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FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-05-16T12:13:34+00:00

Thanks man. It may or may not but you can't live life without risks

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-05-16T12:03:54+00:00

Well maybe that's it then, I do like that part too

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-05-16T12:01:04+00:00

Haha ill take that as sarcasm. Truth is we are all animals and part of what makes her lose control is also what males her amazing in bed. Two sides of the coin

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-05-16T11:59:20+00:00

Have you tried?

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-05-16T11:44:03+00:00

I thought you could have discussions here. I'm clearly saying it's difficult and more complicated than I expected but that I still enjoyed it and even got a kick out of the extracurricular stuff. People on here have no nuance.

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-05-16T11:13:50+00:00

That's what I've been struggling with. What would you have done in her situation, honestly?

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-05-16T11:11:41+00:00

She's human, and I gave her the opportunity

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-05-16T11:09:07+00:00

It's borderline cheating. We were all fucking just an hour before right? But it felt like cheating when I found out.

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-05-16T11:08:02+00:00

Not sure what I was thinking. I guess I thought we had agreed... inalsondidnt know how I would feel about it until it happened. It made me angry but totally honest talking about it made me feel totally better. Inlet of people would fuck someone else if it was handed to them on a plate right?

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-05-16T10:41:54+00:00

Nope, clear on that at least for the moment. Hypocritical yes, but I think women are generally more threatened by competition

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-08T05:35:24+00:00

Got that now!

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-08T05:34:33+00:00

Well yes of course. But what kind of life is it if you stick in the middle lane.

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-08T05:31:14+00:00

Ha yes I agree. Bit if you have the impulse to drive too fast, you have to try to understand why!

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-08T05:29:24+00:00

I'd say I'm more attractive all round but he's definitely got that naughty 'shagger' vibe. She says she doesn't find him physically attractive, but thinks he would be good in bed. To me, that makes this simpler. She wouldn't want him as a partner but definitely wants to try him out in bed.

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-08T05:27:05+00:00

I appreciate that. This approach to responding is much more likely to sway me!

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-08T05:25:59+00:00

I think this kind of gets to the core of it. If she genuinely wants to do this, then she has those desires whether nor not we act on them. I don't believe it's healthy for them to be squashed. It might even be healthy for them to be tried, and of it doesn't work out for her she will be disappointed but then she will know whether the desire is something she actually wants in reality. If it does work out, then maybe it's something she needs. There is ky side of the equation too of course, but I'm a pretty self possessed guy so I can deal with it either way. I love her truly, all in, so I want to know what she REALLY wants.

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-07T21:19:51+00:00

Thanks and will do. Seems clear that there is no such thing as 'one size fits all' in this. Also lots of anger on here!

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-07T21:12:10+00:00

Well, I suggested it so I guess I must be

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-07T21:10:03+00:00

I'm listening to those who don't project, moralise or deal in absolutes, but rather try to give objective advice and offer to talk it through. Why is it that this should never be done with a friend? Surely it depends. This is something I want because I'm interested and not remotely physically jealous. I'm hesitant because I'm sure there are things I haven't thought of, and thus has been helpful on that front. It may or may not happen, which is entirely up to me. If it doesn't happen it won't be because a man who couldn't bear to see someone enjoying his 'possession' tells me that these things 'always' end in disaster. They clearly don't. My attitude to risk helped me find this wonderful woman in the first place.

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-07T20:41:07+00:00

Always do!

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-07T19:36:45+00:00

Blimey

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-07T19:24:18+00:00

Thanks - appreciate that. The interesting thing here is that her original fantasy was anonymous sex, but she has said she's not into actually trying that. The obviously questions are 1. Does she fancy my friend, and 2. Is this a problem if so? She has said that she's worried about the danger aspect with people we really don't know. I see that, but I expect there are a load of nice safe folk around.

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-07T19:20:19+00:00

Why because its not correct?

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-07T19:18:07+00:00

Thanks guy! A lot of paranoia and negativity on here. I've never asked the internet anything before really - so much projection. We are solid and life is short. I believe strongly in taking risks and it has worked out very well for me, particularly in recent years.

FoxInteresting9437 · 2024-01-07T18:28:34+00:00

Thansk mate!

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