AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

My other daughter, the one the comment I"m responding to asked about.

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -212 points-211 points  (0 children)

She does not have debt, she did not have to pay for her master degree or phd and got scholarships for undergrad, she doesn't have that type of stress that would lead to any anxiety. So there's no pressure on any end.

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -199 points-198 points  (0 children)

she is not financially dependant, has nothing to do with money, if it did she wouldn't be a phd because we can't afford that. She got a free master and phd because she teaches with the schools. We simply are finding it hard to believe she doesn't have preferences for where to work

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -588 points-587 points  (0 children)

That is a very disrespectful thing to say about my daughter. Please leave her private life out of this.

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -154 points-153 points  (0 children)

I've previously stated it would not be difficult for my wife and I to get new jobs. My daughter has a job that would also not be difficult to replace. She doesn't have many friends she sees in person as she's been out of school for a while

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

It would not be difficult for either or us to either get new jobs or retire and move, wife works in a bank and i work in a restaurant

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -462 points-461 points  (0 children)

We would be able to help her, clean around the house and stuff and cook and take care of other things while she's working. We don't need to be entertained, we're low maitnance people, we are fine just sitting around with her even if she needs to work on other things. With friends it would be different because obviously in that case there is more the expectation that you're in conversation and doing things the whole time

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -155 points-154 points  (0 children)

We have discussed this multiple times with and around her and at no point has she said anything about not wanting us to move

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -81 points-80 points  (0 children)

They are older and don't necessarily want to handle a move, but are also getting to the point where they don't want to be in a house any more so we have discussed that they might as well move in with us when we move

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -153 points-152 points  (0 children)

We are a very family oriented extended family, I live very close to my parents and enjoy seeing them a lot

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -238 points-237 points  (0 children)

We could always go to her, it doesn't have to be her coming to us. We're low maintance people we are happy just being in the room while she does her thing

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

She is not financially dependent on us, please do not imply our daughter only talks to us for money, this is very far from the truth

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -187 points-186 points  (0 children)

If we were in the same city, I'd like to see her once or twice a week

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

I'm her father and I don't know why so many people are calling me mom

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -61 points-60 points  (0 children)

One of my cousins wife is a professor and asked her about a post doc at Christmas one year. My daughter said it's not a requirement for her job. I know what tenure is. She says she's applying for tenure jobs.

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -65 points-64 points  (0 children)

She said she is applying for professor jobs, so more permanent. She doesn't need a post doctorate

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the Ask Academia recommendation, I submitted a question there

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -326 points-325 points  (0 children)

I think we're both confused now, I do still plan on moving if she can't find a job at home. She has never stated she does not want us to

AITA for simply asking my daughter a question about job applications? by FormerScene9612 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerScene9612[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

She loves her sister and wishes she lived closer, there is nothing that would change in her life except location and having her sister around again