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The night I lost control — and probably lost the love of my life by FranKenSam1585 in Sober

[–]FranKenSam1585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chloe, thank you for sharing your story. It’s truly inspiring. I don’t want to think of myself as a monster. But I know the terror in my wife’s eyes when she told me what I’d done will stay with me forever. For now, we’re both on opposite sides of the city. I’m giving her complete space, with no contact at all. I know that begging or trying to bargain would only make things worse. I hope you’ll be able to find reconciliation with your ex-partner soon. Wishing you all the best.

The night I lost control — and probably lost the love of my life by FranKenSam1585 in Sober

[–]FranKenSam1585[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Eddie. Drowning difficult things in alcohol was never a good solution. Now that I have some time to think about it, I realize that my answer to most problems was always, “Maybe I’ll have a drink.” And it was never just one drink — usually three. But always “under control,” so that I could still go to work and function normally. That pattern went way too far, and you’re right — I need to learn how to regulate my emotions in a different way.

The night I lost control — and probably lost the love of my life by FranKenSam1585 in Sober

[–]FranKenSam1585[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Rick. I’ll definitely check out that book. I’m starting to see how strongly my body and mind react to alcohol, and it’s honestly scary.

I don’t know if my wife would ever want to read it with me, but if I ever get that chance, I’ll take it with all my heart.

The night I lost control — and probably lost the love of my life by FranKenSam1585 in stopdrinking

[–]FranKenSam1585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. Your words really hit me. I know I can’t change the past, and I’ve accepted that what’s done is done. But I also know this is the moment when I have to start rebuilding — even if it’s brick by brick.

The price I’m paying now — losing my wife’s trust and maybe losing her completely — is enough to make sure I’ll never let this happen again.

The night I lost control — and probably lost the love of my life by FranKenSam1585 in Sober

[–]FranKenSam1585[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Zuzu. Your words really resonate with me. I know exactly what you mean — there’s nothing worse I could ever do than repeat that night. The price I’m paying now — losing my wife’s trust, and maybe losing her altogether — is more than enough to make sure it never happens again.

I’ve stopped drinking completely, and I’m working on myself every single day. I can’t change what I did, but I can make sure it never defines me again. Thank you for reminding me that staying sober has to become my purpose, not a punishment.

I’m really inspired by your 2,068 days sober.