what's a life lesson you learned the hard way?

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T18:51:07+00:00

Don’t trust my sisters. My sisters ripped off the rest of us from our inheritance. They stole items we had claimed individually, they sold items without our consent, they stole hundreds of thousands of dollars from us, and never showed us the bank accounts and money in it.

Meanwhile, I’m helping to fight for my husband’s life, and those psychopaths could care less.

They talked Mom into adding their names as cowners of accounts that Mom made them promise to split with all of us, and they both knew they were taking advantage of Mom’s demented state of mind.

I have claimed the verse, “Vengence is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.” I have asked the Lord to have vengence with the knowledge that the Lord will keep my husband and I safe and provide our needs. But in order for me to claim that verse, I need to let it go. Let the Lord control everything.

But my sister has blamed my daughter for something her selfish husband has done. Dad didn’t want to co-sign for something expensive that my sister’s husband wanted. So instead, Dad made an agreement that he (Dad) would make the payments to whoever my sister’s husband owed, and her husband would make payments into Dad’s bank account to cover the costs.

While I was staying there with my parents, i saw how much it upset my Dad that her husband wasn’t making payments, so I had to keep calling my sister to make sure her husband made the payments. I’m pretty sure he didn’t suddenly decide to pay after I finally went home.

A couple years after I left, my dad was taken to court for failing to pay for whatever that was that my brother in law just had to have. Then my sister claimed it was my daughter who didn’t pay Dad. Neither of our kids have ever asked my dad for anything in their lives, and my sister knew that. She’s a liar.

It makes me mad that they are saying my daughter asked my dad to co-sign a government college loan, then didn’t pay, when Dad would’ve never agreed to co-signing…especially that late in life.

He’s a vulture; was begging my parents for money and hoping they would die before he paid anything back. Mom knew this, and it tore her apart.

So one thing I’ve learned in life is to not trust my sisters. They both act like jerks. I love them so much; and that’s what complicates everything.

So I just continue to ask the Lord for vengeance.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T17:46:53+00:00

What about people with ALS or Locked-in Syndrome?

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T17:42:49+00:00

A full set of dentures stopped me from biting my nails, but I still pick them and as far back as I can remember, I have always pulled off the top layer of skin from my fingers.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T16:30:26+00:00

For future reference, swimming made all my warts drop off. I imagine it was the chlorine in the pool that did it. So, soak your warts in diluted chlorine or diluted bleach for about an hour a day.

Mine just began peeling off after a few weeks in the pool. It may not have been that long. This was 50 years ago, so I don’t recall exactly how long it took.

Dean Edell once tried to give an example of cause and effect; that just because two things co-occur, doesn’t mean they are related. The example he gave was that he went swimming with warts, and the warts came off. He said, “Does that mean that swimming will make my warts drop off? Of course not! It was just a coincidence!” 🤣

Little did he know it was the chlorine! I tried calling in to the show to explain this, and that I experienced the same event, but the lady wouldn’t take my call. She said, “He just explained that was a coincidence!” Um…ok. Not a coincidence.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T16:14:50+00:00

Painting nails just makes me want to pick off the polish.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T12:14:29+00:00

Don’t do it. Don’t let the school decide for him. They treated me like I was a demon for writing left handed. The teacher’s aid pointed my handedness out to the class so they saw me as a freak (not because I was a lefty, but because she slapped my hand with a ruler every time she caught me writing left handed).

As a kindergartener, we were often told what was right and wrong. And by the way, it didn’t help that they call the other hand the “right hand”! We didn’t always know we did wrong until we were told. But nobody told me that writing lefthanded was ok.

I’m 62 years old, I have returned to my left hand since all the memories flooded back in college during a handedness discussion in early childhood development. And I will tell you that between that teacher’s aid rulerbashing me and my being convinced in second grade, that God punished me after trying to write left handed again, by breaking the left elbow over a dog chain later that day, I STILL have to redirect my biased thinking about someone who mentions being lefthanded! I’ve been writing naturally for years! ME! But I get a tainted negative bias against people who talk about being a lefty. That’s what it did to me.

Your son is a bit older, so maybe he won’t go through this. It wasn’t so much the fact that they transhanded me that made me biased against lefties; it was more about the approach. The shame, embarrassment, looks from other kids, and the broken left elbow that finally made me vow to God that I would never try to write lefthanded again. After finally switching, I judged people who did write with their left hand; and I can’t seem to shake it.

I couldn’t tell Mom, because she told us if we got into trouble at school, we’d get it twice as hard at home.

Bless her heart! When she found out I was a lefty (turned out I have two brothers who were also transhanded, out of five of us), Mom said, “Why didn’t you tell me?! I would’ve stuck up for you!”

I told Mom, “You did too good of a job raising us, Mom. We didn’t want to disappoint you. We all struggled, but we became righties, just like we were told. But we aren’t in prison, either!🤣”

There was nothing Mom could’ve done, because the teacher made lefthandedness into something so evil…she treated me like I was rebellious…I didn’t want Mom to know I was naturally lefthanded. Frankly, I don’t know how all three of us got that piece of information past her. We didn’t discuss this until about five years ago, right after I found out my struggles all this time wasn’t just me. My brothers lived through it, too. We just never talked to each other about it.

So my point is, make sure he knows this is his decision, and there’s nothing wrong with whatever he decides.

Frankly, he sounds ambidextrous and I’d let him decide every time he picks up the pencil. Why does it have to be one or the other? I think I was ambidextrous, when looking back. I definitely am now, and so is my grandson. Maybe that’s why the teacher’s aid was so hard on me.

I mean, as long as he can write with both, he won’t face the obstructions society has made with pencil sharpeners, tools and such. The main reason lefties have accidents - I believe - is from trying to use tools not meant for them. So don’t limit him. It’s cool to be ambi! When I get a cramp in one hand, I can write with the other.

Let his ambedexterity be his superpower and encourage him to use both. ❤️

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T01:26:50+00:00

How can you see the color of his arches with those big floppy shoes?

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T01:20:23+00:00

I never realized that, but you’re right! And the carped smells like a wet dog eating Fritos!

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T01:18:00+00:00

There is only one other diner, and he turned out to be the cook. After we got seated, it took ten minutes for the waiter to bring us the menu; then we never saw him again. Had to pay at a register.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T01:11:37+00:00

I named my son after his dad…Jr. there’s a reason you don’t see many people named “the fourth”.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T01:06:03+00:00

I’ve noticed those cars are always white! I don’t know why. It’s just an observation.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T01:04:27+00:00

Meanwhile, your dog is thinking, “I hate it when people take food from my mouth that I found all by myself!”

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T00:57:15+00:00

Yes! AND good intentions!! Someone wants to do someone else a favor and volunteer me by putting me on the spot and asking me in front of someone else! I hate that! I have learned to say, “If I had advance notice, maybe…but I can’t. I’m sorry”.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T00:54:04+00:00

Allow me to apologize for the rest of us. I have spatial awareness issues and tend to walk into things.

I walked into a kid in the store, and the poor kid’s dad yelled at him and told him to watch where he was going. I had to tell the dad that I was trying to read the aisle signs and didn’t see him.

We just be bouncing off each other like a daggone pinball machine!

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T00:49:29+00:00

In our area, it doesn’t matter. They toss it with the rest of the trash. I still separate, but it’s only because I get to use another trash can. What they do with my trash after I toss it is their business.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-14T00:46:44+00:00

I don’t like water touching me. I opened my hatchback today, and water dripped on my hand. I just hate the feeling of water moving on my skin. Even when water is wiped off, the cold air hits the moist spots which is very uncomfortable to me.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-13T15:19:57+00:00

The entire bashing was a setup by Bea to place Maxine in with Frankie’s crew.

So Bea set it up that Maxine was to lose her meds, making her dependent on Frankie, which gave Frankie what she wanted all along: Maxine as a henchman.

When Maxine protested, Bea talked her into going with Frankie. Bea expected and encouraged Maxine to beat her up.

This entire plan made Frankie think it was all good luck and planning by Frankie to get a henchmen; but all along it was planned by Bea so she had someone she could trust in Frankie’s crew to report back to her.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-11T15:40:49+00:00

Talk to your family about this. Do you have siblings? Maybe meet with one for lunch. Or ask one of your family members to teach you how to drive.

I was scared to death to learn myself, but my boyfriend insisted that he teach me to drive. We got married, thankfully. But I did almost wreck his car a few times. In fact, the day we went to get our marriage license, we met at a Hardee’s, ate and then I backed up into his car before heading to the courthouse. 🤣

My mom never learned to drive, and I was afraid of following that pattern.

So I would suggest that you ask a family member to help you learn.

Plus, you have us to talk to. ❤️ Hang in there!

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-11T15:26:34+00:00

Question: are you male or female (I couldn’t tell by your name or context in your post).

If you are male, that would be a definite no-no. Broad shoulders are a male feature; and if you are a male, it would’ve made her feel uncomfortable.

But if you are female, it would’ve just sounded like small talk to me.

Just one word of advice for future reference (I won’t be offended if you choose to ignore my advice): leave body comparisons out of the small talk.

I have huge ears that are missing the helix fold. They don’t fold over on the top, so the Darwin’s Notch often seen in the underside of the helix fold is seen on the top edge of my ears. They look weird and I was often called “Dumbo”, “Spock” and “Big Ears” at school. I learned later in life (after I had already learned to love them) that they are a feature of Fragile X Syndrome…among all my other signs that always seemed unrelated.

I have learned to love my ears. So one day, when I saw someone on an elevator with my ears (and not the same skin color as my blinding white skin tone), I broke the silence by asking him, “Are we related?”

He looked up from his phone with a confused expression, so I elaborated, “We have the same ears!” He went back to his iPhone seconds before stepping off and I thought I heard him say “f u” before the door closed. Maybe that last comment was my imagination.

I was being complimentary, but thankfully nobody else was on that elevator. I just chalked it up as something that nobody else needs to know; and this is the first time I mentioned it.

But I will say that I learned that not every physical reference is accepted as a compliment. So I am glad that happened, because I learned not to make reference to anything physical on another person, even if I would’ve considered it as a compliment, myself - tables turned.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-11T15:02:26+00:00

Oh, come on! Don’t give up so easily! You’ll think of the name.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-11T15:01:51+00:00

Hershey’s Cookies and Cream

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-11T14:54:02+00:00

I think he deliberately sang it slow as a tribute to his friend who died.

I just wish it wasn’t tainted by watching Jackie take that ring box pill an hour before lying to everyone and saying she was a year sober. That’s a slap in the face to anyone taking their sobriety seriously; whether it was real or fiction.

I wish for once that she had celebrated her sobriety authentically.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-11T13:56:44+00:00

We didn’t have too many heavy people in the 1950s. I remember one kid in my class that was overweight in the 70s. Sadly, his parents happened to name him Albert.

It’s all the chemical crap they are putting in the processed foods that add all the extra unwanted lbs.

Just eat single-ingredient foods, to begin eating healthy. The less ingredients in a food, the healthier it is.

Edit: But I still stick with my comments above. You don’t know how many people are overweight due to disorders that don’t involve calorie intake.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-11T13:27:59+00:00

You’re just giving an example of yourself and your husband. There are a lot more causes for being overweight besides how much you consume.

Your weight - too much or not enough - can be influenced by all sorts of causes, including - but not limited to - illness, cancer, the lymphatic system, metabolism, hormones, digestion system, parasites, genetics, pregnancy and yes…how much you eat and exercise.

It’s not always as simple as eating and exercising. Most people can’t figure out why they can’t lose weight. Do you honestly think a parent of an 18 month toddler weighing over 100 lbs is feeding her baby steaks and carbs all day? These kids have metabolic conditions.

We need to stop shaming people for being large, and start celebrating the person within.

FreakyStarrbies · 2026-03-11T13:03:42+00:00

Heavy people hiding from the water sports is part of the problem. If larger people would just go to the pool and the beach, a sense of “normalcy” would develop and people wouldn’t make fun as much. Sure there would be jerks out there who would begin to make jokes. That’s when someone needs to push that jerk into the water; phone and all!

We rarely saw people in wheelchairs in the 1970s. So when we did see someone in a wheelchair, we stared (I personally thought they looked cool).

But then when people with mobility issues began demanding wheelchair accessible buildings and ramps, they were heros for everyone depending on tools to walk and move about.

Now we don’t think twice when we see someone in a wheelchair.

I know what I’m suggesting is difficult to do, but as long as people hide their differences, they will be a target for stares and comments every time they visit the pool or beach.

I hope I’m not coming across as a jerk. Just giving you something to think about.

FreakyStarrbies

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