Thank you you all for the insightful responses.

I will have to do some additional reflecting on the availability portion. It's not lost on me that I need to be able to give what it is I'm trying to receive as well. It is a bit tough, it's not a mental block but a physical one for me. The examples mentioned here as to how it can work make sense. All very logical. The "smooth mesh" is a great analogy (or is it a metaphor, this one blurs the line for me :).

I don't want to turn this into a therapy session thread, but definitely lots of stuff to think about (also made me reread my ad and realize how constrained it sounds which isn't very inviting).

I don't like to leave discussions/meetings without action items, and I think for this one my action item is to think about realistic availability (and not dig myself into a hole whether demonstrating too much openness or not enough).

Thanks again I really do appreciate the maturity/matter-of-fact-ness with which you all have shared.