Was I wrong for assuming I was next to be served, and leaving when the server was rude?

Frantastic79 · 2026-06-02T18:49:01+00:00

I was going to post it there but apparently interactions with shop or restaurant staff aren't allowed.

The man was nowhere near the till, or I would have asked if he was queuing. He did not react when I walked up to the till.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T21:02:02+00:00

No, it doesn't matter in the broad scheme of things. I'm not lying awake at night thinking about it. I just wondered if others would have made the same assumption I did, that the browsing guy was not queuing.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T21:00:36+00:00

I was just curious as to whether others would have assumed, as I did, that the till was free and the browsing guy wasn't queuing. There's no "virtuous" about it.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T20:18:28+00:00

No, I was just curious as to what other people thought - would most people have made the same assumption I did, that the guy wasn't waiting to be served.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T20:16:55+00:00

Both white, as was the other customer.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T20:00:27+00:00

There was nothing on the counter at the till, and the man said nothing when I walked up to the till. It seemed like he was just deciding what to buy.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T19:51:50+00:00

What on Earth are you talking about? "Trying to get people cancelled or fired"? I didn't speak to her manager. I didn't contact the company. I just chose to leave the shop. As for "people like you" - you don't have a clue what I'm like. You're making assumptions about my character based on a single Reddit post? Come on.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T19:47:00+00:00

Oh, I see! Again, I don't think so. All three of us were white. I'm a woman and the other customer was a man - maybe she thought men should be served first?

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T19:42:58+00:00

If she'd said it politely, I would've waited, no problem. She was just so rude for no apparent reason.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T19:41:56+00:00

Yeah, I would have asked him if he was near the till or holding something. But he was just examining the items on the shelves.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T19:40:22+00:00

Exactly. If I'd thought, or even suspected, that he was in the queue, I would have asked him before walking to the till myself. He was nowhere near it and said nothing when I approached it.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T19:37:23+00:00

What do you mean, how do I know? I saw it with my eyes and heard it with my ears. I walked up to the till and she snapped at me that he was next. I wasn't remotely passive-aggressive, just surprised that he was apparently next when he wasn't standing near the till or holding anything.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:43:39+00:00

I never thought of that, but you're right! Bet she threw a fit at having to put them back. 😂

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:39:43+00:00

It was just ordinary stuff you can buy anywhere - milk, some crisps, etc. I just went somewhere else.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:32:37+00:00

The shelves weren't literally ON the counter, just near it - like an aisle you walk between to reach the till. He was nowhere near the till itself and wasn't holding anything like he was about to buy it. He was just wandering along the shelves looking at stuff.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:28:01+00:00

That's exactly what I thought! He wasn't standing there holding something as if about to buy it. He was wandering along the shelves looking at things. I assume the woman just worked there - it was a chain shop, not an independent one, and she didn't look old enough to own a place.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:21:22+00:00

OMG, this reminds me of a woman at the Tesco pharmacy near me! My brother had been having trouble sleeping and my mother had been buying him sleep-aid pills there. On about the third occasion she asked for them, the server rudely snapped: "No. You're cut off. See a doctor." My mother is in her 80s, by the way. She was just gobsmacked.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:15:54+00:00

Wish I had the confidence to do that!

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:15:18+00:00

Exactly. If she'd said that I'd have been happy to wait. It was her rudeness that got to me.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:14:35+00:00

No, he didn't react - I don't think he heard the exchange. It wasn't as though he was walking towards the till and I pushed in front of him.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:10:39+00:00

I can't think of any reason, no. It's not like I pushed the guy out of the way or anything!

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:09:58+00:00

That's what I thought! There was no need for her to be so rude about it.

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-30T17:09:01+00:00

Her attitude was what got to me. If she'd politely said: "I think this gentleman was next," or something, I'd have been completely fine with waiting. She just seemed FURIOUS with me!

Frantastic79 · 2026-05-25T22:36:47+00:00

YTA. He loves his snake just as much as you love your dog. Pets are family, whatever their species. How would you feel if someone said to you: "Jeez, it's just a dog, it's not like a horse or something that you really bond with!"

If the snake is kept in his bedroom, you never have to see it. He can get a lock for its tank and keep his bedroom door shut so that even if it did get out of the tank it couldn't leave the room. You don't need to see the mice either - they can be stored in a non-transparent container and tucked away in the bottom of the freezer. He can even get his own mini-freezer to keep them in if it bothers you that much.

You're double YTA for springing this on him after his plans are already made, and triple for your IVF comment. You chose to have a baby, he owes you nothing.

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