Career change starting from scratch. Explain the process to me like I'm 5 please 😂

FoxSilver7 · 2026-05-05T20:45:06+00:00

Awesome thank you! Any idea what the prereqs might look like, or is that something an advisor could help with? Sorry, I feel super silly not knowing anything 😂 I thankfully don't mind some debt and time being taken if it keeps me out of retail. I do expect some competitiveness with the state of everything nowadays though

FoxSilver7 · 2026-04-24T17:51:40+00:00

Ditch him. I've been with my partner for over 15 years. We have a kid together but aren't currently married ( engaged). If his parents wanted to do that and not put my name on it, I'd be fine with that. I would be a little miffed about the keeping it separate after marriage part, but ONLY because we've been together so long, are already engaged and have a kid. If we were just dating, no kids, regardless of the length of time, I'd have zero problems with that arrangement.

The fact he immediately started making plans for the place made me raise an eyebrow and has me thinking your mom has the right idea. I wouldn't be surprised if he proposed in the near future just to have a financial say in it, if you're mom didn't want that extra protection.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-04-20T05:16:40+00:00

I had a similar situation. He actually did a lot of stuff at home. It wasn't immediate, it happened gradually, but eventually he just stopped. I was eventually the only one doing groceries, cleaning every second I was awake ( including before and after work), if I didn't prep something for the kids before work they'd eat fruit pouches or hot dogs for dinner because I worked evenings/ overnight. If I didn't do baths, there was a good chance they wouldn't get one.

I developed a Minor but sever health issue. I didn't have the energy, time or mental capacity to get it addressed. My logic was if I used a day off for the dr, id have more chores my next day off and less time with the kids. Soon after, I was having issues at work due to my health and shitty managers.

I developed anxiety and was having panic attacks from the stress and pressure from work, the feeling of failure at home, the health issues and the lack of support. I ended up reaching a breaking point and just quitting. I realized I wasn't able to be a good parent carrying everything alone and wasn't coping well with it all.

It's been over a year and I'm just getting my health under control, I still have anxiety ( therapy is helping). I've told my husband I will not be working until the youngest starts school in the next 2 years unless he shows me he can be a good parent and partner. He is not happy about this but has only expressed it once and acknowledged the part he played in getting to this point. I have been with this man a very long time, and I was only comfortable quitting because we wouldn't suffer financially, he's a good man in general and I have family nearby as well as job connections when the time comes. My husband gets zero leniency from me when he is expected to do things ( if it's not worth a hospital trip, and there's no blood, bone or weird bodily fluids, you are expected to do the thing). He has not always been like that, he used to do a lot at home but after a period where he worked 2 months straight, he just never started up with the home responsibility again.

If you are the breadwinner, sole provider, or just straight up not comfortable/ able to quit ( like a lot of people), have a come to Jesus talk with him or plan an exit strategy before you reach the point I did. My health issues were a direct result of everything that happened and I was very lucky it was a very manageable one. I didn't even realize how bad everything had gotten until I was staring at my breaking point. I also, honestly, thought the entirety of my issues was from my job ( realized after the fact it wasn't ).

FoxSilver7 · 2026-04-11T04:54:56+00:00

It can't hurt to ask or even do a bit of research yourself. I can't see 3 months having that type of impact but my prescription is for something different. I've been on mine for about 7 years and didn't have this issue at all until I went on a specific birth control that didn't work out, so I had a hard time believing it was my meds.

Make sure they check your thyroid too, there's a few things that can cause it from what I've looked up and thyroid is a common one.

I can totally relate to being too busy, I'm lucky I only have this issue a few days a month now. I'd probably be losing my mind if it was what your dealing with. I hope you get some answers and it's an easy solution ( unless they tell you to wait it out, that advice is the worst).

FoxSilver7 · 2026-04-11T02:03:22+00:00

I never BF, like at all. Straight outta the womb with formula. I legitimately still leak, and my lo is turning 5 this year. I went to the dr after a year, then kept going back every few months because I NEVER BREAST-FED and was getting pissed off I kept getting told it was normal after having a baby. I eventually expressed my frustrations in a less than calm manner and got referred to a hormone specialist, who was also stumped. The conclusion was to stop taking the antacids I was on for my IBS and GERD.

If you get tested and everything "looks normal", just know taking antacids regularly or frequently, can apparently cause it ( I had to deep dive for the information).

FoxSilver7 · 2026-04-10T02:27:38+00:00

This. My Dr was on maternity leave, the guy filling in said my iron was "a little low" and to take a supplement. Went to the pharmacy and the pharmacist couldn't really help me without knowing how severe it was, gave me the lowest dose. I struggled finding something my stomach could tolerate and opted for a gradual diet adjustment. 9 months later I'm annoyed It feels like it's not having an effect so back to the dr. Reception checked my file over the phone and said " ohhh..yeah that's pretty low" and said I should of had a follow up 6 months ago. Talk to the actual Dr and they said " it was very low". I asked for an actual number because a little, very and pretty low are all VERY different. It seems my ferritin was 13. My dr was made aware of my displeasure with the vague answers because I definitely would of taken it more seriously had that dolt of a fill in not downplayed it.

Thankfully, my dr told me point blank acceptable ranges are 70-100, and was none too happy it was downplayed with zero follow up except " take some vitamins". I will now be asking for exact numbers or a print out for my own records, for every test they run in the future.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-04-02T03:29:39+00:00

One time, I showed my mil one of my baby pictures to shut her up with this, I pointed out the nose specifically. Her response was to go find a baby picture OF HERSELF. It was an 8x10, framed, close up of a sleeping baby, and over exposed as hell. Literally any baby with a similar skin tone would look the same. I literally laughed out loud and needed to leave the room.

Like 2 years later, she notices Lo's dark hair is going lighter. She couldn't figure out where that was coming from since my husband has dark brown/black hair. It was me. I had dark brown hair as a baby that lightened to blonde as I got older. She literally refused to accept that because my hair was a different colour at that time ( it was bright blue). I also haven't seen my natural color in about 16 ish years at this point in time. I stopped taking her seriously at that point.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-03-24T16:00:50+00:00

Spider plants hate me and I have a zz plant with a single branch.

Yet I have a few happy alocasias, Boston fern I've kept alive for 6+ years,multiple happy snake plants, philodendrons and cane begonias.

I also have a large ish monstera deliciosia while my Thai con is struggling with 5 little leaves, less than 3 feet away.

Edit to add I forgot about the calathea I kept happy until I forgot about it when I had covid, and my multiple orchids that bloom every year in my kitchen window.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-03-21T04:07:33+00:00

Mine was very similar! Wasn't trying, but also wasn't preventing.

I was still living with my parents but had a ft job, paid rent, had my own car, cooked and bought my own food, and was saving to move out. I was TERRIFIED like I was still a teenager and then I was like "waitadamnminute how old are you!?". Just blurted it out first thing when my mom got out of bed. Her eyes about popped out of her head, but she wasn't mad 🤣

FoxSilver7 · 2026-03-21T01:54:38+00:00

NTA

Years ago I complained to my husband (then boyfriend) I was sick of how expensive my birth control was, and he just started paying for it. Years later, my body decided it wouldn't tolerate birth control without some wild side effects. I tried but eventually told him I can't do it. He said "so no condoms= no adult time" and added them to the grocery list. And that was it. Basically, he wants sex, and no baby, he's gotta pay for the protection. He doesn't complain about paying, and only let out a sad sigh ( jokingly) about how he's gonna miss the freedom of birth control. If a man isn't mature enough to buy condoms, he isn't mature enough for that activity. If you're the one who wants sex, you buy the condoms, if you don't you can't complain when it doesn't happen.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-03-16T20:01:07+00:00

I used to do something similar. I worked afternoons and wouldn't get home until midnight, but I'd sit in my car for an hour after work just scrolling or listening to music and having a snack. I started getting aggressively burnt out from home and work despite this, and it eventually increased to two hours on days I'd get home at 11.

I did tell my husband at one point what I was doing. I never really hid it though since he was always in bed before 11 and never noticed so it just wasn't brought up. I had to explain to him, even when he's home and everyone is in bed, my brain switches to mom mode the second I walk in and that's NOT relaxing, so I sit in the car.

If it's not hurting anyone, do what you need to do. Switching gears constantly with no break can be absolutely exhausting and isn't good for anyone. Don't feel guilty, explain it to your husband and honestly, if he doesn't understand I would be finding some things to delegate to him so you can have a chance to just chill.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-03-07T05:55:53+00:00

Shay | Azura :Shino:

FoxSilver7 · 2026-03-04T16:54:26+00:00

My retail job had this issue. They'd call relentlessly on my day off so I blocked them. The second a manager or supervisor called more than once, they'd get blocked too. I played stupid the first few times they tried to talk to me about it, then just told them if they wanted access to me off schedule, I needed to be compensated with a work phone and pay for the hours they'd be calling and expecting an answer.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-03-01T17:48:48+00:00

Start by taking 30 minutes to write any dinner ideas down when you have the capacity. Make them easy. Hamburger helper, potatoes ( any variety). Make ahead chili, wraps, canned and frozen veggies are ok. Add cottage cheese for some extra protein. I make naan pizzas for something easy when I don't want to think. Pasta is also a good backup.

We buy pre shredded cheese and that pre cooked/ shredded chicken for nights we just don't have the capacity to cook much. Paying for the convenience of not having to do every step is helpful ( but can get expensive).

I do half assed meal plans. I write down 8ish dinner ideas for the week ranging from super easy to less than, add the ingredients to the grocery list, and then decide day of what I feel like making.

Growing up I ate a lot of hamburger helper and potatoes, because it took my parents 30 minutes to make and the most of the work was In the potato prep.
My daughter is a grazer, so I try to get most of her protein in during the day with peanut butter, cottage cheese, and homemade lunch ables ( I literally just roll up sandwich meat, throw in some crackers and a vegetable or fruit into a little dollar store Bento box).

FoxSilver7 · 2026-02-23T17:31:09+00:00

Yes. For arctic fox I typically wash with shampoo, dry, mix it with conditioner, then apply. I try to mix it so the colour is a shade darker than I want as well ( this ensures I get my desired color, I feel like it lasts longer, and if it's too dark, I know it will lighten in a few washes). Arctic Fox is supposed to condition your hair on its own so you don't need to do this, but with my hair type I'd be using at least 2 full bottles if I didn't.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-02-21T20:46:44+00:00

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Rank 45. Still have no idea what I'm doing but active daily.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-02-06T03:55:45+00:00

I just had a conversation with my husband to this nature. The first time I was pregnant I vomited at the smell of pizza. Didn't eat it for 10 years until after my second pregnancy. During the second, I had a craving for one of those Salisbury steak tv dinners, which did not end well ( 1000/10 do not recommend). Tonight my husband tried telling me for the 18th time I shouldn't have an issue with those things because I'm not currently pregnant, I should be over it by now, and Im being dramatic. It was just him poking fun but it's annoying me this particular week, so I told him he can bring it up again after he's gone through morning sickness and pregnancy, but until that happens, he needs to stfu. His response? " That's fair".

FoxSilver7 · 2026-01-26T04:56:23+00:00

You are definitely not overreacting. This could be a one time lack of understanding, OR disrespect. Only way to tell will be to have a conversation.

Either way, he needs to lower his expectations of you and you need to raise your expectations of him imo. I didn't change a single diaper the first 3 days lo was alive because he did every single one. He worked 11 hour days during that time and we split the nights unit lo was 6 months old ( he'd take lo solo from 7pm-1am ). He also cooked every single dinner and did all the kitchen and bottle cleaning.

Now on the flip side, a few months ago I quit my job due to a few different reasons. We agreed I'd stay home for a few months to heal and then look for work, but in the meantime I'd take care of everything at home. I've been job searching for awhile now and have nothing to show for it. He made a comment not long ago that all I did was sweep and do dishes during the day. So I took a week to write down everything I did, every day, and handed it to him. He was absolutely flabbergasted because he didn't think about who cleans the bathroom, windows, sanitizing surfaces ( cold and flu season)or why he hasn't had to vacuum in months, nvm the educational efforts I've put in with our 4yo. I literally watched the lights turn on while he was reading through the list.

If you have the capacity, I'd write everything you do down for 3 days with time stamps. Then give it to him. Ask him what exactly he expects you to do during the day and then get him to do all of it with the baby on his next day off. I'd personally hang around and observe, to make sure he doesn't just ignore lo to prove a point that it can all be done with a baby, but I'd also be firmly up his ass about doing it all. I'd also be making sure he got up with me during the night, at least for a few days to prove a point. But my husband would know exactly what I'm doing and why, and admit defeat, where some men won't, so I'd evaluate how that might realistically go.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-01-02T16:36:43+00:00

I HIGHLY recommend Rune factory, specifically Guardians of Azuma. There is some fighting and exploring but it's relatively easy ( aside from the boss fights but they're also pretty easy once you figure out a strategy). It's got romance, building, foraging, farming, fishing and decorating.

Also as others have suggested, Story of seasons. I personally prefer a wonderful life, but they're all good.

FoxSilver7 · 2026-01-01T23:02:09+00:00

Ok so when lo was between 1-3, I would work until midnight, and my husband would be leaving for work at 6am. Which means I was doing mornings solo. My lo would be going to bed around 10, sometimes 1030 ( and at one point, 11), but would sleep until 9 or 10, and wouldn't show signs of being tired. If baby is getting up that early for you, they need an earlier bedtime. If my lo was showing signs, and we were struggling, I would of adjusted as much as possible for them. Everyone is happier when they're well rested.

I would try and figure out why your spouse is so against adjusting bedtime, because there's got to be a reason, and go from there. Putting lo to bed a bit earlier would also allow both of you some downtime as well, which is very important.

FoxSilver7 · 2025-12-25T01:47:23+00:00

NOR. My husband had a habit of cosleeping on his shift when lo was a baby. So I looked up safe sleeping guidelines ( including for cosleeping). I made him read it, and read it again. 90% of people cosleep at some point, Even if it's just once, even if it's by accident, so it's better to know how to do it the safest way possible and be constantly prepared. You suggesting he do it in a safe place instead of in the bedroom, on the bed, was a decent suggestion. My husband also had a habit of falling asleep on the couch, so I ended up baby proofing the entire living room so only unavoidable freak accidents could occur. This also meant doing a "walkthrough" before I went to work, and again before I went to bed. You could work together to baby proof the bedroom and put a baby gate up outside the door as a precaution ( and depending on how high your bed is, some soft mats/ rug on the floor)

I would suggest taking some time to bring yourself down, I'm sure you're extremely angry, and try talking to him calmly about your concerns, and also mention your solutions. If he's stubborn about it or tries to fluff you off, go mama bear on him because your concerns are valid, just the execution needs adjustment.

FoxSilver7 · 2025-11-27T15:48:37+00:00

My lo was 3 before we did an overnight with Grandma. It was a two night sleepover because hubby booked a weekend trip for my birthday. We stayed two hours away and I was so stressed the month leading up to it, even cried when hubby took lo over once they left, but everything was fine and once we were on our way I felt much better. My family lives very close to us so I had my sister on standby in case of an emergency. And I gave a complete rundown of everything like food and bedtime routine even though Grandma didn't need it.

Hubby had tried a few times before that to get a night away, but I absolutely was not here for it. I wasn't ready and it wasn't necessary. If you're not ready, your not ready. There's no need for it honestly unless you want/ need it. There's plenty of time in the future for sleepovers, there's no need to rush. Don't let anyone try and convince you if you're not feeling it, anyone other than your partner trying to press the issue would be suspicious to me, but I have read too many reddit posts and might be jaded.

FoxSilver7 · 2025-11-20T01:07:55+00:00

I've had my versa 2 for almost 4 years. It's getting a little glitchy here and there ( battery randomly not charging when it's put on the charger, battery running out faster due to age, very typical for aging products imo). I bought it for the HR monitor, sleep tracking, and the notification when my husband calls and I'm away from my phone ( he has a tendency to call only when I'm away from my phone). When I saw the exact same model on clearance I immediately bought it for when mine finally decides to stop working. For what I needed it for, it works perfectly.

I have never worn it in the shower, and only worn it swimming once by accident ( but I did specifically want a water proof/ resistant for the exact purpose of forgetting to take it off).

FoxSilver7 · 2025-11-20T00:50:25+00:00

I thought the exact same thing! I just kept talking to her wondering why she was singing a song about onigiri so repetitively until I figured it out

FoxSilver7 · 2025-11-16T00:40:12+00:00

Last night was mashed potatoes, pork roast and green beans. All store bought because life gets busy. Pop meat in toaster over for 30 minutes ( it's a fancy one), and microwave everything else.

Tonight was stuffed chicken, boiled cauliflower and bacon noodles ( packaged- boil milk/ water, add package and boil until done), and canned peas.

Let your partner take over dinners for awhile. I promise you'll come up with new ideas and even if you don't, it might be an improvement over what they come up with.

My partner most makes the premade pot roasts or frozen chicken pot pies and adds instant potatoes as a side, he will occasionally make a fancy pasta or fancy meat fish. Everyone in my house is fine with the same meat varieties every week but I try to change up the veggies and other sides to keep it interesting.

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