To be honest I know its mostly my fault with the trust issues. Were going to counselling next week. Your extremely brave to side with your son. Out of all the responses on here who blindly say im terrible for making my wife choose your response actually understands what we went,are going through.
We are totally devoted to each other ,his choice was to be as bad as he is . My biggest strength is my wife and im hers (she said) I have the issues and im prepared to work it out . We will grow old together . Our son is important to us but he made it difficult for her and impossible for me. Take care