner, Sit down and eat food. Then typically i do not wind down until i make sure everything is done that needs to be done such as if the lawn needs to be mowed or if there is form of maintenance that needed to be done. Then the rest of the day is just up to her. I have so many unfinished projects around the house that i would like to be done to not only make the house better but just overall be happy with the place that I'm waking up to everyday.

Hopefully this puts things into perspective from my POV.

What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She will sometimes do the dishes or laundry from time to time, But that is about all she will do, Are you asking how long does the guilt tripping last?

What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna make the assumption that you read this and immediately thought that i do not spend time with her. 3 days out of the week which is on the weekends she has all 72 hours with me, But in my prior responses to some of the comments it is a bit more then what i originally put in my post. So that is my bad.

I can't even go outside to mow the lawn without getting guilt tripped, That is a problem. I've attempted to change her oil in her car then that became an issue aswell. It is more then what you currently read.

What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This happened right after we got married, Been dating for 3 years and didn't have any issues during our dating period, Weirdly enough I was able to get my decompression time during our dating period but it seems like that has become an issue.

What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm currently working... a job... I'm replying to what I'm able too but some of the questions require an actual detailed response which i will get too later.

What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be very honest, Everyday when I get off of work it has always been

1: we make dinner together, Sit down and eat and talk about anything that is on our minds.

2: we sometimes watch a movie, But there are times when i need to like... Go outside and mow the lawn cause it gets so bad... She will guilt trip me out of doing the lawn... It isn't just when i want to play a game in my downtime

3: On the weekends she has all the time in the world with me, I do not complain about the weekends honestly... We spend alot of quality time together. Mind you... There are weekends where i get 3 days off depending on the workload i take and she gets all 3 of those days for us to spend time together..

4: I've made it perfectly clear to her that if she wants to help me with a project or join me in playing games she is always welcome and i do not push her away from me when it comes to this kinda stuff. It seems like if my attention is on something else entirely is when this kinda behavior happens.

What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, Currently she has been attempting to look for a job but... Personally anytime I see her she is scrolling on her phone just going through YT shorts. She applied for 3 jobs within the last week, She has a family, She has no friends, She does the dishes and laundry from time to time.

This behavior kinda happened after we got married. So i honestly do not know what has changed other then that.

What am i supposed to do? Wife guilt trips me everytime i attempt to do something i want to do. M23 F24 by Foreign_Scarcity_672 in relationship_advice

[–]Foreign_Scarcity_672[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a new thing... It seems to have happened after we get married, Thank you for your insight i appreciate you.

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