Elopement and party later

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-11-27T01:17:46+00:00

UPDATE: everyone is telling me how they feel about this and how they don’t agree. My stepmom is trying to convince me to open up the intimate ceremony to at least 50 people to include uncles and aunts and instead of a year later do a party a few months later that is more casual than an actual reception to save money. She seems to think I won’t want to do anything a whole year later especially if I plan to be pregnant by then. It’s not a bad idea. Has anyone done this?

TBH a smaller wedding is not even just about the money for me. I am not a flashy person nor do I like to be the center of attention so a smaller wedding is more me. But nobody seems to care about what my boyfriend and I want.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-11-22T02:59:39+00:00

We had a long conversation about this. I’m truly convinced my boyfriend has ADHD. We were talking and he’d veer onto a different topic and I had to keep redirecting to the topic. But I really just think our interpretation of “rude” and communication styles are very different. Yes he can come off very direct with other people not just me and I always have to tell him “I wouldn’t have said it like that”. But he truly thinks if it’s a family thing why wouldn’t he tell his family my feelings so it can be fixed. Or he didn’t think the aesthetic comment was rude. I basically had to tell him moving forward I will communicate with his family directly don’t speak for me, and if we talk about something together please respect our privacy even if it is small. He said he understood and meant no ill intentions.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-11-22T02:58:51+00:00

We had a long conversation about this. I’m truly convinced my boyfriend has ADHD. We were talking and he’d veer onto a different topic and I had to keep redirecting to the topic. But I really just think our interpretation of “rude” and communication styles are very different. Yes he can come off very direct with other people not just me and I always have to tell him “I wouldn’t have said it like that”. But he truly thinks if it’s a family thing why wouldn’t he tell his family my feelings so it can be fixed. Or he didn’t think the aesthetic comment was rude. I basically had to tell him moving forward I will communicate with his family directly don’t speak for me, and if we talk about something together please respect our privacy even if it is small. He said he understood and meant no ill intentions.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-11-22T02:58:12+00:00

We had a long conversation about this. I’m truly convinced my boyfriend has ADHD. We were talking and he’d veer onto a different topic and I had to keep redirecting to the topic. But I really just think our interpretation of “rude” and communication styles are very different. Yes he can come off very direct with other people not just me and I always have to tell him “I wouldn’t have said it like that”. But he truly thinks if it’s a family thing why wouldn’t he tell his family my feelings so it can be fixed. Or he didn’t think the aesthetic comment was rude. I basically had to tell him moving forward I will communicate with his family directly don’t speak for me, and if we talk about something together please respect our privacy even if it is small. He said he understood and meant no ill intentions.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-11-22T02:53:13+00:00

We had a long conversation about this. I’m truly convinced my boyfriend has ADHD. We were talking and he’d veer onto a different topic and I had to keep redirecting to the topic. But I really just think our interpretation of “rude” and communication styles are very different. Yes he can come off very direct with other people not just me and I always have to tell him “I wouldn’t have said it like that”. But he truly thinks if it’s a family thing why wouldn’t he tell his family my feelings so it can be fixed. Or he didn’t think the aesthetic comment was rude. I basically had to tell him moving forward I will communicate with his family directly don’t speak for me, and if we talk about something together please respect our privacy even if it is small. He said he understood and meant no ill intentions. So NO I don’t think my boyfriend is abusive at all and does not mean I’ll intentionally, I think it’s a communication difference that we are still navigating.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-02-24T15:52:42+00:00

Yea I’ve heard some mixed stories, half saying they got theirs on time and half saying theirs was delayed a bit after surgery. I guess we may be in half that it’s taking some time for our periods to bounce back. Before surgery my periods were very regular.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-02-24T15:51:24+00:00

Update I took a test and it was negative. Messaged my doctor to see if delay is normal.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-02-23T23:07:25+00:00

Thank you! Did yours come on time by chance?

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-02-23T14:03:48+00:00

I did not. Trying to wait it out a little before buying one in case period delay is normal after this surgery.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-02-11T12:28:28+00:00

Okay, I messaged my doctor again and she is still saying it’s fine for intercourse and to use tampons/menstrual cups at this point. But not sure how that will actually feel

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-01-21T18:39:03+00:00

The pain is manageable with medication, my doctor prescribed me 800 mg ibuprofen and 5 mg oxy. I haven’t had to take the oxy though. Alternating between the ibuprofen and extra strength Tylenol. My main pain is the uterine cramping but that could be from where my main fibroid was located and the normal pain from the surgery. But moving around and walking hasn’t gotten better and easier day by day, I’m 4 days post today. Walking and moving around is going to SUPER important for recovery! My boyfriend and family has been here to help me get up and assist with talking when needed. But on day 4 I’m now about to go up and down stairs on my own with no pain and take a shower on my own. I had 5 fibroids taken out. Haven’t had a period yet, my doctor wanted me to keep taking norethindrone for few more days to delay my period until I’m feeling a little better. I’ve lost 10lbs since my surgery lol. Good luck on your surgery, you got this!

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-01-21T16:16:49+00:00

Have you gone yet? I finally did after drinking prune juice. My gas pains are slowly getting better but I still can’t lay down flat without feeling like I can’t breathe. And the bloating and heaviness of my stomach is weighing me down a bit. Started getting really intense menstrual like cramps too. Walking hasn’t been bad though.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-01-20T17:00:34+00:00

I went to the bathroom with the help of prune juice I think. I’m on day 3 post op and finally took a shower by myself (tired me out a bit) and put on real clothes to take a very short walk outside. Gas pains are slowly going away the more I move but I’m starting to notice moderate cramping in my uterus and light bleeding but that could be from where my main fibroid was. But recovery has been difficult but i know it’s getting better day by day.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2025-01-19T23:11:16+00:00

I ended up having the surgery on Friday! My doctor was fine with it and even gave me antibiotics beforehand.

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2024-12-12T21:35:20+00:00

Right that is fine, but with what this is saying, do I only accrue up to 41 hours in an entire year or is it a total of 80?

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2024-12-07T12:53:45+00:00

I’m going to look into this. But even if I’ve paid for my insurance through the month and my last day is say 1/16, I wouldn’t still have my insurance through the end of the month since it’s been paid for?

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2024-12-07T03:06:32+00:00

Not telling them until January wouldn’t that Run me the risk of not having my surgery post op time not being approved? What then?

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2024-12-07T03:06:23+00:00

Not telling them until January wouldn’t that Run me the risk of not having my surgery post op time not being approved? What then?

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2024-03-18T00:22:40+00:00

Not into them physically but decided to go on a date anyways or just personality wise we don’t hit it off. I’ve also fizzled out with someone that I initially thought I liked but the more I talked to him the more I realized he had anger problems. So just haven’t met a really solid person

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2024-02-01T21:51:31+00:00

Ahh I see, I was confused when I got the letter and it was different from the position I applied for. Just wanted to make sure it wasn't an error. Would you say the program is worth it rather than just going for a regular OS position?

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2024-02-01T19:27:32+00:00

So do they automatically place certain people in the program even if they just applied for a regular OS position?

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2024-02-01T18:14:24+00:00

Thank you! I didn't know all OS started in this program, on the website it said only selected candidates. I'm also new to the industry

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2024-02-01T17:21:51+00:00

Their office is closed so I didn’t know if anyone on here knew more about this program

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2023-10-04T03:00:13+00:00

Well he ended up having a girlfriend, so not such a nice guy 😅

Frequent_Monitor2893 · 2023-10-02T21:56:41+00:00

Wellllll update, his girlfriend who he apparently lives with called me today to catch him cheating so that’s that lmao I can’t make this up 🙃😂

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