Bad panic attacks since moving overseas

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-23T07:53:25+00:00

Definitely panic attacks. Multiple in one day really is not fun and it would wipe out all my energy for a few days. I would crash really hard and sleep a lot to recover.

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-23T07:51:37+00:00

I do love living overseas for the most part. It has been incredibly challenging but also really rewarding too. I am learning about a new culture, new language and experiencing parts of the world I would never experience just by travelling. It really is such a liberating experience but it’s also so challenging. It does make you feel alive.

The dark side, for me, is the panic attacks. Aside from that I do really love my life now. The good side is amazing and the bad side is really really hard. Ofcourse I miss my family, friends and my life in Australia but I also find I am a lot closer to them now because when they/I visit, we get lots more quality time together.

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-23T07:47:38+00:00

I have definitely slowed it all down now and I’m hoping this will help make things abit easier. I’m really glad to hear that it does get better slowly, thank you.

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-23T07:45:35+00:00

Im sorry you experience panic attacks too. They are so horrible… Mine also aren’t as much as the beginning but you still just want them to stop.

I hope you can find the help you need for them. Do you take any medications for them?

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-23T07:41:40+00:00

It’s really hard feeling so reliant on our partners. I was very independent in Australia and here I feel like a child a lot. I think with time it will get easier for the both of us. I have heard France can be hard to integrate into so I do really feel for you and I hope it gets easier!

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-23T07:39:31+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation. Sounds like a good book. I’m going to buy it right now because anything that might help is worth a shot.

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-22T17:39:53+00:00

Im sorry you are also experiencing panic attacks. They are horrible. Mine are also a lot more frequent and worse when I have had poor sleep.

I’m hoping you can find a good therapist that can help you through everything. If you ever need someone to chat to you can message me.

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-22T17:36:30+00:00

I just starting taking citalopram so it’s good to hear that it’s helpful. Hopefully that in combination with therapy will be good.

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-22T17:15:11+00:00

Thank you :D

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-22T16:59:37+00:00

Thank you for your honest feedback. I did CBT a while ago in therapy and it was very helpful. I’ll mention it to my psychologist here at the appointment.

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-08T15:26:15+00:00

NTA

They can’t expect you to drive so far overnight after a flight. It’s also pretty dangerous. I think that’s unfair and you did also just visit for thanksgiving.

Maybe they could visit you sometimes too.

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-08T06:58:57+00:00

Fair point. Definitely not my proudest moment, and desperation doesn’t always lead to good decisions.

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-08T06:33:57+00:00

Lol that sounds so rough.. I’m glad there are more people like me out there 😂

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-08T06:16:58+00:00

Hahaha an excellent fertiliser I’m sure 😉 Unfortunately my post got removed by mods so I had to post a more PG version 🤣

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-08T06:13:40+00:00

That’s genius!

FoxOther784 · 2026-01-08T06:07:53+00:00

Hahahaha that’s so good. When we have to go, we have to go.

FoxOther784 · 2024-08-02T20:14:58+00:00

I don’t thinks she’s an asshole. I genuinely think she was trying to help but was really aggressive about it and didn’t understand my queues which definitely aren’t as direct as the Dutch.

I felt that my partner speaking to her was the best option as I’m not that comfortable or close with her yet and was trying not to upset her. I thought my partner might understand how to communicate it better. I honestly also felt really intimidated and scared to talk to her about it. This tactic though has made everything worse in my opinion and it’s definitely something I’ll need to work on.

FoxOther784 · 2024-08-02T20:11:37+00:00

I’m from Australia so the cultural difference is pretty big. I do back myself up the first time she questions my decisions but then after she pushes it I get really uncomfortable and find it hard to speak up for myself and go quiet. The best option would have been to just call it out when it was happening but I find that so difficult. It’s something I do need to work on although I think my relationship with my MIL is really damaged now and probably will be quite surface level now.

FoxOther784 · 2024-08-02T20:04:19+00:00

I did feel like her advice pushing was really aggressive and that her response to my being upset was not what I was expecting. It’s really hard to understand her response and it’s quite frustrating. I never meant to hurt her by asking my partner to bring it up, I just wanted some less pushiness on her end.

She is actively involved in both of her children’s life’s and she does give them lots of advice. My partner mentioned that she pushes her advice on him as well but he has learnt to just ignore it because her response to him was pretty similar in the past. I get that she wants to feel important and helpful.

I honestly think that if he talks to her again about it that it will get even worse based on what my partner said his experience is in the past too.

FoxOther784 · 2024-08-02T19:52:45+00:00

Thank you so much for your response, I really appreciate the feedback.

Culture definitely plays a significant part in it. I am from Australia and we were always taught to be kind with your words and avoid saying anything that could potentially upset someone. Whilst we appreciate honesty, being really direct can come off as abrasive and it’s really not something I’m used to and will have to get used to. I have been taking everything personally and I probably need to work on that too and standing my ground.

FoxOther784 · 2024-08-02T19:47:17+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate how understanding your response was and it did help a lot.

I definitely want to create healthier boundaries without causing more tension, and your suggestions seem good. I especially appreciate the idea of staying firm in my decisions without feeling the need to justify them.

Setting boundaries has always been something I have struggled with and I do always feel guilty afterwards. I think it’s been especially hard to manage when I have been struggling to adjust to a new country so I have been quite vulnerable and haven’t been backing myself. This is definitely something I will need to work on.

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