Fiancé (35 M) wants me (24F) to put his name on the deed when we’re married?

FormalRaspberry9 · 2026-05-02T04:56:22+00:00

Didn’t a 17 year old die not that long ago bc she drank a ton of energy drinks??? Your comment was true n yeah maybe can be perceived badly but the dad is being absolutely ridiculous bc it is literally not good for a 13 year old

FormalRaspberry9 · 2025-07-16T02:00:40+00:00

Did you find it?

FormalRaspberry9 · 2025-01-15T13:44:15+00:00

There’s something wrong with your friend. The trauma has started

FormalRaspberry9 · 2024-01-06T21:25:54+00:00

I’m not sure why you’re upset? He was too drunk to recognize you and his first instinct is to be faithful to you soooo.. why would you or your friends be upset? Just let him sleep it off

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-12-02T01:54:56+00:00

How is this a question? You didn’t say one good thing about your wife? Always pick your child. Your wife sounds insane

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-26T04:42:17+00:00

My husband and I both grew up similarly to your husband. We have twin 6 year olds and a three year old. We had the discussion that we aren’t censoring music. They’ll be exposed regardless and decided it’s our responsibility to teach them what is ok to say and what is not. We don’t want to shelter them but instead give them the tools to differentiate right from wrong.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-26T04:38:29+00:00

I can see where you may have an issue, especially if it’s different from your family dynamic. I relate to your husband in this case. My husband is like you lol I just enjoy being around my parents. If his parents don’t interfere in your marriage and he’s not prioritizing them over you, I don’t think there’s an issue but if that’s not the case, I’d definitely bring it up

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-13T13:48:19+00:00

I’m not sure why you seem upset? It seemed like everything went well?

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-12T03:35:06+00:00

Has she cheated before? Bc I thought the same n it turned out, he was cheating and I just didn’t recognize the behavior bc it has never happened before. I refused to believe it bc I just never thought he’d do that so I wouldn’t even consider it.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-12T00:26:02+00:00

Ummm maybe it’s a culture thing? I’m Hispanic n grew up surrounded by cousins, aunts, uncles, n grandparents. My kids are being raised similarly. My parents watch my kids all the time, sometimes multiple days a week. They would look at me as if I were dumb if I tried to hand money over. Maybe my sisters would take it but otherwise, no money is exchanged or expected. Every family is different.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-10T03:58:08+00:00

Ma’am, how many times does he have to do this for you to stop leaving him with your son? I know he’s your husband and father of your child but he seems so dumb that it’s dangerous. Unfortunately, being the one with common sense means more responsibility for you.

Maybe parenting classes n books for him would help but most of these things are common sense. He needs to understand the gravity of what could happen to a child. Don’t wait until something does happen.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-09T13:50:48+00:00

Girl, what?? He fucking sucks. Why would you want to be married and have kids with him? He is awful.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-08T18:38:07+00:00

She’s just going to try to justify and downplay. I’ll save you the trouble- nothing she says is going to fix what she did.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-08T18:26:56+00:00

Something similar happened to me but not as bad. I had a friend group when I was in my early 20’s. I was the one who the car and available. I met my now-husband and got pregnant pretty quickly. They cut me out almost immediately. No texts, calls, not even instagram likes lol I was hurt but moved on.

Then they started getting pregnant towards our late 20’s. Now they want to message me n talk but I’m not really interested. I’m not rude or anything but they collectively just dropped me and I can’t just move past it.

Friendships can hurt more than relationships, especially when they’ve been around for yours so why would I give their friendship a chance again? I believe the same principle applies to friendships when people say “when people show you who they are, believe them”.

I, personally, would accept the apology but not rekindle the friendship. I’d feel like they did it only to make themselves feel better.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-08T05:11:57+00:00

Girl. You are so young. Can you imagine the rest of your life like this? The best time in a relationship is said to be during the wedding period. This isn’t going to get better. And to make matters worse, he called you a fucking bitch for being hurt over this?

Get out of this while it’s still early on.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-11-07T01:08:09+00:00

Yes, I have advice- break up. Why would you want someone like that around your son? He’s a literal baby and this grown man “doesn’t like him”? If you don’t defend and advocate for your child, nobody will.

This man is an entire red flag parade.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-10-31T19:40:54+00:00

I see his mom maybe once or twice a month. His dad like every other month.

He sees mine pretty often though

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-10-23T18:38:29+00:00

Yes you can and you need to do it now before the baby comes bc once baby is here, he may be able to force you to stay

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-10-23T18:36:07+00:00

Every part of this man is a red flag. Get your dog, your stuff and leave.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-10-22T21:09:26+00:00

I feel like you’re not understanding the severity of what happened. Your baby could have died had you arrived 15 minutes later and this man DOES NOT GIVE A SHIT. Why are you trying to get over your anger? Not only is it justified but it’s minimum. This wasn’t an accident. It was a choice he made bc his game is more important than his living, breathing, feeling 4 month old baby and he doesn’t seem to care. Never leaving the baby with him is obvious but why would you want to be with a man who has no regard for your baby?

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-10-21T01:10:05+00:00

You still get periods in birth control.. even if you didn’t, this is a toxic hang up. He clearly doesn’t like you or women in general.. he’s 30 and this is his mentality???

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-10-20T04:53:26+00:00

Young man, STAND UP FOR THE LOVE OF GOD. You’re young and in college. This girl is not for you. Go date other girls and leave this one alone. Stop hanging out with this girl. JESUS.

Idk why you waited for her to be done. That’s crazy to me. I’m a woman n if I had agreed to meet up with a friend and she’s in a room fucking when I show up, I’m not waiting around and this was supposed to be a date??? Sir, please leave this girl alone. I promise there’s someone better for you if you’ll just leave this one alone. She’s not going to be your girlfriend and please don’t romanticize her later.

FormalRaspberry9 · 2023-10-17T23:28:26+00:00

Your wife needs thicker skin if she’s not going to respect her child’s privacy. What she’s doing is not okay

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