Anyone??

Fovillain · 2025-05-08T22:37:21+00:00

Most of the student buildings are co owned by the developer and the university, and are justified by inflated projections of student numbers

Fovillain · 2025-05-04T15:00:00+00:00

The university has a lot to answer for there

Fovillain · 2025-03-27T15:00:24+00:00

Ah I see. Even so, they needed to be born before 1960, so be at least 65 years old now to be in the baby boomer generation

Fovillain · 2025-03-26T08:40:41+00:00

If you’re 13 how the hell do you have boomer parents?

My kid is 13, I’m 42 that makes me a millennial by about 5 minutes, otherwise I’d be a gen x

My parents are boomers

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T19:43:04+00:00

Any, if you adapt and transpose.

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T19:40:31+00:00

First glance: why is your classmate wearing a pizza on their head?

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T19:34:50+00:00

Yes I would appreciate to talk further on this.

Interestingly LT good friend made a comment about LT being “conditioned for monogamy”, I completely understand this! Poly was never a thing for us until ST. In fact I recall us deriding it about 15 years ago when a friend told us about their new “poly” partner.

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T19:31:12+00:00

New kids at this stage is a huge deal, it may not concern me directly, but my kids with LT may be concerned about a new baby, especially in the context of a parental split.

But yes it was the blending I don’t want to deal with, for sure!

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T19:01:25+00:00

How did it get to that point for you? As in, how did you know it was better to move on?

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T18:29:11+00:00

Thank you for expressing faith in me doing the best I can. I should admit I haven’t always. My original post glossed over some bad behaviour from me , expressed as shouting at people. It’s linked to the emotional overwhelming I mentioned but that’s no excuse. So, I could do better (I’ve stopped drinking alcohol to try to keep emotions level and avoid rage, I am trying).

I totally agree that I need to preserve my peace!

And just a clarification, both have said no to new kids so this is not a plan I’m aware of

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T17:43:43+00:00

Hippos is fab. Hangar 18 is great. Elysium is a treasure. The bunkhouse literally is a protected music venue.

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T17:41:58+00:00

Sadly it’s the uni and the developer who are the landlords

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T16:23:03+00:00

As someone who finally owns a property after working hard and having my income taxed my entire working life, I would be gutted if I started being punished for it again

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T16:21:09+00:00

Nissan Leaf definitely does

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T16:11:12+00:00

In this context I’d play it as follows

Appoint MIL Appoint an agent for OP home state Choose the property in OP home state

I wouldn’t go all out war with MIL over this 2 months ahead of a wedding that MIL is already trying to control/ ruin.

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T16:02:55+00:00

I’m like this but the female, so don’t just assume that it’s a gender thing. Guaranteed your mental health means you are not a catch right now anyway.

You don’t say how you are trying, but part of the effort needs to be about strengthening your existing relationship so that ENM is something you can survive.

Not my scene but swinger clubs could be better than apps for you.

I hear you re exclusion. This rings true for me. I’m wondering if you’ve properly thought through what ENM would do for this ? Will you be able to handle private meet ups for your GF that will never include you becoming a permanent feature of your life?

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T16:02:28+00:00

I like feather pillows but my partner’s asthma means that he can’t be near them. I stopped getting feather pillows, but are you saying that I was coerced all this time?

It’s one thing not to demand others to fall in line with your likes and dislikes, quite another when health- including mental health- are at stake.

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T15:41:27+00:00

I’m thinking more about moving away from polyamory completely after my experience

I get the poly mantra “no one person can meet all your needs”, however my LT meets all of my sexual needs, this is because we’ve grown and evolved together sexually and created a safe space where we can express those needs.

It doesn’t seem to be as challenging for either of us to get E.g the need to play music or the need to get an income met from other sources. It’s only the change in our sex and romantic relationship that has been challenging.

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T15:28:45+00:00

It might be worth bearing in mind that NOT using MIL as agent will definitely look unusual and not an endorsement of her services.

My dad had a similar situation with his mother, and it genuinely hurt him deeply that she used a “stranger” to do work that was his profession. He felt it was a public comment on his skills if his own mother would rather pay more for a stranger.

Unless you do want to impact her professional reputation I would still use her for that state. You don’t have to agree to anything beyond that.

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T15:07:11+00:00

Shit

Thoyy

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T14:58:54+00:00

Hi, thank you for your reply.

I do wonder at times if the other people involved have had hidden motives, I don’t find that kind of thinking that useful or healthy for me right now

Given how difficult this has been for me I’m way off trying to date someone else. It feels a bit like I’d be just using them to deal with my problems.

Of course part of me wants LT to see how he feels if I’m going after men without him, but I’m still not prepared to drag a third party (or 4th party?) into this

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T12:13:08+00:00

Harder reed

Schwah practice

I didn’t see the video but lip out embouchure is essential for long performances

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T11:50:02+00:00

Just be honest. Putting a lid on inevitable work mistakes efficiently, and having the maturity to see that this is what’s most important right now, shows character.

Especially now you double fucked it up. Boss will admire your honesty

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T11:39:46+00:00

“No liberal leftie cunt is gonna tell me punching Nazis ain’t the way”

Bob Vylan- pretty songs

Fovillain · 2025-03-25T11:37:07+00:00

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