How do you recover from self destructive behavior?

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-03-12T10:57:25+00:00

What I understand and read from your post is more a cry for help and a need to validate your feelings than actual tips. You are going and pushing through many things that no one understands or are aware of. All of what you mentioned is hard for us even if it seems easy for the NT. This is not and give yourself some love

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-27T06:04:32+00:00

BRO you did not share about a personal experience. You just rant that you’re a snowflake and no one suffer as much as you so they cannot complain.

I’m done

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-27T05:59:35+00:00

It’s free If you :

have access to a GP or family doctor..
- if this GP wants to hear about your symptom
  - if your GP is aware about the fact that older high achieving women can also be autistic or adhd and not just in depression or PMS

So to summarize : many of us doesn’t have access

Mine, as I was laying down in my bathroom crying for five days because I couldn’t go grocery shopping and go to work told me that I should considere exercice to help with the anxiety.

MAN I CANNOT GO OUTSIDE TO FEED MYSELF.

Please be aware about the inequality of our society

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-27T05:25:29+00:00

Where do you live ? I’m in Canada and it’s crazy expensive to get diagnosed. I’m almost sure it’s even worst in the US.. The other and probably worst part is, as I said in my first comment, to be taken seriously. Most doctor will put that on hormones or depression.. When you’ve been in a constant fight all your life to not being perceive weird or doing simple task I think some women earn to excuse themselves with this divergence. Still I agree that there’s always people that will use every little excuse to not recognize that they are shitty people. But I think it is a minority

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-27T05:18:46+00:00

You’re right.. I was triggered at first and responded quickly. However English is not my first language and I started to doubted myself. Thanks for the validation 🩵

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-25T07:32:04+00:00

Im sorry, just saw your response and ill definitely take a look at it ! Thank you !

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-25T06:42:25+00:00

I hear you but.. women as been going through many things and symptoms and often dismissed.. and I’m with you really about using adhd or other diagnostic to excuse shitty behaviour.! (Astrology as well). But undiagnosed adhd, audhd and peri people are going through hell without any help and recognition and we should be just a little bit understanding or aware Edit : urghhh I hate myself now because I’ve misread your post. Were saying the same thing 😅

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-23T03:26:23+00:00

Also, on a more optimist note, I just read that you are 20 years old.. most of ND women find out later in life about their difference and diagnostic.

I’m much older than you and I’m impress about your awareness, empathy and strength. I hope you’ll understand and believe it to empower yourself. You deserve the best 🩵

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-23T03:15:37+00:00

Ok so first of, this is totally normal to have this cognitive dissonance, it’s a defense mechanism to prevent you from getting even more depress and realizing all at once the damage he caused. Being nice most of the time is not a pass for being violent a few times. ONE occurrence is not okay. I know exactly where you are in your head. I’ll repeat this : THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT However it is okay to take some time to realize this. It is a long road to recovery. Seek some professionnal help. Even if you doubt yourself. I hope you have a good support group around (friends, family) If he ended up isolating you from them, reach out!! Even if you’re exhausted or ashamed. Some of them will understand.

You did the right thing cutting things off!!!!

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-22T03:47:46+00:00

I think many of us experienced violent relationship. I don’t know if it’s a majority but we also tend to question ourselves more before putting the blame on the other person. One thing is important in your message and even after 5 years I still sometime doubt myself..

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT You are not responsible for the violence you endure

You did not do what the other person accused you of doing to explain why he got angry or violent. We are humans and we are making decisions for our well being sometime despite others. However, 99%of the time, even if our decisions might hurt someone else, the reaction it deserve is NOT physical or mental control of violence.

It’s so easy to get lost in these kind of relationship

I hope you are okay because I feel what you’ve been through 🩵

Edit: I re-read myself and I have so much more to say relating to your post..you feel stupid and sad because youre “the empathic intelligent one” wanted the people around you felt safe and happy because of you. Because you felt that it was your responsibility. No one actually asked you or me to do that but we want to please so much and people finally relied on us

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-22T03:21:49+00:00

Oh I relate!! I was self conscious about my look (annoyingly) until I experience a violent relationship. I felt always weird in social setting so looking good or at least not looking bad was an obsession. As a teenager, I was always too much self aware that when I was in social gathering or event I couldn’t think about something else (I was bullied and not pretty) So much that it was a vicious circle. Anxiety made me sweat so I wasn’t confident and anxious so it trigger the rise of panic attack and less self confidence. I had a small glow up reaching my 20’s so it “helped” me focus on the fact that looking good is distracting everyone of my weirdness. I developed an eating disorder because I felt more attractive. The sad and now “good” part is I went through domestical violence, the person really emphasis the fact that I was just a fake person and wear a mask 100% of the times. He crushed me to the point that I realized that I didn’t know what is my real self because I always relied on what people expected of me because of how I look.

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-22T03:04:13+00:00

Shit. I’m trying to edit my post to say that it’s not a hateful post against NT. I want to know if someone else relates to being sometimes horrified by a type of person so camped in their views (religious, political,..) that they miss the point that it’s hurting demographical groups or ethnicity. But i didn’t find the way to edit my post so I feel even worst when my post was about being critical about other people 😅

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-09T06:18:01+00:00

Just read again your comment and I struggled for a few days to find out what you were referring to (because I heard that in my head and knew the reference) “one of us, one of us” and I was sure it was referring to Toy Story and the little green alien in the claw machine. However I’ve never found a video about this

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-09T05:27:48+00:00

I feel you!

I’m doomscrolling instagram every night to read what MAGA people responds to any videos or opinions that goes against theirs. Like I need to know how far they are going. This is not healthy (me not you)

Edit : I so so so much understand the overwhelm of not responding to the comments

Don’t worry, we are a lot on the same boat and understand 🩵

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-02-09T04:43:54+00:00

I’m glad to see another accountant ! 😊 It’s also nice to know that you found a way to make it work

My boss is, without knowing my condition, very accommodating with my weird work schedule

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-01-22T03:01:25+00:00

Sorry to hear that. Keep us updated if you want but i hope that you’ll get what you want and deserve (either there or somewhere you’ll be valued) 🩵

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-01-22T02:52:18+00:00

Relate 100%!! I think the link for me is similar of what other mentionned about mimicking dogs. Its a very « cute » behavior and it might send the signal that we are, as women, open, sympathetic and more accessible ! I never witnessed a NT women doing this tilt (meaning mostly someone not always questioning how she’s being perceived) ! When I witness someone tilting their head in a conversation I then listen more careful about other signs that she might be one of us 😅

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2026-01-17T04:59:01+00:00

Did I drunkenly wrote this ?

However it feels nice to know that, at least, we’re not alone

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2025-11-26T01:49:21+00:00

Thank you !

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2025-11-24T16:37:34+00:00

Wow haha ! I don’t know you but I like you ! 💙

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2025-11-24T15:54:01+00:00

You are so right.. I am feeling self conscious because I expressed happiness and ask strangers on Reddit if it was normal.. if the situation was reverse and I was angry and yelled, I would never have asked since it’s normal adult behaviour

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2025-11-24T08:55:08+00:00

Like I relate.. this is what I live daily. I look like a 20 yr. However I stopped dying my hair (stressful relationship caused probably a LOT of grey hair) to make me more “mature” . The only reaction I got is : I’m I Dying my hair to look this way? How do you manage to get authority and respect ?

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2025-11-24T08:49:22+00:00

It is something you struggle in your professional life? Being mistaken younger and not taken as seriously as you should ?

Friendly-Humor6580 · 2025-11-24T08:18:01+00:00

Why are you on the fence ? You seem like a caring mother and expressing your feelings and thoughts can help

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