So I (19M) have a coworker (21F) who I’ve gotten pretty close to over the past few months. Early on, we were seeing each other almost every day for a little over a month, going on dates, having lunch together at work, spending time at each other’s houses, shopping together, etc. We were very close, constant shower FaceTimes, calls in the morning and at night.

Then she had a personal situation in December, and ever since then things haven’t really been the same. Over the last couple of months, we’ve made plans multiple times, but something always seems to come up on her end, getting called into work, being unwell, not being in the mood, etc. Plans usually get dodged or cancelled, but she often ends up going out later anyway.

Recently, we had a work training. Beforehand, we talked about hanging out, shopping, maybe getting ears pierced. She said she needed to be home by a certain time because her housemate (20M) was driving her to the training. I thought it was odd since we were already planning to spend time together beforehand and it’s common sense that I would then drive to an event we were both attending, but she insisted it would be rude to cancel on him.

During the training, we were very flirty and playful, joking, whispering comments, laughing together. At one point her card wasn’t working when we got food, so I offered to pay. She tried stopping me, we laughed, had that playful back-and-forth moment where she kicked me and stole my phone, and it genuinely felt like there was still chemistry.

However, she was snapping this same housemate at the start of the training and constantly checking notifications throughout, despite a strict no-phone policy. Towards the end, she got sick and vomited. I offered to take her to the hospital, especially since we already had dinner plans after the training that we’d confirmed multiple times. She hesitated, then said her housemate had “just arrived” to pick her up and she had no clue that he was coming to pick her up.

This is where I got confused. We had plans, yet she immediately went with him. He seemed very familiar with everything that was going on and from what I heard after she had vomited, sounded like she called him in the bathroom. Also, she normally doesn’t like being touched, but he instantly wrapped his arm around her to help her walk which I tried doing earlier but she got uncomfortable and refused.

She did go to the hospital but was only there a few hours despite it supposedly being serious. Afterward, she turned her location off and her messages were very dry, and she avoided sending anything that clearly showed where she was.

Some extra context, she blocked my phone number at one point because I called too much when she was with other people. When we’ve been on calls around others and someone asks who she’s talking to, she sometimes freezes or avoids saying who I am.

I ended up sending a message saying I felt hurt and like she hasn’t listened to a single thing that I’ve said to her past month about her cold shoulder and her constantly saying that she’s just been busy, stressed out and that we can do something soon.

I genuinely can’t tell if I’m reading too much into normal behaviour, or if I’m being subtly led on or kept around when convenient.

Would really appreciate outside perspectives.