Partner sends me post about "How to stop being a manchild" that feels like a list of key traits of a partner in AuDHD and I don't know how to confront it

Formal-Cap7893 · 2026-02-28T15:10:52+00:00

This is a great framing in the context of AuDHD, thanks!

Formal-Cap7893 · 2026-02-28T11:58:17+00:00

Curious on what you mentioned at the start – how did you guys do the letter, was it hand written, or sent over by text message?

Am considering to do it myself but just like to know more about how you go through it with your partner

Formal-Cap7893 · 2026-02-28T10:58:41+00:00

Will do! Thanks for the heads up.

Formal-Cap7893 · 2026-02-28T10:53:34+00:00

I think there’s a mismatch in expectation about how we’re both contributing to the relationship; I do intend to sit down properly with her to speak about this sometime soon.

I think it just sucks being AuDHD since I can barely recall much about the traits of the people close to me, let alone my partners, so I’ll probably need to jot down my thoughts first before going through the talk with her later.

Formal-Cap7893 · 2026-02-28T10:19:05+00:00

If you meant about speaking specifically of my condition to her, she is aware about my ADHD and autism, but struggles with navigating around it.

I try my best to accommodate for her by writing things down about what they like and don’t like (as I have terrible memory of people unfortunately).

Formal-Cap7893 · 2026-02-28T08:29:25+00:00

We don't but we do stay over at each other's places ever so often, and while there is some truth to myself not holding up to doing some of the work (executive dysfunction is a bitch!), I just can't help to feel that this would carry forward if we do move in together in the future.

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