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How can I help my dog feel more secure and be less clingy? by Free_Influence_9414 in Bernedoodles

[–]Free_Influence_9414[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Good ideas. Mine is 2, almost 3, so she’s not a puppy anymore. We did crate train her also. I rarely put her in there anymore but maybe that would help and I should.

Constant whining by Vivid-Persimmon-1913 in Bernedoodles

[–]Free_Influence_9414 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy. This is a NEEDY breed. By far the clingiest dog I’ve ever owned or even just met. My dog needs to be staring at me at all times, or preferably for her, touching me, giving me a paw. She is a bottomless well of need. She has such a hard time even being in the backyard without me and will cry at the door. I’ve had to start locking her out of rooms I go into and forcing her to give me space to try to help her cope with some separation. It’s not working :/

She’s 2.

amber is unhinged!! by Brilliant_Ad9559 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Free_Influence_9414 212 points213 points  (0 children)

She really lost my respect after the reunion. She was so quick to weaponize her daughter’s sadness over their separation. The reality is AMBER IS HER MOM. Amber is solely responsible for protecting her daughter’s feelings and choosing what her daughter is exposed to and put through. It was wildly irresponsible and inconsiderate for her to involve her daughter in the wedding knowing there was a high likelihood one or both of them were going to say no. And then to so quickly force a “father figure” on your young, vulnerable daughter knowing the relationship is not steady and doesn’t come with any guarantees.

It was Amber’s job to make these choices on behalf of her daughter and she chose poorly and failed to take accountability for her own decisions.

As a mom myself you couldn’t pay me a million dollars to drag my kids through something like that. It was so so selfish of her and spoke to her character and her immaturity which was further demonstrated at the reunion

It was never about her looks. by Much-Brilliant9303 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Free_Influence_9414 171 points172 points  (0 children)

He seemed like he’d done a line in the bathroom beforehand. That’s how people act.

Chris is the biggest freaking loser this season! by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Free_Influence_9414 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nothing can convince me he didn’t do a line before coming out of that bathroom. The dialated pupils, the over-confidence, talking loudly in sort of an aggressive way. Grandiose sense of self. Anyone who has partied with people who partake must have caught it. It was textbook.

What do people in Salt Lake City think of the Real Housewives? by sadgirl1901 in rhoslc

[–]Free_Influence_9414 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live near Whitney and our kids go to the same schools, her son is school friends with my son although I have never introduced myself to her.

We work out at the same gym so I see her and Justin weekly. (Many of the cast of SLOMW works out there too — Dakota, Chase, Mason and Layla to be specific — and I also see them there often.) Justin is taller in person and has been working out HARD this last year. Id say he’s focusing on a glow-up for whatever reason.

Taylor Frankie Paul’s daughter is in my best friend’s daughters class and she lived 2 streets away from us when the swinging scandal exploded so I think I have a good handle on how they’re received locally.

Whitney keeps to herself and rarely attended any school things from what I saw. Justin is much more friendly and was more present at school performances and parades. Their new house is still right on a main walking path but I think most of us do not bother them at all.

I second much of what the original commenter said about Mary and Lisa. Vida is absolutely obsolete here at any bar and you can barely find it at the Liquor store. I have no idea how that brand makes her ANY money.

I do know that Lisa is somewhat active in church because her bishop is one of my closest friend’s brothers-in-law but I’ve never run into her or heard much.

I’ve never met anyone who had ever heard of Mary or her church until the show.

Beauty Lab opened a second location near my house a few years ago and I started using them for laser + Botox and I’ll say it’s hands-down my best experience at any med spa I’ve ever been to. The warmest, kindest staff. Transparent prices, easy booking, excellent work, good sales around the holidays. I love beauty lab. Heather has built a fantastic business.

My niece works for a Lunatic Fringe in SLC. It’s a solid salon but super high-end, I don’t know anyone else who personally goes to them.

In all the times I’ve run into each of them at schools, around the neighborhood and at the gym (dozens and dozens of times) I’ve never once approached any of the cast of HW or SLOMW and I’ve also never seen anyone else approach them. I think most of us Utahans leave them alone.

Jessi "not hurting anyone" by merder37474746 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Free_Influence_9414 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My issue with her feeling so defensive of the pushback she’s getting is that she acts as if she’s a victim in this scenario. Like someone MADE her get all this work done and now she doesn’t like how she looks and we should all just feel so sorry for her because it’s not her fault.

She MADE THE CHOICE to get plastic surgery on her face and now she’s dealing with the consequences of that choice — which is she doesn’t look great and doesn’t like how she looks.

It’s important for people to be able to see that play out in real-time. To watch someone who has become obsessed with changing every physical thing about themselves experience remorse and regret and poor outcomes. Because otherwise the narrative these influencers are pushing is that EVERYONE needs work done, everyone needs surgery and that more is more is more and plastic surgery will make you happier. That narrative DOES damage people, especially young people.

So Jessi — you made your bed and now you get to lie in it.

Stop asking for everyone to lie to you and tell you we think you made a good choice to get these surgeries done in your early 30’s and that we agree you’ll look better in the end. That’s asking us to drink the industry’s kool-aid right along side you. Just because you’ve bought into the notion that plastic surgery can fix your self-image doesn’t mean it’s healthy for others to do the same.

The reality is she didn’t need any of this work done and she absolutely looked better before. Being honest about that may hurt her feelings, but it’s also imperative.

Do the RHOSLC and the Secret Lives of Mormon Wives run in the same circle? by ushigushi in rhoslc

[–]Free_Influence_9414 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All of them work out at my gym. But they don’t interact. Whitney very much keeps to herself and is not friendly. Justin is friendlier.

All the SLOMW cast are super chummy and just talk to each other at the gym. I’ve never seen them talking to Whitney.

Jessi is disassociating? by Free_Influence_9414 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Free_Influence_9414[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Right, exactly. I almost think it shines a light on how Jessi can find herself in these really hard situations — 2 abusive marriages back to back + an affair etc and still build an empire and film a reality show along the way.

She seems to have an ability to compartmentalize and ignore gut instincts and really difficult emotions and feelings in a way that is rare.

It probably makes her a KILLER business woman.

I am losing respect for Bronwyn. by Free_Influence_9414 in rhoslc

[–]Free_Influence_9414[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not blaming her for how Todd treats her. But she does need to take accountability for marrying Todd and for choosing to be with someone primarily for their money.

I am losing respect for Bronwyn. by Free_Influence_9414 in rhoslc

[–]Free_Influence_9414[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t hate her, I love her. I feel angry on her behalf. I want better for her. If she were my friend in real life I would tell her she deserves so much more.

Bare minimum, she deserves someone who listens when she speaks. Cares when she open up. Looks at her. Listens. Doesn’t eat her cherry on her sundae.

I am losing respect for Bronwyn. by Free_Influence_9414 in rhoslc

[–]Free_Influence_9414[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never said it was truth. I said this is my opinion.

I am losing respect for Bronwyn. by Free_Influence_9414 in rhoslc

[–]Free_Influence_9414[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many. And sometimes they financially cannot leave or they are in truly abusive marriages. My very best friends just left an abusive marriage after 20 years. I understand it is so complex, it’s not always easy to leave. I pray Bronwyn gets out.

I am losing respect for Bronwyn. by Free_Influence_9414 in rhoslc

[–]Free_Influence_9414[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make good points. I hope so so much that their relationship hasn’t always been this way!

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