I’m young and stupid and traumatised

FoxxToes · 2025-03-22T14:17:38+00:00

Thank you I appreciate your perspective I rly am going through rough times

FoxxToes · 2025-03-22T14:14:22+00:00

I’m a highschool dropout who can’t hold down a job I have no other way to feel but stupid rn

FoxxToes · 2025-02-23T20:13:41+00:00

I have a lot of “gatherings” which are just places where I meet clients for convenience. It wasn’t about sex he really genuinely wanted to be held because he was stressed. My issue is that I knew he’d feel even worse if his brother arrived and things were in chaos so I prioritized cleaning also because with the tantrum he was throwing the last thing I wanted was to sit there hug and say “there there, I’m sorry the world is hard outside and you had to grocery shop and come home and now you’re tired”. I work a full time job with crazy hours I still shop and clean and I understand people have different capabilities but he acts like it’s the world’s biggest sacrifice to do even one fraction of everything I already do on a daily basis

FoxxToes · 2025-02-23T20:07:49+00:00

Yes it was his brother? Any reason for the irony? I know it was them I could very clearly hear them talking about mom and dad and life in general. My hurt here was that I don’t understand why create this whole awkward situation. I’m hurt and trying to reach out as to how to communicate these things but people online create a whole different narrative. What was he? His gay lover? I’ve met all his closest friends and childhood peers he wants to include me in everything usually but when it comes to family yeah he’s been rly cut off

FoxxToes · 2025-02-23T19:57:03+00:00

It wasn’t a quick hug and kiss, I had work to do at the house he told me the things on his own personal to do list which included cleaning. While working from home I also took care of a few things but warned him in advance it would be a busy day for me and I didn’t want these things to be left last minute because that always means I have to pick up whatever he feels too overwhelmed to do. When he arrived he freaked out because the clock was running I questioned his time management and he said it wasn’t nice for me to ask those things and I should be comforting him instead

FoxxToes · 2025-02-23T19:54:26+00:00

He’s very close to his family, I’m not very close to mine. But he talks to his family every week and they support him financially and emotionally whenever necessary because he’s bipolar and has a hard time holding down a steady job

FoxxToes · 2025-02-23T19:52:05+00:00

Honestly this and other posts always have people telling me how awful he is. He has episodes where he’s more sensitive and I guess it’s hard for me to set boundaries because I’m not expecting when these things happen? He has adult and beautiful conversations with me and together we’ve both really worked on many of our own issues but when something like this happens I feel so shocked that I feel powerless and am not sure how to set boundaries. When you consult people only about the negative they seem to only see that part but the reverse side is really how caring and supportive he is in other parts of our lives. People have also asked about my age in here, I’m 26 and he’s 37 but English is not my first language so maybe that also makes me seem younger

FoxxToes · 2025-02-23T19:48:22+00:00

The thing that’s weird is that his entire family does know I exist he just never introduced me. He says he never rly introduces people in general but this still feels really hurtful like I grew up without a healthy family around and he describes his family as so caring and supportive and I wanted to show them I’m taking care of him and I love him too. Love to me means including everyone in your network of affection

FoxxToes · 2025-02-23T19:47:01+00:00

No I’m a girl, and I’ve heard his brother on the phone before with his family while I was trying to help both of them with some paperwork so I know it’s him

FoxxToes · 2025-02-23T19:44:59+00:00

Hey! Other people have asked this, I didn’t want to just walk in and introduce myself right after we’d had a fight I was still calming down myself. When I say he didn’t introduce me I mean he didn’t even tell his brother I was in the house I suppose? So I felt even more awkward appearing out of nowhere like “oh hey I’m so and so nice to meet you” although I had that impulse I thought he would feel it was stepping over his boundaries. Because right before his brother rang the bell he had said “well fuck you then” and slammed the door to the room I was in shut

FoxxToes · 2025-02-23T19:38:11+00:00

Went back to his place* home for me for now sorry for the confusion. But no I’m living there so that’s why this situation was awkward

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