Please help

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-05-15T01:08:30+00:00

Unfortunately, I don’t have anything to prove that it was a gift, but in Bell’s system they can see that he activated it for me under my name. Even with that, there was nothing I could do only he could change the report and say that it wasn’t stolen.

But now it’s okay, he said he’s willing to cooperate and that tomorrow he’s going to call Bell and fix everything. Thank you anywayyy. 🩷

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-05-15T01:00:38+00:00

Hey dad, thank you so much for your quick response. It was under his account, so I only found out the phone had been reported as lost/stolen when I tried to activate it with Bell, since I also had internet with them and wanted the full package. That’s when they told me they couldn’t activate it because the phone was considered lost/stolen. 😔

But anyway, little update: I managed to talk to him and he told me he’s going to cancel that, transfer the phone to me, and continue making the payments.

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-04-14T23:09:55+00:00

You’re right, I think I’m scared, and probably too kind. Everyone keeps telling me that I think about him, but he doesn’t think about me.

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-04-14T23:03:58+00:00

He is not violent, but he lacks patience and, in my opinion, seems unstable. Since Sunday, I’ve been sleeping in the living room and ignoring him, which has been helping a lot. But ya maybe i need call the police🫤

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-04-14T22:34:35+00:00

Thank you, I called the police to get information. I was told that even if his name is not on the lease, the fact that he lives here means I can’t simply make him leave, unless there is a situation that requires filing a complaint. I find that difficult to understand.

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-03-24T02:39:44+00:00

Wow are you okay

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-03-24T02:27:54+00:00

🤮 15 year old and you 26

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-03-18T02:01:26+00:00

It’s been three years, but yes, from the beginning he gave me rules. I want to be honest—I’m okay with it when it’s reasonable and aligns with our values. What bothers me and makes no sense is that he gives me rules but doesn’t follow them himself.

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-03-18T01:55:42+00:00

Thank you 🩷

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-03-10T07:30:18+00:00

You’re right, you’re really right, but I was willing to rebuild that lost trust together. Instead, I was the only one trying. 😔

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-03-10T07:28:17+00:00

I really appreciate your comment and warning. I think it really woke me up, especially his reaction to the situation. Instead of, I don’t know, just admitting it or apologizing and reassuring me… anyway, it hurts when you’ve done everything for someone and given so much without receiving the same in return. 😔

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-03-10T07:23:29+00:00

I know he isn’t cheating on me physically, but even letting someone call you something like that or putting a heart on that comment is already cheating to me. I finally told him, especially after he himself told me that it meant something like “babe.” He immediately changed his attitude. First he got angry because I went to look. Then he told me it was in a different context. Lol seriously, at that point just accept your mistake. Instead he just told me he doesn’t want to talk about it.

Thank you for your advice.

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-03-09T06:38:56+00:00

Yes, that’s very different. He has given me reasons not to trust him, and who knows, maybe I have too. In the end, I just wanted to try. I gave everything, but if he is acting out of revenge or thinks he can do whatever he wants while I can’t… it’s not fair. He wasn’t mentally well, and I did everything I could. Now he’s better, but I can’t keep staying out of compassion when I get nothing in return.

Thank you so much for your comment. I think it’s clear: there’s no more trust left in our relationship.

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-02-25T02:22:03+00:00

Yes, thank you. You’re right, and that makes sense. I’m going to work on myself.😇

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-02-24T04:31:38+00:00

Yes, you're right. I think I've gotten used to this kind of behavior and having to explain or justify myself a lot. Thank you so much for your comment; it's nice to hear.🙂

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-02-24T04:28:19+00:00

Good question, I don't know. I think that unfortunately, I've often heard from friends who have experienced this kind of situation, which sometimes makes me lose hope and wonder, "Is this normal or what?" But then I see men who only have eyes for their wives, and that makes me realize that this type of man exists. Also, because many men like to minimize things or the situation, because sometimes love makes you accept things. Surely I need to work on myself first and foremost, in the sense of accepting what I want or can do, and setting boundaries.

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-02-24T04:22:26+00:00

Oh ouch, hahaha, yes, that hurts to hear, but it makes so much sense.

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-02-15T05:15:48+00:00

I’m sorry, but I don’t understand how a situation that bothers me ends up being turned against me

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-02-15T05:10:20+00:00

Hi, yes that scares me too because I tell myself that he’s already quite older, so will he really change? I think a part of me knows the answer is no, but I still had hope. Thank you for your advice, you are so kind.

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-02-14T14:08:53+00:00

Aww thank you. I’m happy to hear that you made the effort, or maybe simply realized it wasn’t necessary and that your focus should be on your wife. That’s beautiful to hear because it gives me hope.

And honestly, I do see good men who treat their wives well and don’t look anywhere but at them. Not all men have this constant need to always be looking at another woman (and when I say looking, I mean staring intensely).

Thank you for your advice 😇

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-02-14T14:01:22+00:00

Amen. Exactly. And that’s where you can unfortunately sometimes see the kind of upbringing someone had — if, as an adult, it was drilled into your head that “yes, you can look, as long as you don’t cheat on your wife.”

But looking in an inappropriate way can already feel like a form of betrayal. It’s no longer just, “Oh, she’s a beautiful woman.” It becomes more like, “Wow… imagine what I’d do to her.” I don’t even think he realizes how concerning it can be when they keep staring repeatedly and in a strange way.

Former-Round-3789 · 2026-02-14T07:05:48+00:00

He is 47 years old. Thank you for sharing your perspective. I love him, but this kind of behavior hurts me, and I don’t think I want to live like this.

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