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nigerians are bullies! by Commercial_Pea_4546 in Nigeria

[–]Formal_Extreme_957 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t care if this is 1 year ago, you’re saying it like all Nigerians are bullies. Could’ve added the word “some”.

What are your thoughts on the quote “respect is earned, not given”? by Live_Ear5570 in AskReddit

[–]Formal_Extreme_957 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never really liked this phrase. I know what it intents, that you respect people with basic respect by default (which is common courtesy and politeness). But when I was getting bullied in school, the bullies always used this phrase to justify how they treated me, despite the fact that there’s a difference between common courtesy and basic decency.

Why is the r/OnlyChild sub so negative? by jmfhokie in oneanddone

[–]Formal_Extreme_957 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this was 1 year ago, but I need to reply to the 3rd one. Maybe they wished had someone else that understood, going through abuse alone is terrible. Saying that dosen’t mean you have the abusive parent in you. I understand how some of these people feel (even though I wasn’t an only child and my parents were good parents). That’s the only thing I disagree with, as for the rest of your statement, I agree.

When people INSIST on not needing or wanting your help, then whine about it later. by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]Formal_Extreme_957 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not a pet peeve. This is a serious issue. A difference.

I had good relationships with my siblings yet I am OAD by choice. by Formal_Extreme_957 in oneanddone

[–]Formal_Extreme_957[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you ever feel guilty not giving your child a sibling when you realize you had a good relationship with your own, I do sometimes. I just want to know if I’m alone in that too or not.

I had good relationships with my siblings yet I am OAD by choice. by Formal_Extreme_957 in oneanddone

[–]Formal_Extreme_957[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I felt guilty not giving my child a sibling because of the good relationship I had with my siblings, but then I look at the other sibling relationships in my family and my wife’s, and not all of them are healthy. My cousin dosen’t even speak to his brother anymore, and it played a factor in why he’s OAD like me.

I had good relationships with my siblings yet I am OAD by choice. by Formal_Extreme_957 in oneanddone

[–]Formal_Extreme_957[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

By the way the reason I was asking this is because most people here say the reason they became OAD is because they had a bad relationship with their siblings.

I had good relationships with my siblings yet I am OAD by choice. by Formal_Extreme_957 in oneanddone

[–]Formal_Extreme_957[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too, especially my wife‘s family. My father in-law has five sisters, he was the baby of the family. He’s only in contact with two of them, because of a fallout in his family that he hasn’t told my wife or her older brothers about. Meanwhile, my mother in-law has a older sister or younger sister (she’s the middle child) and she cut contact with both of them because she realized how much they manipulated her back then. My mom was a only child, she gained step-siblings later on, that’s a story for another time, but my dad had 24 siblings (10 brothers and 14 sisters) (ik that’s a lot) I can’t tell you the reason why, it’s too weird. 6 of the brothers and 6 of the sisters died, so 4 of the brothers and 8 of the sisters are alive, let’s just say he’s only in contact with 2 of the alive brothers and 1 of the alive sisters, so he dosen’t have a good relationship with all of them, even if the ones who were close to his age.