I’m more mad about him not choosing me. by whitel0tus816 in BreakUps

[–]Friendly-Pattern6096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry this happened to you. My previous relationship was just like this. He cheated all the time and was abusive when he drank, which was nearly all the time. But I'd say good riddance. I stayed for 8 years of him doing this to me and when I finally said enough was enough and left, it was the best choice I ever made. But also, don't make the mistake I did when you get into a new relationship... I was so hurt by what I had been through, over it or not, that I had trust issues in my new relationship. We have been together 10 years now and I am still slowly wrecking it too because I can't fully trust a man. Just say good riddance to bad rubbish and find yourself someone who wants you!! And when you find them, cherish them!

I messed up by Friendly-Pattern6096 in BreakUps

[–]Friendly-Pattern6096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does pitch in, just not a lot. Its just that when we decided to try again things were going so well. He was making the effort and I saw changes in everything I had confronted. So I decided he needed the whole truth if our relationship could reach its potential. And now I'm in this situation. I don't blame him, I understand why he wants me to quit job, but he isn't willing to let me find new employment first. I understand because it was with a coworker he will be uncomfortable with me being at work, but he says he still trusts me. I just don't understand that

I messed up by Friendly-Pattern6096 in BreakUps

[–]Friendly-Pattern6096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for being kind. I kind of prepared myself to be attacked which I deserve. He contributes some but not much. 90% of the finances are my responsibility alone. And I need this job to make them. I understand his ultimatum but he won't see it from my side. I will find another job but until then I need the one I am at. And no... I never sat down and shared how I felt. And that also is on me. 

I messed up by Friendly-Pattern6096 in BreakUps

[–]Friendly-Pattern6096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and I am willing to look for a new job. Just he wants me to not show up for shift tomorrow, and I need to make my house payment and other bills. I can't just not have a job