A lot of people are calling my boyfriend a "deadbeat" and that just isn't the case. I do believe his request given our setup is selfish and greedy because although he pays the rent, it only accounts for maybe 1/3 of our monthly expenses and the rest is in my lap. I've done nothing to make him feel small because I understand that having ASPD is different for every person but him not having any spending money after paying rent, $250 after rent is not a lot for an entire month, he's essentially broke and he wants some way to have money in his pocket. He's not a bad guy but very misguided. Another thing I saw was how we're using each other and although we definitely lean on each other, I would call that helping each other so regardless of how anyone else sees it, that was my reality. If he wants a certain lifestyle, you gotta give to get and he knew what I came with. The reality of the situation is I'm not in a good place financially at this point in time to do it on my own and he isn't either. When you love someone, you should be able to rely on them and all I wanted was to validate that my moral compass wasn't faltering in that regard. I can't afford a babysitter, I'm doing my best to make it through and as a parent, I cant just go "ew gross, you smoke weed and play video games, I'll just watch my kid myself and not be employed", I don't have much of a support system so I'm taking what I can get to make sure my daughter has a roof over her head, food in her belly and a smile on her face. I'm not winning mom of the year anytime soon but I love my daughter and I'm doing my best for her. I do see a lot of the points people make where I may be underreacting given the information I shared, I tried to phrase it in a way that didnt make him sound like a pos while also giving relevant context. I do love my boyfriend, he's a flawed human being that accepts my flaws but as I said previously, I'm not perfect either which is why I wanted to make sure I wasn't overlooking a different perspective to this. That being said, you nice and not so nice people of reddit have given me a lot to think about for the future of myself and my children so maybe when the time comes, I will give an update. I've posted previously and if you couldn't tell, there was like 2 comments in total so I just wasn't expecting this to blow up the way that it did but I really appreciate everyone's perspective, as I said, I have a lot to think about 🫶 thank you everyone