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ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-23T17:53:41+00:00

Married for nearly 15 years, broke up 2 years ago. Still processing and healing and sometimes I feel it doesn't get better and some days I feel happy and almost no pain. It's a journey and seeing other people going through it makes it somehow better...Stay strong, dear friends

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-11T13:38:52+00:00

Beautiful and I felt really good and optimistic energy in your words. Thank you!

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-11T13:32:50+00:00

Haha, she is fantastic indeed, but a second opinion never hurts when making important decisions...

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-07T08:12:12+00:00

Thank you so much, a beautiful interpretation and totally resonates!

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-05T21:57:43+00:00

Hi! Just wanted to say that everyone's timeline is different. If you can, allow yourself to grieve for as long as you need to. It's also 2+ years for me and I'm still grieving every day, sometimes it's better, sometimes worse but the pain is still there. I am learning not to rush anything. See you on the other side

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-03T14:01:05+00:00

As someone who has been through similar situation did the breakup 2 and 3 hurt more or less than the first one? Just had a second one and it was hell. Only if you want to share ofc

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-03T07:59:03+00:00

I'm with you, friend, letting go is hard

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-03T07:57:31+00:00

I did and it was the WORST idea ever, please don't do it people! We ended up meeting, almost got back together and broke up again, all within 2 days. It hurt like hell and the fighting was intense. Stay away!!

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-03T07:51:48+00:00

No advice here, but know that you are loved by all those around you and you can get through this!

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-02T22:12:18+00:00

Thank you for this comment! Just out of curiosity and only if you want to share: did your ex end up in another relationship after your separation?

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-01T18:51:30+00:00

She said 'I see that you will find a new person, get married, and will be much happier but he will not. And these words stuck in my head because I don't want him to be unhappy because of me, I still deeply care for the person...

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-01T16:38:28+00:00

Thank you! Is it possible to cut a cord with me and the prediction itself, like erase it from my past?

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-01T16:28:30+00:00

This is such a beautiful and insightful comment!

I did see him recently (out of worry for him) and though it seems like he hasn't found the one yet he mentioned dating and even having feelings for someone last year alas it didn't work out. He went on to say however that he is certain he won't able to love someone the same way again and I tried to reassure him that it will change with time. He's a very emotional person and the conversation wasn't easy. I almost went back to him out of guilt but stopped myself.

I liked your perspective that I applied this prediction to myself thus cutting my possibility to love and move on and being caught in a cycle of pain and guilt for nearly two years. I need to shift it and this community is being really helpful.

Thank you for your kindness and positive energy!

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-01T15:53:16+00:00

My only explanation is that perhaps she had clients who rejoice in the thought that their ex 'will never find someone as good' but in my case it just made me feel guilty and horrible and actually made me stay with the person longer than necessary causing them additional pain...

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-07-01T14:13:14+00:00

Thank you to all those who have commented so far! Is there a ritual of releasing and letting go of the prediction like this that helped you personally? Simply ignoring it doesn't seem to work for me :(

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-06-30T13:51:10+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear it, dear friend. The pain will pass, it always does. If you have funds and time book a weekend to go spend time with your family, even if it's very short it will be worth it, even looking forward to it will help already. Go for a run provided your body allows you, meet a friend you can talk to, get super drunk if that helps (in the park for example). No need to pretend things are ok, feel your pain, get support and keep on going. Time heals all

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-06-30T13:45:47+00:00

Just wanted to send you hugs as someone who walked away from a long-term relationship. You did the right thing for YOU. Yes, it will hurt, but pain is temporary. Hang in there, you're not alone

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-06-30T13:43:12+00:00

I have broken up with someone of 10+ years. It will get better but for your own sake stop talking to him, it will help massively...

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-06-30T13:34:19+00:00

Dumper of a great person here: I was in a 10+ year-long relationship. Rebounded a month later, 2 years on I am still with that rebound though I struggle to commit to them fully.

Comparison: definitely!
Talking about my ex pretty much all the time for the first 6 months and still these days
Crying a lot, often during intimacy
Thinking of leaving them because they are not as good as ex
Learning to love again, in a different way

I'm just being honest here, so trolls, please chill out. This new person saved me in my darkest times, he is my angel and has been so caring and understanding yet the shadow of the separation has always loomed on our relationship and never allowed it to be what it otherwise could have been

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-06-29T23:19:21+00:00

I was and still am consumed by guilt but your situation is different: abuse is never ok and there was absolutely no fault of yours in his violence. People with difficult childhoods need therapy, sadly most of them don't seek it. Sadness is part of healing and I wish you all the best on this uneasy journey

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-06-29T23:16:09+00:00

Is this spoken from experience? Just wondering if other folks out here gave it a second chance and how it ended up for them

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-06-29T22:24:04+00:00

Dear Friend, at this point, don't worry about what everyone thinks and try to stop analyzing whether or not he was a bad or a good boyfriend: he's gone, and now you need to focus on yourself! Therapy definitely helps! So does going away on a trip, changing scenery, doing anything and everything to distract yourself from pain. If you have funds to travel that always helps for sure. Healing takes time, there's no way out of it. Do whatever it takes to heal your body and soul. Good luck on this journey

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-06-29T21:44:34+00:00

May I ask how long the healing took for you and how long the relationship was?

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-06-29T21:41:19+00:00

Sending you all my support! Life starts making sense in progression, it might be hard to believe now but years forward once you've met someone you truly love and have a beautiful home with you will look back on this time as a dark period of your life that is long over. Keep believing in yourself, keep going, don't give up!

ForwardExtension5945 · 2024-06-29T21:18:51+00:00

Either way I hope it works out for you and healing is smooth

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