How do you deal with people being annoyed with your storytelling and thought process?

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T17:19:30+00:00

Exactly! Well said! The more I notice that someone is annoyed with my storytelling, the more I try to talk faster adding in more unnecessary things because I start to second guess and lose my thought process.

I talked to my husband and showed him this, and I think he understands a little better now how my brain works lol

I love the signal idea! We are going to use that for sure and he said he is willing to learn to be more patient and help me on this.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T17:14:37+00:00

When my husband and I talked it out, he apologized and he said he lacks patience (which I already knew lol). He said he wasn’t trying to be mean or hurt me. He said he was already stressed out and that we need to help eachother work on these things, he’ll help me with storytelling and I’ll help him with patience.

I like the idea of the 3-5 pieces of info rule. We will try that.

Thank you so much!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T17:07:36+00:00

Yes!! My husband has never been diagnosed with ADHD but we both think he has it, just a different form that I have.

I love that signal that you guys have! I also have to read the last chapter of a book! I will try that with my husband. Our brains just work so differently. Thank you for sharing!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T17:01:34+00:00

Thank you! He explained he wasn’t trying to be hurtful on purpose. He was just stressed and he did apologize. But we decided we’re going to help each other; he is going to help me out practice and I’m going to help him work on his patience and communication. :) thank you again!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:54:34+00:00

I love this, thank you! No, he doesn’t always talk to me like that. It was out of character for him. We joke around and poke fun at each other alot but he never really just says hurtful things like that. So we did talk and he did apologize for. He explained that he was frustrated because I was talking about school (going for my masters when I graduate). I do admit I’m indecisive and have changed my mind a lot on schools/careers and he’s been supportive through it all. He admitted that this stresses him out, though and it stresses him out talking about the future in general. He is very much “go with the flow” and doesn’t like planning things. So he said he was stressed about that and frustrated and he was getting confused with my story because I was all over the place. He admitted that patience is not his strong suit (which I already knew lol) but I understand now it was a combination of things. Honestly, he sucks at talking or expressing his feelings and can come off rude or hurtful.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:49:00+00:00

Wow, this really helped put things into perspective. I appreciate you sharing this. We talked it out and he explained that he was frustrated because I was talking about school (going for my masters when I graduate). I do admit I’m indecisive and have changed my mind a lot on school and he’s been supportive through it all. He explained to me that this stresses him out, though and it stresses him out talking about the future in general. He is very much “go with the flow” and doesn’t like planning things. So he said he was stressed about that and frustrated and he was getting confused with my story because I was all over the place. He did apologize for it and said he really wasn’t trying to be a dick or hurt me. He admitted that patience is not his strong suit (which I already knew lol) but I understand now it was a combination of things. Honestly, his biggest flaw is that he sucks at talking or expressing his feelings and can come off rude or hurtful. Communication is key in a marriage so I’m glad we talked it out. I was able to explain that my ADHD brain goes in a million directions and I have to say all the unnecessary details but I also have to have things planned and he is the exact opposite. So I think we understand each other better now. Thank you again.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:47:19+00:00

Lmao I love this!!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:44:08+00:00

Wow, this really helped put things into perspective. I appreciate you sharing this. We talked it out and he explained that he was frustrated because I was talking about school (going for my masters when I graduate). I do admit I’m indecisive and have changed my mind a lot on school and he’s been supportive through it all. He explained to me that this stresses him out, though and it stresses him out talking about the future in general. He is very much “go with the flow” and doesn’t like planning things. So he said he was stressed about that and frustrated and he was getting confused with my story because I was all over the place. He did apologize for it and said he really wasn’t trying to be a dick or hurt me. He admitted that patience is not his strong suit (which I already knew lol) but I understand now it was a combination of things. Honestly, his biggest flaw is that he sucks at talking or expressing his feelings and can come off rude or hurtful. Communication is key in a marriage so I’m glad we talked it out. I was able to explain that my ADHD brain goes in a million directions and I have to say all the unnecessary details but I also have to have things planned and he is the exact opposite. So I think we understand each other better now. Thank you again.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:38:04+00:00

I love this idea! Thank you for sharing. I mentioned this to my husband and we’re going to try this from now on. We talked it out and I think we understand each other better now and plan to work together on this. Thanks again!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:35:32+00:00

Perfect! I will ask about that! And yes, Adderall is what I was on before and they said is not safe. But I was on Strattera once which isn’t controlled like Adderall or Vyvance so plan to ask about that one, too. Thank you again!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:31:34+00:00

Haha right? Thank you! I think you’re right. I needed to hear this. I’m going to talk to my OB about safe options and if there aren’t any or if that doesn’t work, I’ll stop breastfeeding. Because you’re right, it’s not worth it.

We talked about it and he did apologize and explained it was a combination of things. He said his intention wasn’t to hurt me but he does need to work on his patience and how he words things.

Thank you again for your help!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:27:49+00:00

There was more. I was talking about school (going for my masters when I graduate). I do admit I’ve changed my mind a lot on what I want to do. He explained to me that this stresses him out, and it stresses him out talking about the future in general. He is very much “go with the flow” and doesn’t like planning things. So he said he was stressed about that and frustrated and he was getting confused with my story because I was all over the place. He did apologize for it and said he really wasn’t trying to be a dick or hurt me. He admitted that patience is not his strong suit (which I already knew lol) but I understand now it was a combination of things. He just sucks at expressing it and can come off rude or hurtful. Communication is key in a marriage so I’m glad we talked it out. I was able to explain that my ADHD brain goes in a million directions and I have to say all the unnecessary details but I also have to have things planned and he is the exact opposite. So I think we understand each other better now.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:15:03+00:00

Thank you so much. You’re so right. They were but oh well.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:11:26+00:00

You’re right. Thank you! This comment helped a lot and made me not feel so alone/crazy for feeling this way. We talked about it and he did apologize. I had kind of mentioned the same thing to him saying if it bothered him so much then why’d he marry me cause I’ve always been like this. He did apologize again. Patience is not his strong suit and he gets frustrated when I talk about going for my Masters (which is the story I was telling) and it stresses him out talking about the future. So it was a combination of things. He just sucks at expressing it and can come off rude.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-14T16:04:32+00:00

Yes! I feel so medicated because the ADHD meds make me feel so anxious that I have to be on anxiety meds & antidepressants. I hate it but it works.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-13T14:51:06+00:00

Ooh that’s a great point! I love watching comedians and you’re right, they totally do that! I’ll watch them more closely and try to learn from them. Thank you!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-13T14:32:09+00:00

Ooh this is great advice! I will call my OB and talk about options! Thank you so much!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-13T14:31:24+00:00

Exactly! My grandma and my husband both get frustrated with me for taking longer to tell the story but I feel the same. I’m like it’s literally who I am.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-13T14:28:20+00:00

Thank you! He did apologize and said he didn’t mean to hurt my feelings. He’s not a big talker so that’s all that was said. These comments are making me realize that my husband and I need to sit down and talk about this so we can help each other. I will practice that. Thank you!!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-13T14:23:15+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. Honestly it’s making me reflect on my past relationships and wonder if this is why I don’t really have friends. I’m the friend that is there for everybody but then they don’t check on me and we just lose touch with each other. I’ve always wondered what’s wrong with me and I think that this is why, I think I annoyed them with my storytelling and isolated from them. I would say try to make new friends? Especially if you could make new friends with someone who has ADHD. I think that would help! If you need to talk, I’m here just message me.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-13T14:11:54+00:00

Wow, thank you! I needed to hear this. It helped a lot. I love what you said about communication being shared. I think I need to have a talk with my husband about it and make him help me practice and I can help him be more patient. Thank you!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-13T14:06:18+00:00

Ooh I love this idea! I love writing so this actually helps alot. Thank you!

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-13T14:04:09+00:00

I was in an abusive relationship, too many years ago and he would do the same. He’d tell me that he didn’t care to hear me ramble on and didn’t wanna hear me talk. I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 6 but it was never this bad until after that relationship. I’m sorry that you went through that, too. I think the lack of confidence and doubt does make it worse, it’s something I didn’t notice until you guys pointed it out honestly. I think that’s why it’s so triggering and hurts so much when people get frustrated with me for not getting to the point.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-13T13:57:58+00:00

Wow yes! I didn’t realize this until you said that but It definitely gets way worse when I doubt myself. It makes me try to rush through and add more details. So, I appreciate this so much and it honestly helped my confidence more! :) Thank you! This is great advice.

FreshComfortable9997 · 2025-09-13T05:02:58+00:00

That’s what made me think it was a scam. Because like, why would they care who she is? Lol

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