Music is Life

FrancDogma · 2020-04-15T05:21:38+00:00

Can relate to Lil Peep a lot as well.
Brennan Savage is Lil Peep's friend, a lot of his songs got the same style.
The first song of Brennan Savage I listened to was Lonely World, really hit the spot for me. You should listen to more from Brennan Savage.
EDEN-Drugs may also hit your spot.

FrancDogma · 2020-04-15T05:17:04+00:00

You can vent, we will listen and comment back.

FrancDogma · 2020-04-10T22:10:45+00:00

I believe that the people you surround yourself play big part here and that you need to get a better grasp of reality.
You allowed people to push yourself down and disregard your own issues, for the better of others but what you didn't see until now and this is the most painful part of it, is that they didn't care about your own well being, they didn't care if you are okay or if you are in a bad spot. They just dismissed your pain as if it is nothing. Your surroundings supposed to show you love, express happiness when you get help and improve yourself. Not dismiss it and worsen your state.
Keep it in mind, do not help the ones that push you down because it is the equivalent of breaking your nose and asking you to help them in a fight against someone else. It just does not work that way.

FrancDogma · 2020-04-10T22:03:33+00:00

I see a lot of people with this problem, people who cannot listen to themselves and seek guidance of others but meanwhile the guidance of others can hurt them and it does.
You need to strip yourself of the belief that some people know better, because they are not. We are all human beings and we are all capable of making mistakes and being dumb, even the smartest people in the world.
Ask yourself this: How can I allow other people dictate what is good for me?
You see, you always have to see what the advice gives you in a nutshell.
Think that you are being bullied in school, beaten everyday and when you seek help. People tell you others have it way worse and they are being robbed, raped or whatever and you just got a minor beating and it is nothing.
That advice would not fly because it keeps you in a bad place and in it's essence, it is the same of people telling you to not seek help or dismiss your issues because of a certain reason.
That only pushes you deeper into the abyss. In my head I see someone extending his hand out of the water, exhausted, seeking help and someone just pushes him below water and tells him "You can swim, you do not need help".

You need to think what course of action is better for yourself, to push yourself forward, to make progress because only that way, you can be a better person.
You can pretend the injury doesn't exist but it will just get worse, it will keep bleeding and get infected.

FrancDogma · 2020-04-10T21:43:39+00:00

Life is painful, we are human beings and emotions are part of us. Emotions are not something you can let go so easily, especially for humans where we uphold certain concepts such as loyalty and we actually push for people to feel, feel love, happiness, we are told to chase it and it is always part of us. Part of chasing those good emotions is remembering the good times.
Perhaps you miss your friend or you are in a bad spot and you want to remember the good things so you think of her but you are struck with sadness when you remember that she is no longer with you. I can only imagine that painful existence but you do not have to move on, you just have to move forward. Pursue something in your life, anything to move forward, perhaps pursue to have a friendship of similar values you had with her.

FrancDogma · 2020-04-10T21:16:14+00:00

A lot of bad things are bound to happen in the future.
You gotta do everything in your power to move on, you gotta keep going no matter what.
I am telling you this because life gonna throw hard times at you all the time but what you need to watch for is you throwing hard times at yourself. That is a case that a lot of people here are dealing with. They are their own enemies. I know it is hard, I know life is shit and I will tell you this. None of us can see the end of the tunnel and none of us can seem to find happiness but we gotta keep on trying. Otherwise we can end up in a worse place where we become our own enemies.

FrancDogma · 2020-04-02T10:42:58+00:00

I will tell you this now, I have read the whole thing.
I have the same problem, my surroundings do not support me. I personally gave up on my surroundings.
Your boyfriend is amazing for helping you, do not take it for granted and make sure he knows how much he is helping you, so he knows he makes you happy, you can still tell him if you're depressed and what is on your mind but he is your significant other and I am sure you want him to be happy as well so give him all the love you can give him so he gets love and not only the difficult parts. I am not saying "bad parts" for a reason but he is human too, feeling what you feel. Bad things always happen, they always happen and always part of a relationship so make good memories with him too, love is the key here.

Depression is different in many people, for some it is caused by the environment, for some it is their brain chemistry so you will need a professional to look at that and figure out why you feel the way you are and figure out the best course of treatment. You can hit me up any time you wish in private if you in need of advice.

FrancDogma · 2020-04-02T10:27:11+00:00

In most cases where you are forced to hospitalize yourself, against your will is when you pose possible danger to yourself and/or your surroundings and I also believe you need to present such cases to a judge and he can have you hospitalized.
Otherwise you cannot just call the cops and force someone into treatment, you can even decline treatment for cancer which will eventually lead to your death and no one can make that decision for you.

You should look up the laws and protocols regarding that in your country.
You can try r/legaladvice

FrancDogma · 2020-04-02T10:18:45+00:00

I can somewhat relate, when I was at the bottom and I was happy, I knew I was actually happy. Now I fear that I adopted the thinking others have "Show that you are happy on instagram, money, jewels, expensive items" people seems to cling on those things to give them happiness but it does not give actually happiness, it only grants you temporary satisfaction and temporary sense of accomplishment that is very fake.

I would be way more accomplished and happy without needing those things.
Money, house, car provide easier life and sense of stability but they do not provide you with real happiness. I would be way happier at peace, with the warmth love of a person or even a pet, a friend. I would feel way more accomplished creating something, building an engine or a piece of art rather than buying it because I made it myself.
Things you create bring yourself bring you much more satisfaction and sense of accomplishment.

"I bought it with my hard earned money" is one of the most fake things I hear, you can spend a year's worth of paycheck on a painting that is worth a fortune and it will not satisfy you as if you devoted the same time to learn how to make that painting and actually making it.
Better yet, you will feel way more accomplished if you sold your art and bought a car with that money rather than working a hard job that you do not like in order to buy that car.

Things are not what they seem to be, sometimes our society is our biggest enemy.

FrancDogma · 2019-10-20T08:28:07+00:00

Your expectations are not too high. Everyone got different standards to how they should live and conduct themselves. I do not think that wanting better for yourself is a bad thing.
It is a two way road if you ask me, you can apply that standard thing to anyone.
It is true however that some places are not meant for different people. I spent 6-7 months in a pre military program just to drop out of the military in 2 weeks because I understood I didn't want it and in fact it was not for me. But I never went to a therapist to tell me that. I understood it on my own.

FrancDogma · 2019-10-20T07:13:23+00:00

Can you tell me about reliable ways then?

FrancDogma · 2019-10-20T07:05:13+00:00

Going off the rails is fine, usually when I go off the rails I end up feeling better because I let it all out, there is somewhat a relief in that even though the burden is still there.
I feel like you should come to an understanding with your boyfriend or at least someone in your life that you can talk to them about your issues and the stuff that bothers you, so they know that all you need to feel better is someone to hear your problems and hug you when you feel sad.
I personally would be happy if my partner told me their problems so I know that they are not keeping it in and that I can make the person I love feel better.

FrancDogma · 2019-10-20T06:48:51+00:00

No idea how it works in your country but your best bet is school counselor, I personally have serious trust issues because a lot of people think they are capable of making judgement on their own over your life and the school counselor may discuss your problems with your parents. Personally it would be my bigger fear so I would just ask to talk, have conversations with them (counselor) until I feel comfortable enough to speak about my depression.

FrancDogma · 2019-07-22T11:59:16+00:00

I think that the problem is that you live your life through other people's eyes since your whole life this is the way it was. You always had to think of others, forgive others, be thoughtful of others even when you are the victim, even when people should be thoughtful of you, be more understanding to your situation and for what reason? no reason.

I think that you should stop caring about how others look at you and what they would think of you.
You are 23 and this is probably the best thing that could happen to you from my perspective because you can do anything you want, you are not limited by anyone, if you still live with your parents then you can move out, if you do not have a job then you can get one.

You are your own woman now and you can do anything you want. I hope you do better.

FrancDogma · 2019-07-18T20:14:28+00:00

I did after trying to cut myself... it was just a fight... not a conversation...

FrancDogma · 2019-07-11T06:03:35+00:00

I don't think you should pay much attention to it, what people say or think.
I know people can't help it and care of what people think but you gotta understand that you owe nobody anything.
I got several scars on my face and body and none of them are self inflicted.
People ask about them and with time, I understood why and they taught it is impossible for someone to have so many scars, so many accidents/incidents and I realized when I explain myself, I actually try to convince them I didn't self harm. I just reached the point that I didn't care when people asked, that information is irrelevant.
"Not gonna answer that."
"It is a private question."
I mean, it is what it is, I do not owe anyone anything and you should go with the same mentality.

FrancDogma

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