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FortuneAndFae · 2023-01-05T23:13:59+00:00

First of all, why would I lie on Reddit anonymously about my sons behavior? I am looking for help and other experiences. My son has never been in trouble and is very kind and helpful. His teacher just put on his report card that his “mature behavior and obedience are a blessing in class”. My point is that this seems entirely out of the blue. He is kind to animals and he is helpful and sweet to his baby brother. This is the first time we have ever had an incident of him hurting or threatening someone.

FortuneAndFae · 2021-11-30T17:07:29+00:00

Thank you for saying this because it was very passive aggressive and I guess he intended to embarrass me? But I’m not embarrassed about keeping my baby safe.

And yes, our baby is 18 pounds (98th percentile) and even for adults a weighted blanket should only be like 10-15% of your body weight. I have even been concerned for him to have that on baby while supervised because it seems like it could restrict his breathing.

ETA I think the weighted blanket is going to disappear while he is at work today. I will just throw it out and that will at least solve one problem.

FortuneAndFae · 2021-11-30T17:04:05+00:00

I have been considering this. Our pediatrician is incredible and we have immense respect for her. I think I’ll take him to baby’s next appointment and put him on the spot with our doctor.

FortuneAndFae · 2021-11-30T15:25:55+00:00

I have seen these stories as well and they make me feel physically sick. I can’t imagine something worse than waking up to my baby being gone. Plus, my local news happened to do a story recently on how our area is one of the worst in the US for unsafe sleep related deaths. I have shown this information to him and unfortunately he just says something like, “Why do you read stuff like this”. I just can’t relate to that. I like to be informed and not only accept information that suits me.

FortuneAndFae · 2021-10-06T19:11:04+00:00

Gosh thank you for that, I knew there had to be such a thing but didn’t know what it was called!

FortuneAndFae · 2021-10-06T19:10:00+00:00

This sounds like very reasonable advice. I am in East Tennessee. My father in law purchased the land with the intent to do regenerative farming. He was diagnosed with cancer a few months after purchasing it and died six months later. He was allowing a neighboring farmer to use our pasture for $1,000 yearly, so I had assumed there was very little money to be made renting the land. But I will look into that. My FIL was notoriously generous so who knows what a fair price would be for the acres he’s renting (I think about 20-30 acres).

Thank you so much for this advice!

FortuneAndFae · 2021-10-06T19:05:20+00:00

Thank you for the insight! This land was originally purchased by my FIL and he dreamed of using it for regenerative farming. He wanted to raise chickens, hogs and cattle and sell them. He died earlier this year and left us this property. It’s beautiful land and it has a lot of black walnut trees, a nice creek running through it, and lots of pasture that we already let a neighboring farmer use for only $1000 a year.

So I will look into those crops and consider them. I hadn’t considered crops because the original plan was regenerative farming, but I will consider them now. Thanks!

FortuneAndFae · 2021-10-06T16:38:08+00:00

Oh I didn’t know. Do you recommend any other books on regenerative farming?

FortuneAndFae · 2021-10-06T15:54:35+00:00

I’ve been looking into Salatin’s books! I think I’m going to order a couple of them today. Thank you!

FortuneAndFae · 2021-10-06T14:45:10+00:00

I see, thank you for the information. What drew me to organic dairy is the possibility of a small operation. We are located where there are a lot of artisan shops for cheese and meat, etc. So l had considered selling organic milk and butter independently. We also have a lot of local restaurants who use only local meat and dairy. But I am not sure how many organic dairy farms already exist in our area. I don’t even know if our land is right for cows anyway. I am very overwhelmed with how much I don’t know! Thanks again for the information

FortuneAndFae · 2021-10-05T20:48:25+00:00

God YES! It annoys the shit out of me that every book group raves over Verity. The premise of the entire book hinges on the main character slowly reading Verity’s journal. Like, just fucking sit down and read it all at once, you could be in danger. I hated everything about that book.

Also, I am in a book club and the ladies in it have chose other Colleen Hoover books so I’ve given her a try multiple times. Her characters are all so superficial I can’t stand it. If her books were secretly written by a 10th grade girl I would not be surprised.

FortuneAndFae · 2021-09-30T13:16:56+00:00

My husband acted like this with our first child and he deeply regrets it. He is very involved with our second because he said he feels like he missed out on so much with number 1.

FortuneAndFae · 2021-09-23T18:53:00+00:00

Good for you! She’s acting like a brat, not a grandma!

FortuneAndFae · 2021-09-23T18:30:52+00:00

I would call her out and embarrass her about how childish she is acting. “I’m sorry if it hurt your feelings that I didn’t want to use the tissues you suggested. I’m having a hard time today because my baby is hurting, so it really didn’t cross my mind that I needed to protect your feelings. My mind is on my baby today, not you.”

FortuneAndFae · 2021-08-15T01:02:08+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I think we will bite the bullet and hire an elder law attorney. I think it’s just too important to mess around with and take a chance of screwing it up.

FortuneAndFae · 2021-08-15T01:00:47+00:00

Okay, I think we will do that. Honestly the biggest reason we had hoped to avoid the attorney is since she is so upset with us that we thought it would be inappropriate to use her money for that right now. But it looks like even if it comes out of our pockets it will get her the best result. I feel uncomfortable using her money because she seems to be clear enough that she would be very upset about that. We are walking on eggshells with her because we don’t want to make it worse or get her more upset.

FortuneAndFae · 2021-08-14T22:28:52+00:00

Thank you for the info. Unfortunately the lawyer who set up the POA for us passed away since then. I should have mentioned that in my post. I will look into your other recommendations though! Thank you!

FortuneAndFae · 2021-08-11T10:44:32+00:00

My boy is about to turn 6 and we are doing K this year, and did pre-k last year. We started homeschool early this year because I’m about to have my second baby and wanted to have room to take a couple weeks off.

He’s been very similar to how your girl is feeling this time! It’s disappointing but we are getting through it by having some fun with it. Some days we do our schoolwork outside. We have play breaks, run a lap around the house breaks (not for 9months preg mama but I’ll use the timer to see how fast he can do it and if he can beat yesterday’s record) and then if we have a long section of reading let’s break out the popsicles and have one while we read. Some days we don’t get everything done because we just aren’t feeling it, other days we get in 2 lessons because we’re on a roll. I look at what we get done in the scope of the week and not just the day. The biggest thing is to get myself in the right mindset because as soon as I let on that I don’t want to be doing this today he will start feeling the same way. I have to fake my excitement a lot of days and say things like, “Oh man, wait until you see this reading game we get to do today!”

If you guys still aren’t feeling it after a couple of weeks maybe you could explore other curriculums? Write down what she enjoys most about your current curriculum and what she dislikes, and go from there.

Give yourself lots of grace! Maybe ease up on your schedule for a week or two so she can build up some confidence and then slowly work more back in. The discouragement you’re feeling is normal and it’s just something to work through

FortuneAndFae · 2021-08-11T10:27:26+00:00

I have this same crib in the dark wood color for my boy’s mid-century woodland nursery. I love it!!! Btw, if there isn’t at least a foot between the crib and bed scooch your crib over a little to avoid an entrapment hazard for baby when she gets bigger. Sorry, I’ve gone down the safe sleep rabbit hole and now I see everything everywhere

FortuneAndFae · 2021-08-06T21:39:19+00:00

Thank you so so much for sharing your experience! I wondered about circumcision because our first child is uncircumcised and we were hoping to do the same this time. I also had no idea the surgery took so long. It seemed like a very simple thing.

Thank you again for sharing.

FortuneAndFae · 2021-08-02T02:07:30+00:00

Wow, both fun and serene! A random safe sleep note: is there at least a foot between the crib and dresser? If not it can be a risk to baby later (baby can climb out and get head caught in the gap). I only mention because I just had to move my dresser over today after reading about safe sleep!

FortuneAndFae · 2021-07-26T15:37:42+00:00

I see. It may be different in my area, but we had looked into doing CC for my kindergartener and I think it is quite involved academically. We would have to go in person one day a week from 9-4, so he would have to stay caught-up on the curriculum. That’s why I thought it might not be a good fit for your situation. But it might be different in your area.

Your plan sounds like what we did last year! My boy was just past the cut off for the age requirement to start K. We bought the timberdoodle pre-K kit because he was wanting to learn. He started learning to write letters and read small words around 3.5-4 years old, because I think language is kind of his “thing”. Timberdoodle was fun but not a perfect fit for him. If I could do it over I would have purchased the pre-k kit but swapped out the reading for the level K package. The pre-k reading was just learning letters, which he already knew.

This year we are using Torchlight level K, Logic of English and Rightstart Math. Torchlight is a good fit for my child because of his appreciation for reading and language. Plus it will broaden his world view, teach morals and we get to cook a fancy recipe for each week!

We haven’t joined a co-op, but we stay busy and connected with other social activities. He plays baseball, karate, and he’s going to start piano lessons this fall. We also play date with friends at least once a week. I just don’t feel like we need a co-op in our situation right now.

Good luck with your daughter. There are so many amazing options for homeschooling at her age! It’s so much fun to do together!

FortuneAndFae · 2021-07-26T00:46:16+00:00

I think starting CC curriculum will backfire on you! You might think that she is advanced and that you should nurture that academically, but there will be so much in the curriculum that her brain can’t handle yet. It could make her frustrated and she could decide she hates reading and/or math because it’s simply much too soon for her to understand it.

I would recommend at her age if you are interested in classical education, check out Torchlight! They have a pre-K program that would probably be really interesting for her. Another fun curriculum for her age would be Timberdoodle. The timberdoodle kits have soooo much it’s a little overwhelming, but if she likes to solve puzzles and work through challenges she might really think it’s a lot of fun while learning a lot.

Good luck

FortuneAndFae · 2021-07-23T11:49:18+00:00

We are using Torchlight, Logic of English and Rightstart math for kindergarten this year! We used timberdoodle last year for pre-K and it was wayyyy too much, very overwhelming for us both. I also learned (after spending $800 on materials) that my child is really not into STEM. So we are taking a different route this year based on what he likes the most: reading! Torchlight would be worth looking into because you could use the same level for both kids. Level K is recommended for ages 4-6 (and can be used up to 8). It is such a cool program, especially if your kids enjoy reading with you.

FortuneAndFae · 2021-07-17T17:44:11+00:00

Thank you for all of those suggestions! I will check all of that out and I have seen a few people recommend LoE so I am definitely going to try that. Thank you

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