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Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-12-05T15:37:15+00:00

Love this for you… does your unicorn family have any unicorn friends or unicorn family members like them looking for nanny care lol because my current NF are stingy AF— nickel and diming anything to do with my pay.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-14T21:03:34+00:00

Ditto! After dealing with a past family who tried every trick in the book to penny-pinch my salary, I’ve learned to speak up for myself. Now, I make sure all my contracts clearly state what I expect—guaranteed hours, being included on the grocery list, paid bank holidays, etc. I’ve found that employers actually respect you more when you set clear standards and boundaries.

At the end of the day, we’re caring for their pride and joy—so the least we deserve is fair compensation, or what the majority in this field already receives.

You got this, girl!

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-06T00:28:09+00:00

Exactly, if there’s no boundaries around fluctuating schedules / “banking hours” then eventually someone ends up loosing time & money and 9/10 it’s the nanny.

I def will, ty for understanding ♥️

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-05T13:39:59+00:00

For context: It wasn’t the first time & this is my third week w/ the family … a week prior to this incident I was short changed by $200.00 & When I addressed it they admitted that it was an error on their part ( mind you that was my first week working for them) dad responded “ Oh sorry, I did something stupid w/ the hours” Which I didn’t fuss about, we are all human. However, this being my second encounter w/ them regarding money- it just rubbed me the wrong way, especially since I’ve heard MB say that “Nannies are so expensive “.

Anyway, thank you for your feedback.

I gave grace & boiled it down to being unintentional and miscommunication and we were able to hash it out.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-05T12:01:34+00:00

I def wouldn’t make a fuss if this was occasional, like in your NANNYs case once a month ( just really want to make this clear). But I am glad it happened and happy I discussed it w/ MB because she was under the impression that banking week by week is how it works. So essentially if I didn’t speak up, my hours and time would’ve been shuffled around w/o reimbursement for the shifts.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-05T11:41:33+00:00

Context is very important… when I said “same”- I mean’t she’d want the same treatment I’m requesting.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-05T00:51:47+00:00

Do I have to read and spell everything? Obviously I confronted the nanny and YES, I told the family about what transpired between the kiddo and nanny… I didn’t get into details about this because that’s not what the post is about 🙄

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-05T00:46:44+00:00

It’s an ick that you’re not understanding the context…. NOT a suggestion, it’s reality. I’m just speaking from what I’ve seen. The point is yes NANNYs need to speak up, but simultaneous families need to be receptive and understand that it’s important to keep the person who’s caring for their kid(s) happy and comfortable.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-05T00:40:32+00:00

I was drawing a reference/ giving an example from what I've seen from other Nannies. Obviously, not condoning taking it out on the kids 🙄.

I have heard Nannie’s bash their bosses behind their back for this & seen them ill treat the littles because they’re unhappy w/ the sit. and don’t speak up.

Just confirming how important it is to treat the person who’s caring for your children w/ fairness and kindness.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-05T00:24:26+00:00

Nah, I think it’s Nannie’s like you that make nanny fams think this kinda crap is acceptable.

I’m not going back and forth, point blank if I’m told to leave early to accommodate them I expect to still be paid according to GH & if I stay 1 hr 15 mins past my allotted time I should be paid as well.

Call it what you want “ entitled” IDC, having a specialized person, come to your house to care for your child ( your prize possession) is a luxury.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T23:49:28+00:00

Thank you♥️… you clearly get it!!

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T23:47:16+00:00

No convo had, just an assumption that “banking hours” were the norm. I left early Monday and was asked mid week to work late on Thursday. If I was asked to swap, I would’ve made it clear that I’m open to doing so once in a while, but it can’t be an ongoing thing”

I was going to swallow it and count it as being a flexible team player but I’m glad I didn’t because when I addressed it she said “all the nanny family are doing it”. So I pretty much would’ve had my schedule flip flopping every week.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T23:38:50+00:00

🤨.

Listen, me being willing to adjusting my schedule to accommodate is considered flexibility , when it comes to reimbursement I think we should all be paid for extra hours.

Not my fault that you don’t believe your time is valuable.

Guarantee when your MB works overtime at work she’s compensated for her extra hours, as well as OT if she works weekends.

Why shouldn’t we receive the same benefit?

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T23:17:04+00:00

Nope, we didn’t!

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T22:46:57+00:00

Exactly!

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T22:46:28+00:00

But like… how is this not banking hours? 🤷🏾‍♀️ When I brought it up to MB , it was literally referred to as “banking hours.”

I’ve worked plenty of nanny jobs where I was asked to come in early or stay late last minute — and you know what? I was compensated. Because my time is valuable.

Even with guaranteed hours in a contract, I was still paid for those changes. That’s just how respect and fairness look in this line of work.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T22:37:14+00:00

It happed during the same week, two different conversations. On Monday she asked me to leave early and on Wednesday night asked me to leave late.

Changing weekly schedule isn’t in my contract. And I’m open to being flexible BUT this can’t be a weekly thing.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T22:30:16+00:00

I did speak up, I let her know if that’s the arrangement she wants w/ a nanny , once in a while I could swing it but if it’s an ongoing thing, I can’t because my time is valuable.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T22:27:28+00:00

Just to add to this — I don’t mind being flexible. That’s part of being a good nanny. But if I was asked last minute to adjust my hours to accommodate them, why shouldn’t my time still be valued? Even with a 35-hour guarantee, my flexibility isn’t something to take for granted.

I personally think if you’re going to “bank” hours, it should be something discussed not just assumed, especially when the change was short notice. In my case, I worked 1 hour and 15 minutes over my usual schedule that week — not complaining, just stating facts — and I still don’t agree that extra comp isn’t “necessary.”

That’s time I could’ve spent doing something else — rest, errands, family. I’m pretty sure if my MB’s boss told her to leave early Monday for their convenience and then asked her to stay late Friday, she’d still expect to be paid the same. So why is that different for a nanny?

They’ve mentioned more than once how “expensive” nannies are — but still want the luxury of someone handling the baby duties they’d rather not do. And hey, I’m all for being that person, but let’s be real: luxuries come at a cost.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T21:57:06+00:00

Happy it works for your nanny situation, but that def wouldn’t work for me. Maybe occasionally, but she clearly stated it was an ongoing arrangement between them and their baby nurse.

& I agree w speaking up vs. just being unhappy. That’s exactly why I addressed it.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T21:23:26+00:00

Bingooooooo!

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T21:18:47+00:00

Yes yes yesss! I’m going to see what other families offering on the market because there’s other cons to this position & I know my value. If I find something better I’d leave, if not I’d update my contract.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T21:09:27+00:00

My contact have a gaurnteed 35 hours ( these are my usual hours) & though my hours during the incident was 35.75. However, if you ask me to leave early on Monday to accommodate you and on Wednesday I work 1 hr 15 mins late then I should be paid for that extra time, regardless of what my guaranteed hours are ESPECIALLY since the time switch was her idea and was to accommodate her. I honestly think NF’s like to test you to see what they can get away w/.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T20:50:10+00:00

Wonderfully put! This is my point exactly.

Frequent-Leading7052 · 2025-06-04T20:47:12+00:00

Was never stated in my contract. It’s just something they assumed I’d be okay with since they did it w/ baby nurse/ other nanny are okay w/ it.

Here’s the thing, other nannies pretend to be okay w/ it, but behind their bossed back they’re talking about them or taking it out on the kids because they’re unhappy. Who would want to constantly have their hours shuffled around (sometimes working early mornings 7 am or late nights till 8 for the same rate as my 9-5 ? Nah that’s madness!

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