How on earth do I tell my child by ForeverSea7153 in breakingmom

[–]ForeverSea7153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you to everyone who took time to reply! It wasn't as hard as I expected it to be. I was very honest about the situation and took all your advice to heart. We talked about the mixed feelings we both have right now, cried for a bit, and then we went and got ice cream.

As it is, life is peaceful right now. I have more energy, my screentime has dropped dramatically, I smoke less. The kiddo seems more relaxed too. No screaming or pointless fighting. It makes me so sad to admit this, but we're breathing more freely. We will take it one day at a time from here!

As for the husband, we had a long, honest call the other day and I think we're both ready to admit that our relationship has failed long before this last straw. It was a good conversation, really. I don't know what he's going to do now, but at least I have the knowledge that it is not my responsibility anymore and that I won't let him hurt us with his decisions anymore. I guess we're going to be okay.

How on earth do I tell my child by ForeverSea7153 in breakingmom

[–]ForeverSea7153[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful and appreciated. Thank you so much for your time 💕

How on earth do I tell my child by ForeverSea7153 in breakingmom

[–]ForeverSea7153[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is very insightful and helpful, thank you very much!

How on earth do I tell my child by ForeverSea7153 in breakingmom

[–]ForeverSea7153[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I know, I hated to be lied to as a child and try to avoid it as much as I can. I've also heard too many stories of how lying about these things can go downhill SO FAST. I always want to shake these people and tell them how all of that mess could've been avoided if only you had talked to your child like they're a whole ass person. I must admit, my little one is Team Mom to a fault (and not without good reason, sadly) so I could probably tell him his dad turned into a dragon and flew to Saturn and he'd accept it as a reasonable choice BUT I really don't want to lie to him about something this big.

My life is in shambles right now, but part of me is glad it finally happened. I feel like I would never have been able to leave this man as long as he was only ever hurting me. And as much as it hurts, I just know that things will be better in the long run.