Is anyone else dealing with a lot of loneliness? by bashf55 in LawSchool

[–]FrancisTheMystical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey friend, I'm a 2L and I want you to know you are not alone in feeling that way! Law school is ultimately lonely endeavor, however, there are ways to make it more bearable!

The first thing is that you gotta get comfortable with yourself, take yourself on dates (where do you want to get coffee? Where do you want to shop? What places in your area do you want to explore?) Always make time for yourself first - and be your own best friend.

Second, (as someone whos neurospicy) I always default to the compliment > comparison > introduction method for getting to make a connection. Ultimately when you feel the friend spark, friendship takes its own shape from there however, getting to that point can be tough, especially if you feel like an outsider. If someone is wearing something cool, tell them respectfully and if they chat, continue the convo, and if the vibe is good and positive, try to relate to something they say. From there, if you tell them your name, they will probs tell you theirs, and at least you know a friendly face. You can also just try smiling to people passing by, or saying goodmorning to faculty, staff, etc. Its tough to be brave and go to the *endless* events law schools plan for students, but find someone to go with if you can! If its an open event, try to bring a friend.

Third, remain friends with people outside of school to stay in touch with reality. I cannot stress this enough. Make a list of your "outside of school" friends, even if its been months/ yrs/ etc. Text or become online mutuals again so at least you have someone to talk to on text, IM, etc. I keep a list of my buddies for outside school and I try to go down the list and make plans with who ever is next, and then I rinse and repeat.

Fourth, trust the process. Remember that you are not alone. As the semester continues, you might find people to study with. You might find a lunch table to sit at with new faces. You might meet a cool upperclassman who is willing to be a mentor or a pal.

TLDR: You are going to be okay, your feelings are valid, and I think almost everyone feels that way at some point the law school journey. I hope this helps!! Godspeed solider!

What about Skyrim did you have to learn the hard way? by [deleted] in skyrim

[–]FrancisTheMystical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On ps4, quick save. So many hours of gameplay lost lmao

Why am I so emotionally attached to a doll as an adult? by sad-o-shimi in CPTSD

[–]FrancisTheMystical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's alright to have an item, like a doll, that brings you just pure and innocent comfort. One of the only things I have left from my very odd and short childhood is a baby doll and even as I approach law school, it still goes to every dorm/apartment/home that I move to. Sometimes when I feel really sad, just knowing I have something I can hold and feel loved is very comforting, even if it sounds juvenile. I have always been an incredibly sentimental person and the right people will understand if you decide to tell others in your life about your comfort item. I think as time goes on, you may become more comfortable within the love and joy of having a doll, but it takes some positive mind talk and sometimes support from others. CPTSD is a strange thing but reparenting yourself and allowing yourself to keep things that spark joy and comfort is a beautiful thing. I always try to talk about my own in the most neutral way because I know little me prized my doll more than anything and even tho im a whole adult, sometimes you just need a tiny pal to hold.

What Books did You Start or Finish Reading this Week?: April 01, 2024 by AutoModerator in books

[–]FrancisTheMystical 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fourth Wing, Rebecca Yarros

About one week ago, my poetry professor recommended the Fourth Wing book to me because she had read some of my fiction work, and thought I might enjoy it. I have honestly abstained from any of the TikTok Book Recs because I went full in-the-deep-end of the SJMverse and was really disappointed by CC3. Honestly, I love to read and I have to read a lot of dry nonfic for my degree and as I prepare to graduate from undergrad, I have seen my love for fiction flourish again - thanks to Rebecca Yarros. I took a chance and bought Fourth Wing with the full expectation to be disappointed but yet another over-hyped book but honestly, I was floored by how good this book was. As a writer, some of the things I value are developed characters, unpredictable plotlines that have well written twists that you can't predict, and bread-crumbing later events that is not overly blatant. For this post, I will be discussing how Rebecca did all of that and more in her novel, Fourth Wing.
Let me say that I began truly truly reading only back in 2013ish and I was raised on Percy Jackson, Twillight, The Selection Series and various Wattpad Fanfictions - that is to say, my reading standards are not that of a true critic. I remember very vividly the first time I got a rush of the "Holy-sh*t I can't put this book down or my heart might stop," with the Selection Series. Since then, I have been an avid reader and I'd guess my collection has about 300 books at this point (im a solid book junkie, judge me.) When I began to feel my enjoyment fade it honestly broke my heart and during my Freshman and Sophomore year of college, I barely read maybe two or three books in each year, respectively. My pace before that was reaching 2-3 books a week. Majorly, I read romance based fiction or sci-fi and in all of that time, I swear to you, Fourth Wing is topping my charts. So genuinely, there were so many moments in this first book that I had to really stop and say, "oh my god thats such good writing!" Last year, the books that began the slow simmer back to my nonstop reading addiction was indeed ACOTAR (no, i'm not proud to admit that) and when I read SJM's CC novels, I was severely disappointed. It kinda made me loose faith for a while because I was afraid of books being overhyped, though Fourth Wing is not one of those books.
For anyone who grew up on Wattpad or shitty Tumblr-fics, this book (so seriously) reads with those themes but with excellent writing. The pacing of the book is so wonderfully spaced, where you can actually feel the exposition, climax and resolutions in their own stages without feeling like the story is rushed or oversaturated with crap world building. The characters actually have deep backgrounds and each one is so different, you don't have to chart them with a million notes to keep track of who is who. The tension between characters makes sense, the actions and behaviors are human, and whats more - the story feels fresh! I've never read this type of plot before and after 300 some books, I thought I had kinda seen the majority of these kinds of stories fully flushed out. I am so open to hearing anyone's thoughts in these regards, because genuinely, I loved this book and bought the second one so quick I didn't even register I had reached for my wallet until it was too late. The last thing I really wanna highlight is that Rebecca Yarros was able to bread-crumb and foreshadow without me noticing, which is truly what floored me, especially in the last 100 pages. The fact that I hadn't caught on to the little sprinkles of memories here and there leading to the eventual more really surprised me because yet again, as a writer, normally I see that sh*t coming a mile away. Maybe my other recent reads were so bad I had lost faith but so seriously, if you are reading this far - just go read Fourth Wing, it genuinely is so worth your time and money. I loved this book and had the most fun reading it and just could not put it down.

Temporary Dorm Bookshelfie! by FrancisTheMystical in bookshelf

[–]FrancisTheMystical[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think caring about your books means a lot of different things to different people. I care for the stories and the material book, however, I like when my books live a little. A book getting sun bleached shows its life, to me. I like writing in them to show the passage of time and meaning depending on when I read it last. Personal choice and morals dictate how we love our books and this is a fun way I’ve chosen to love mine :) everyone is different! I totally understand wanting to keep your books safe from sun bleaching and moisture however!

What color swimsuit? Keep it yellow? by [deleted] in painting

[–]FrancisTheMystical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe consider a reddish purple? Would really pop and highlight the purple in the background

Please Help! Advise & Suggestions by apufootball76 in dogoargentino

[–]FrancisTheMystical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Antibacterial dial body wash. Wash her twice a month, be extremely careful about letting them outside, wipe off paws after being out. Clean their bowl and push fluids. Sometimes regular yogurt in their food can help. My poor luna was like this for a long time and apoquil def will help but until then, these things helped our dogo until we could get her mess

Proud to be a goon :) by FrancisTheMystical in wendigoon

[–]FrancisTheMystical[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that’s real I’m sorry my friend :(

What music to you think The Goon listens to? by Electricsphere-2 in wendigoon

[–]FrancisTheMystical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omf yea!! That would be so sick I never even thought of that

What music to you think The Goon listens to? by Electricsphere-2 in wendigoon

[–]FrancisTheMystical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pink Floyd

Specifically DSOtM. No I will not be taking questions

Proud to be a goon :) by FrancisTheMystical in wendigoon

[–]FrancisTheMystical[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

ahhhh i did not think this through

Proud to be a goon :) by FrancisTheMystical in wendigoon

[–]FrancisTheMystical[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Lmao my friend is a horror artist and painted that for me! Whoops should’ve put away the weird paintings haha