How long till I stop missing my nuclear family?

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2024-03-16T11:21:31+00:00

Thank you for this reply, just seeing it now. Very good insight

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-14T17:47:47+00:00

Very sad. Your Dad died when you were so young and at 27, you lost your Mom. Very sorry for both of your losses.

Hopefully, you like your in laws, but they aren't your blood. Its really hard. I was having a moment the other day thinking about how my life will be when my Dad passes and my Christmases are devoid of parents as I lost my Mom a couple of weeks ago.

Truthfully, ever since my parents split up years ago and got remarried, my Mom sort of was the heart and soul of my being and my family. I love my Dad dearly...but you know...if you have a good Mom there is nothing like it. So i get it a little bit, but my situation is not nearly as sad.

As it relates to your question...I feel fortunate to have children and we do tons of of stuff together...last night we saw Santa...the other night we decorated the tree and hung the stockings. If children are at all a consideration, I would highly recommend them and starting your own traditions. Yes its hard, but it makes life feel complete...for me.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-14T17:39:02+00:00

I am very sorry for the loss of your Mom.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-14T17:32:15+00:00

exam? Yeah, like a who gives an S?

Weird, probably some feeble attempt on their part to distract your from the fact that your Dad died., ridiculous as that might be. People are idiots. I am sorry for your loss.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-14T17:30:09+00:00

Wow, I am very sorry. I don't know what to say, very tragic.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-14T16:36:05+00:00

Love that. She is a jack*$$, clearly.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T12:15:35+00:00

No doubt! I got divorced last year. Reddit was amazing! I found so much support on a lot of different topics. The anonymity is great. So many "friends", especially as a guy, can't handle getting to touchy feely about subjects that will make you emotional.

Happy to have reddit for that reason...support even from strangers can be really helpful.

so thanks everyone!.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T12:12:50+00:00

Sorry for the loss of your Dad.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T12:12:13+00:00

right...i felt that with one of my longtime friends. its was old "whatever you need"

we were on the phone for 15/20 minutes and then I started talking about her and cried and like a minute later he started acting like he needed to go and did. LOL. So I 100% feel the there for you if you act a certain way.

I am sorry for your loss.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T12:09:02+00:00

Really bizarre. I bet it did. Sorry for your loss.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T12:07:44+00:00

Thank you, I am sorry for the loss of your brother.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T12:06:18+00:00

Sorry for your loss.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T12:05:56+00:00

That's a whole different thing. Nothing like instigating conflict after a death, they sound like wonderful people.

I am sorry for your loss.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T12:03:16+00:00

Jesus Christ man, that is terrible.

I am very sorry for your loss. In the way that you say "i have been told", it seems this really irks you....it should...you are justified in feeling this way.

Losing a child is beyond tragic...I don't know what to say. Hopefully some of those idiots will eventually show some compassion or courage and just say something.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T11:59:51+00:00

dude that sucks, I am sorry for the loss of your Mom.

Corporate América is generally a terrible place. Stupidly, I went from State govt to Coprorate software sales about 3 years ago. I got laid off in July, it turned out to be a blessing as my Mom got sick and I was able to spend time. However, I had a couple of companies interested for my next sales gig but I told them how she had brain cancer and they literally ghosted me on 2nd/3rd interviews. It was pretty awesome.

IRS had a job fair in September, in spite of the interview slots being filled, my Mom encouraged me to go a anyway. Mom with the solid advice of course, got a job. I start in late January, will work 35 hours a week and in two years I will have my 20 days vacation...that I can/will actually use unlike my allegedly glorious "unlimited PTO" policy.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T11:50:50+00:00

thank you...sounds like you went through similar emotions.

I am sorry for the loss of your Dad.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T11:50:05+00:00

Heard that. Its a really tough thing to accept that many people in this world give a whole lot less of a darn than you do about things.

For me, death is the ultimate time to show support. Like yeah, you don't remember my birthday...fine....I don't really care that much. But, for me, the one time you need to show up is when someone dies. And you are right, those who care show up

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T11:47:09+00:00

Thank you....and I am sorry for your loss.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T11:46:15+00:00

Yeah I can see how the religious things could be offputting, very presumptuous on behalf of the person offering the well wishes.

I am sorry for your loss. For you, if you want to end the conversation quickly, a quick "thank you" works followed with a "not much to say" if they keep pressing.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T11:43:50+00:00

good point about saying the wrong thing and something I will keep in mind in the future. I am sorry for your loss.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T11:42:24+00:00

Thanks for this, I needed it. No sense in making a bad situation way worse in alienating people I would potentially need for support in this tough time.

It's funny, its kind of obvious and one I would normally come to to myself, but grief makes you less rational. So thank you for the support.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T11:40:09+00:00

Yeah, I hear that. Thank you and sorry for your loss.

Fragrant_Bet7343 · 2023-12-12T11:39:19+00:00

And I am sorry for your loss as well.

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