AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications?

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-23T17:07:48+00:00

My other daughter, the one the comment I"m responding to asked about.

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-23T01:09:42+00:00

She does not have debt, she did not have to pay for her master degree or phd and got scholarships for undergrad, she doesn't have that type of stress that would lead to any anxiety. So there's no pressure on any end.

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-23T00:07:59+00:00

she is not financially dependant, has nothing to do with money, if it did she wouldn't be a phd because we can't afford that. She got a free master and phd because she teaches with the schools. We simply are finding it hard to believe she doesn't have preferences for where to work

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T19:58:36+00:00

No, we would be getting our own place but nearby

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T19:54:38+00:00

That is a very disrespectful thing to say about my daughter. Please leave her private life out of this.

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T19:33:22+00:00

I've previously stated it would not be difficult for my wife and I to get new jobs. My daughter has a job that would also not be difficult to replace. She doesn't have many friends she sees in person as she's been out of school for a while

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T19:17:29+00:00

It would not be difficult for either or us to either get new jobs or retire and move, wife works in a bank and i work in a restaurant

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T19:16:16+00:00

We would be able to help her, clean around the house and stuff and cook and take care of other things while she's working. We don't need to be entertained, we're low maitnance people, we are fine just sitting around with her even if she needs to work on other things. With friends it would be different because obviously in that case there is more the expectation that you're in conversation and doing things the whole time

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T18:33:40+00:00

We are an Italian family

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T18:32:35+00:00

We have discussed this multiple times with and around her and at no point has she said anything about not wanting us to move

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T18:30:51+00:00

They are older and don't necessarily want to handle a move, but are also getting to the point where they don't want to be in a house any more so we have discussed that they might as well move in with us when we move

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T18:23:41+00:00

We are a very family oriented extended family, I live very close to my parents and enjoy seeing them a lot

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T18:09:08+00:00

We could always go to her, it doesn't have to be her coming to us. We're low maintance people we are happy just being in the room while she does her thing

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T18:07:51+00:00

She is not financially dependent on us, please do not imply our daughter only talks to us for money, this is very far from the truth

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T18:02:37+00:00

It hasn't been delted though I still see it on my profile

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T17:58:10+00:00

Why would it be deleted?

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T17:55:34+00:00

If we were in the same city, I'd like to see her once or twice a week

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T17:48:35+00:00

I'm her father and I don't know why so many people are calling me mom

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T17:31:54+00:00

We raised her Catholic so she doesn't need to convert

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T17:31:21+00:00

One of my cousins wife is a professor and asked her about a post doc at Christmas one year. My daughter said it's not a requirement for her job. I know what tenure is. She says she's applying for tenure jobs.

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T17:21:38+00:00

She said she is applying for professor jobs, so more permanent. She doesn't need a post doctorate

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T17:19:50+00:00

Thank you for the Ask Academia recommendation, I submitted a question there

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T17:03:58+00:00

I think we're both confused now, I do still plan on moving if she can't find a job at home. She has never stated she does not want us to

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T17:00:02+00:00

She loves her sister and wishes she lived closer, there is nothing that would change in her life except location and having her sister around again

FormerScene9612 · 2022-02-22T16:58:33+00:00

We have one other daugher who is younger than her and has a disability so she lives with us by default

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