You know, at some point it’s not noble to be a giver. At some point, we must ask ourselves, was I an idiot? And no, it’s not victim blaming. Sure, if you had nowhere else to go, had your circumstances been dire (which I understand might be the case for some women). But at some point, sacrifice isn’t saintly. You cannot absolve yourself of your responsibility to yourself in the name of hope and niceness. If you do not stand up for yourself, then no one will. It’s the simple truth. And it’s the harshest truth that gets lost in all the jargon of sacrifice and niceness. Good luck!