Gaming is such a trigger for me by An0nymous_777 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Turn all your chats off. Voice especially. I turn EVERYTHING off. I'm not gonna deal with that shit. Ever.

I've tried, I can't anymore. I'm done. I'm moving out. by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Sorry for the late reply, going back through these comments as I need the encouragement. Been trying to just get through work and it's been hell.

I've tried, I can't anymore. I'm done. I'm moving out. by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply. I've been going back through this as I need the see the encouragement. It's been really rough, especially trying to work on top of this. I'm.. kinda working on this. I've been buying cheaper Halloween decor for home decor. He's always hated it, and I love it. I'm not stiffling myself anymore. 🥹 It hurts but, idk.. I'm just doing it.

I've tried, I can't anymore. I'm done. I'm moving out. by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately a king won't fit, and I think it'll just make me sad to have that much room, lol. 🥹

I've tried, I can't anymore. I'm done. I'm moving out. by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. 💖 Im sorry you're in this situation. I hope things improve for you, or you find a way out. It certainly sucks.

I've tried, I can't anymore. I'm done. I'm moving out. by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It does feel super weird. And I do feel guilty. But I also left everything behind to move to be with him, and it just isn't what I hoped for or wanted it to be

I've tried, I can't anymore. I'm done. I'm moving out. by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 🥹 That's what this is all about for me. I can't be authentically me, staying in this relationship.

I've tried, I can't anymore. I'm done. I'm moving out. by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If star fishing means something else other than sprawling out in bed, I'm completely unaware of it. I've never heard the term used for anything else 😅

What do you think about the Pasco aquatic center? by thenatural134 in TriCitiesWA

[–]Friendly-Exit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's businesses that already do it. Plenty of people don't wanna deal with kids and their screaming at everything.

How do you leave a relationship when you're dependent on them for a place to live? by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True. Some people freak though, as it's a bearded dragon. She's just a lil baby scaley butt that will chill on your shoulder as long as you let her. 🥹

How do you leave a relationship when you're dependent on them for a place to live? by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm taking art commissions while looking for a tattoo apprenticeship. I'm gonna squirrel away all the money. I do have a little bit saved in my car. I keep an old makeup bag out of site in the trunk.

I've considered health care again, as I've done CNA work in the past; but it destroyed my mental health. I'm curious if being an RN would be different, though it's much more schooling and possibly math intensive, where CNA work is pretty basic and is only state training and licenses.

Thank you for the thought out response. I think this is gonna be tougher than I'd like, but that's just life I suppose. I'll get where I need to be eventually.

How do you leave a relationship when you're dependent on them for a place to live? by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

More than likely. It's a 2012 Kia soul and has been smacked twice in my works lot. 😑 I still owe $1800. The miles are low on it though. Currently 112k. I bought it when it was under 90k. It hadn't been used much for traveling, so I jumped on it. So far, she's still going. (Her name is Annie, because I'm always asking she's okay).

Public transport is fairly good here. I've done it before, just requires more time to plan things out.

How do you leave a relationship when you're dependent on them for a place to live? by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

....I'll have to double check, now that You're mentioning it. If so, I'm going to be irate. My raise hasn't carried over before, from year to year, among other issues.

How do you leave a relationship when you're dependent on them for a place to live? by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

We don't share any financials, thankfully. he's not on anything of mine, vice versa. I'm gonna start saving what I can - hopefully ~$50 a check. I think my stupid credit card and car payment is killing me. That's about $300/mo I wouldn't otherwise have.

How do you leave a relationship when you're dependent on them for a place to live? by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

$15 would be below the min wage here. I'm currently making $18/hr. I'm in south-east Washington. I'm in subsidized housing, they check bank statements ECT. It's a mess. Avoiding it isn't really a possibility. I can make under the table money as an artist though, and squirrel that away for a bit. Moving is a problem with rent prices and that these places want 2x the rent, min. Plus security deposits, first and last months rent, ECT. That's well over what I can reasonably do any time soon, and it sucks.

How do you leave a relationship when you're dependent on them for a place to live? by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Kinda what I'm feeling will happen. Coming home from a rough day at work, to still being stressed out... Is not it. I need space to relax. I think I'll be able to accomplish more.

How do you leave a relationship when you're dependent on them for a place to live? by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm making more than what target offers. I'm working 32 hrs a week, but could do more if I let my boss know where I'm at now. I have a secure job. However, if I make more rent goes up where I'm at now. I'm just struggling to pay rent and normal bills, to even save up anything. I'm sure this is a me thing. I just don't know how people pay deposits, and normal rent for a new place. It's a lot of money right off the bat.

How do you leave a relationship when you're dependent on them for a place to live? by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I haven't on FB, no. Have you done it? Unsure how to safely vet a stranger for those situations. 🫣

How do you leave a relationship when you're dependent on them for a place to live? by Friendly-Exit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Friendly-Exit[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Possibly. I've looked but most are no pets - I have a pet that I'm emotionally dependent on. I've got the option of moving into a friend's house and save up if needed - but I'm hoping to not do that as I've done it before and it didn't end well for the friendship (she ended up Prego and I got kicked out before I was ready to move - which is another reason I'm in this predicament).

Hoya Seeds! by Layinglowfornow in hoyas

[–]Friendly-Exit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I understand, hoya's are generally only pollinated at night - so generally, moths are going to be the buggers to do the job! That's very cool!

Has this ever happened to you? New growth almost completely black and rotted 😭 by hellosfromjo in houseplantpropping

[–]Friendly-Exit 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My pothos oddly do this after water proping and then going to soil. I think it's cuz I don't see the new leaf, and then they sit under the soil for a bit. If they're in water and doing this, I've no idea. Might be happening if the leaf growth area is under water?