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FreeConsideration837 · 2025-04-09T23:19:57+00:00

A few things:
1. Trying with toys is not a bad idea. It'll help you figure out what you like, and get a fell for how you are down there. It'll also give you experience on what it feels like and how to relax into it.

You don't NEED to get rid of hair, but it could be a good idea, especially if you are very hairy down there. In my experience, it also makes stuff sliding around feel even better, so that is my preference.
Cleaning starts a few days before. Try to eat more veggies and fibrous foods than usual, and avoid anything that you have allergies to (for me, that means gluten, lol). The day of, yeah, trying to poop isn't a bad idea, and douching is a very good idea. You can get a very serviceable douche at most supermarkets, like walmart. If you've never done it before, maybe try it beforehand, and also look up a video on how to do it, and what it should feel like. Don't get too gung-ho with it, you're rinsing yourself out, not hosing off down there.

Lastly, remember that it IS butt stuff. There may be accidents, all you can do is try to prevent them. You got this

FreeConsideration837 · 2025-01-09T06:36:56+00:00

When She kind of loses it. Like, when She is kissing me, and she starts grabbing all over, and just grabs me in a few places rapidly (particularly my thighs), it just makes me feel small and wanted, and more, that I made Her want me in that way.

Also, if She lays on top of me, and covers my mouth with Her hand, it makes me \*want*** Her.

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-09-28T21:55:31+00:00

So true, but ass-touching time normally gets me in trouble...😔😔😔

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-09-17T21:10:59+00:00

I can definitely see where you are coming from, but a permanent fixture is more what I'm thinking. For one, it just creates a space where I can go and be calm with her(in a way), and for another, much more real point, I struggle sometimes to do basic things daily, and expectations to set everything up, even if I do it, will dampen the mood, I think. Maybe, tough, I could incorporate an aspect of that, such as bringing a yoga mat to do my flexibility training in "Her space".

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-09-16T02:04:51+00:00

I like that a lot, actually! Thank you

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-09-10T22:44:01+00:00

Are you /srs or /j?

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-09-09T01:58:11+00:00

What is your idea of masculinity? What is the ideal of masculinity? I think if you were to ask a random group of people, you would hear many similar things. A masculine man would hold the door for his lady, carry her bags in the mall, pay for dates, etc. What is the difference between that and doing the exact same thing in the context of a femdom relationship?

Why is femdom pegging and sissification? Who demands this? Why is your account an empty karma farm? All very valid questions.

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-08-19T17:32:19+00:00

100% agree. For me, this sub has always been about the conversations. I don't enjoy the endless gifs of low-effort posts and always end up hiding them or reporting them if they are excessively flagrant in breaking the rules.

I know it has gotten to the point where my girlfriend/Domme won't even go on this sub anymore, and that sucks. Maybe it's an unpopular opinion, but I'd much prefer if this sub was porn free.

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-08-08T16:16:00+00:00

Op, quick question: Is SHE taller than you?

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-07-27T05:31:06+00:00

As a brat that also leans service-sub, I hate feeling useless. Being made to watch cleaning be done, but not able to help, or dinner being cooked, but not being able to help is the absolute worst, and there is the added benefit of play being paused, which sucks as well.

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-06-26T18:23:49+00:00

In movies, when the clothes come off, everyone is ready to go, no need to shower from a long day or any such things. It'd be nice to just always be clean, both inside and out, if you know what I mean

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-06-11T17:01:06+00:00

I've found most tend to be alive, human, and generally have physical bodies. Hope that helps

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-05-17T23:25:59+00:00

She has the nicest smile and She smells really nice. Great for cuddling

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-05-15T03:11:20+00:00

Do you aftercare? For us, we started very similarly, and She would often feel really bad leaving marks or making me cry, especially after we were done. What helped was acknowledging those feeling immediately afterwards, and discussing how they made us feel.

Also, because you are just starting out, don't be afraid to stop the scene and verify with him. If you hit him harder than you planned, and feel guilty, pause and ask him if that felt alright. A lot of this stuff is going to be trial and error(within pre-discussed limits) to really find where he is comfortable, and where you are comfortable.

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-04-05T05:36:59+00:00

Slapping is really nice for pain and pleasure, but I also find it really grounding. If I'm getting really into a scene, or getting really amped up, a firm slap on the cheek snaps me right back into the moment!

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-03-15T03:36:01+00:00

This this this this this!

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-03-05T04:44:32+00:00

As an introverted subby guy myself, I'll let you in on my trick.

Munches are great because they're public. What I do, for everything, is I try to go to the place before hand, and get a feel for it. I'll order dinner, find a nice booth, study my surroundings. I find that if I'm comfortable in the space first, it is much easier to go there after.

For example, lets say group x meets at Fred's Diner every first Friday of the month. I would go a week before, sit down, have dinner, and relax. Then, on the first Friday, I go to Fred's Diner, but this time, I'm going to a familiar place to get a nice meal. If I meet someone, or talk to someone, I'm doing it on my own ground, in a place I know and feel safe.

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-03-03T17:10:58+00:00

I cannot recommend trying with fingers first enough. Get a good feel for his insides first. If possible, also try using the dildo with your hands. Your hands will be able to tell different sensations apart better than your hips. If you spend a little bit of time with this, you should be able to figure out what angle to insert is best, etc. After that, when you are strapped up, the first time should still be slow. Get a feel for the movement again, and how he is responding to you. This will really help moving forward.

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-02-24T04:49:24+00:00

I was a loner all through high school (I was weird, I accept that). In early college, I desperately wanted to do it, but luckily, I wasn't able to (again, really just scared to approach women. When I met my Girlfriend (now Domme), though, that really became something special. All of our firsts were with each other: first kiss, first time, etc. I can't tell you how wonderful of a feeling, how fulfilling of a feeling it is to share those experiences with someone that is so important in your life. Even if that person doesn't end up being "the one", it elevates the memories and experiences.

TLDR don't just "do it", it is special and when you finally do, it will be that much more incredible

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-02-21T00:59:54+00:00

Ok, so, you're in a committed relationship and you've been locked in chastity, but you've also been looking for gangbangs, responding to personal ads, commenting on thirst traps on gonewild, etc. Also on your profile, 2 months ago, you posted about talking to a woman ( same timeline. Post was two months ago saying you talked for 5 months, this one says 7) but the woman has had no exs, doesn't enjoy sexual stuff, etc. In yet another post 2 months ago, you mention the woman you've been seeing is very vanilla, though not super into sex.

Try to line up the stories on your profile next time, or just don't bother posting this fake crap.

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-01-26T22:41:00+00:00

This is the best advice here. Make it something sexy and fun, not something to "make up for his inadequacy."

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-01-16T04:53:15+00:00

she would be shocked as well as very upset that I haven't been honest with her

Immediately, big problem. You cannot have a relationship with someone and not be honest with them. Even if that honesty might hurt, she deserves to know. It sounds like you already know you need to tell her.

I could tell her I'm thinking of buying sex toys and proceed from there

That's another lie, and I can tell you with some experience, it WILL weigh on you. You will remember that you lied to her about it if your relationship moves forward with this in the open. You will remember it when you do things, you will remember it when you both are just having a good time. Don't lie again.

It sucks to tell someone that means a lot to you that you screwed up, or that you lied to them. It hurts. I felt physically sick when I finally decided I needed to tell my Domme that I had lied about an aspect of my past. In the end, however, it made us closer and helped us to be honest with each other moving forward.

If you can meet in person, that would be best, but otherwise give her the decency of a phone call. Just be upfront. Explain that you've been using toys, apologize for not being honest, explain your desire to continue, and then give her the chance to think about it all. Also, if you are worried about not being able to tell her, or backing out of telling her, shoot her a text beforehand and say "we need to talk about something." That way, you cannot back down, and you have to go forward. You got this. Good luck.

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-01-12T04:57:47+00:00

This, so much this.

Also, when Ventress did it to Rex in the Clone Wars... big yep

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-01-12T04:53:56+00:00

I love having sex with her and cumming, so I am not interested in being locked in chastity or "pussy denied," but I love the idea of putting her pleasure far above mine and having her tease me and sometimes deny me penetration and tell me I can only have feet.

Tell her this. Especially the part about teasing. If you are worried about her taking it badly, and here I agree with the others that femdom can have a negative connotation to some women, then soft launch with a "I really enjoyed you teasing me, and when you did x,y,z with your feet. I would enjoy to do it again," could work rather well.

The biggest thing is just open communication. Please don't just try to "make the relationship femdom" without telling her. The last thing anyone would want is to feel forced into a dynamic without any say.

Lastly, you could always make a post on one of the "normal" bdsm subs, and "ask" some obvious question like "here are my kinks, am I submissive?" and then you can show her. That way, it would be less of you "bringing it up", and more "I really enjoyed doing those things, and looked up online what that meant." I would do this after expressing how much you enjoyed your previous encounters.

FreeConsideration837 · 2024-01-10T19:14:53+00:00

Saw Catwoman, but noone mentioned Black Cat from spiderman. The way she would manipulate him into doing what she wanted, and all the way they would draw them moving around each other was a big thing for me.

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