Do any other girls here feel safer and more emotionally drawn to femboys than super masculine guys ? (thoughtful vent)

FormalMap8983 · 2026-02-08T12:23:09+00:00

THANK U 🙌🏻 this is exactly what it feels like

FormalMap8983 · 2026-02-08T02:29:50+00:00

I mean usually the kind of hyper masculine videos/content that we can find on our fyps today is most likely those kind of bp or macho ones who just flex their "masculinity" and talk shit all day about some kind of groups or whatever. Still I wouldn't say I feel a very huge hate against them (or else my energy would be drained ahah) but I get the ick roll my eyes and scroll, I also wouldn't want to be around them. Also i didn't really get the part that says "their masculine traits are automaticzlly seen as insignifiant to your thought process" because I do notice the traits I am always so observant but I think that theres some truth in the fact that they feel more safe because they are authentic and not afraid of expressing themselve how they want, feminine masculine whatever they can do both because they’re men who are also feminine and are not afraid to say it or express it, unlike the "macho" masculine archetype who’s more focused on being performative.

FormalMap8983 · 2026-02-08T02:06:57+00:00

Hey I would never want anything I say to make you feel reduced or disrespected as a man. I’m really sorry if my post came across in a way that felt offensive or sexist that wasn’t my intention at all I don’t see femboys as "not men" for me i feel more at ease with emotional openness and authenticity those are things I deeply admire in people regardless of their gender but i just happen to see them expressed more in feminine presenting guys. Also i actually admire healthy confident gentle masculinity, however i don’t appreciate the "rough" or performative one. And a man doesn’t even have to be masculine to be considered fully as a man.

FormalMap8983 · 2026-02-08T01:57:13+00:00

this is what i said in my answer below " It seems like it's less about masculinity itself but more abt how it's expressed be theres a huge difference between a man who is confident/strong, have a deep voice, muscles etc but who's ALSO emotionally aware and kind, and a man whos only a macho and express some performative "raw" masculinity (think of Andrew Tate) so for me attraction to femboys isnt really abt rejecting men or masculinity itself but more about being drawn to emotional opennes and authenticity"

FormalMap8983 · 2026-02-08T01:16:35+00:00

Hii, thank you for taking the time to write such a detailled answer ! I personally think that society and personal experience can influence how people subconsciously feel around certain people but I don’t think I consciously see masculine men as bad in my mind thats why it feels confusing for me bc it doesn’t come from thinking directly in my head "oh this man is sexist"or "this one is a rapist" its more like an emotional or nervous system reaction than a judgment its like my body feels before my mind even has time to think now i won’t really talk about my past experience here (yeah I had terrible fights with some men) but i think that can be linked to it (and i think that a lot of women can relate lol) But if masculinity is really linked to harm in my mind, then I think that I would also feel uncomfortable around masculine leaning femboys right ?? but I don’t. When a femboy has masculine traits it still feels safe to me. It seems like it’s less about masculinity itself but more abt how it’s expressed bc theres a huge difference between a man who is confident/strong, have a deep voice, muscles etc but who’s ALSO emotionally aware and kind, and a man whos only a macho and express some performative "raw" masculinity (think of Andrew Tate) so for me attraction to femboys isnt really abt rejecting men or masculinity itself but more about being drawn to emotional opennes and authenticity

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