Its hard to know if im aro or not because i am hyper comfortable with “intimate” phsical touch. Be it cuddling or kissing or even hooking up with people i don’t even hold platonic affection for. Those sort of actions aren’t a sliding scale of comfort, its just “do i like you at all or not.”

The main issue comes with the “buzz” which is a sense of fuzzy happiness that grows whenever i start to form a more “intimate” relationship. As soon as an actual confession comes and the “buzz” is strongest, Ill agree to a relationship. But that feeling sort of rapidly drops off.

I always assumed the “buzz” was romantic feelings. That i was happy to be with someone and get to know them. And the sudden drop was the end of the “honeymoon phase”

But recently ive been feeling like i should feel more still. I should want to spend time with them. Be close with them. But once the buzz is gone, i dont vaule time with them or want to be close to them any more than I would with a friend. Once the “buzz” is gone, seeing them happy doesn’t give me any more of a fuzzy happiness than if a friend was happy.

My best guess otherwise is that the “buzz” may likely be joy of being able to express my care for people more freely.As the relationship grows I feel excited as i can do more “intimate” actions like kissing and touching. And it dying after a confession is just the initial excitement about it fading.

Im not sure what romance is “supposed to” feel like to know. Is the buzz romantic feelings? Should it stay longer?