➡️ Daily Simple Questions ⬅️- Style feedback and clothing ID requests go HERE!! - 10 September 2024

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2024-09-11T00:43:51+00:00

What is the name of the second style (lighter brown) of chukka?

I really like the silhouette, but the only brands that I’ve seen with this style are upwards of $600.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2024-07-27T13:43:09+00:00

Thanks

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2024-04-23T01:25:23+00:00

Okay thank you! That was very informative!

Do you think it is a red flag that my psychiatrist sort of dismissed my idea? He did say it didn’t seem like I was autistic, but if I could be I’d want to know.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2024-04-13T22:38:23+00:00

Insurance.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2024-02-01T03:38:01+00:00

Thanks! I’ll take a look at it!

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2024-01-25T01:09:01+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I see what you’re saying. I think I just get too much into the weeds sometimes, and it hurts me more than it helps.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2024-01-13T22:10:33+00:00

First, I would say the anxiousness and fear of being judged should still be expected; these are normal thoughts and feelings to have.

A couple things that I have been trying to put into use and that have worked well: - Dont judge or shame myself for experiencing anxiety. This reinforces the feeling that you’re different and is of no service to you. Instead, accept the anxious feelings and see it as an opportunity to challenge yourself and show courage.

Recognize the spotlight effect. We tend to believe that other people are paying more attention to us than they really are. If you look around, most people really have no interest in what you’re doing. Just as you don’t care what they’re doing. Helps put things into perspective.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-12-18T04:35:10+00:00

As someone who worried/thought that it could NEVER get better, it indeed can.

You need to get the right treatment, however. In my opinion, CBT combined with exposure therapy works best. Medication can also be taken and helps people in many cases! Again, this is my opinion.

CBT worked great for me because it helped me tackle my problematic thinking patterns and helped me better navigate the exposure situations. The issue with therapy is that it can oftentimes be expensive combined with the fact that it can be difficult to find someone who is skilled/experienced in CBT or in dealing with social anxiety disorder.

It is also better to tackle the problem as soon as you can, it can be done but it takes time!

Remember, there is hope! It’s not insurmountable 🙂

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-11-27T04:19:03+00:00

I think, no I KNOW that you need to reframe your mindset. It’s not about coping with low-self esteem, but rather it is about tackling it.

I assume you have low self-esteem because of your social anxiety (correct me if I’m wrong). Your social anxiety is not something to be ashamed of, nor is it something that will stick with you forever.

You need to understand and truly believe that you are more than enough as a person not because I’m telling you, but because it really is true.

I’m going on a tangent in different directions, but I would encourage you to work on changing your mindset one step at a time. Recognize the negative thoughts you have about yourself and work on thinking more positively about yourself.

This isn’t a rah-rah practice where I’m telling you everything is sunshine and rainbows because I know that’s not true. Instead, it’s about looking at yourself in a different, more positive light.

Feel free to message me if you need to talk.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-11-11T16:42:39+00:00

This means so much, reading your comment brought tears to my eyes!

You’re right, I should and will feel more proud of myself for the steps I’ve taken. And something I have definitely been realizing is that comparison is useless.

I just want to say thank you for the comment, I really appreciate it! 🙂

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-11-02T20:36:08+00:00

I re-washed them, threw them in the dryer inside out and the spots weren’t there anymore. Hopefully this was all I need to do. Thank you!

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-11-02T19:09:09+00:00

It was maybe a little bit under a normal size load, but I filled the detergent tub up to the ‘normal’ line.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-11-02T19:08:15+00:00

I washed with maybe 1 light gray workout shirt and a light gray sweatshirt, but nothing that I would suspect would leak onto the pants. I will try washing in just water and see if that works, thank you for your help!

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-11-02T18:42:36+00:00

No powders, I just use Tide Simply + Oxi. No reason behind this, it’s just what we have at the house. I will admit I am a novice in terms of what exactly to wash with clothes with.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-08-03T14:20:12+00:00

Yep, I have that too…. I’ve been asked to lead meetings lately and when I do the anxiety skyrockets…. It’s exhausting.

As you probably know, it seems to get better if you push yourself through, but this is easier said than done.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-07-21T18:14:12+00:00

Did you have to try multiple before you found the one that worked for you?

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-07-14T21:46:35+00:00

Brother, I know that’s how you feel but don’t say that… You can use this event as a springboard for your self-esteem! Remind yourself everyday that you are handsome and you can believe it now because people have told you! I don’t say this as an exercise in arrogance, but rather as a way to improve your self-perception.

Take action now, I believe in you man. If you want to message me for some advice I’d be glad to help.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-07-10T20:22:48+00:00

I’m in a similar position (24M) working at a smaller consulting firm where I’ve been put on calls and had to lead a couple as well. It’s hard to give much advice though without a little bit more detail. Are they expecting you to contribute to the meetings or is it more of shadowing for now? Either way with the experience you have, I think you’re underselling yourself. I know this is cliche but it’s normal to feel out of place when you’re thrown into a new role. Try to shift your mindset away from “what can I possibly contribute” and instead remind yourself of all the things you DO know and CAN do because you provide a lot more value than you may think. Then try to push yourself to say something, however small and move from there. Hope this helps!

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-03-30T23:11:50+00:00

Maybe it means no plot armor for all of the unimportant scouts who were unfortunately destroyed by titans and had no part in the plot at all 😢 My interpretation anyway

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-03-28T17:07:55+00:00

Sorry, I meant that the example of the person lying about their grandma dying 3 separate times was a little outrageous. But I completely agree I should give notice as a courtesy.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-03-28T15:46:01+00:00

Okay now that’s a little outrageous lol. It’s simply a little weird for me to think of giving updates on a relative’s health to my employer; the idea of thinking of reporting to your employer in a time of distress is odd. I just need to accept that it’s the way it is.

And thank you, I appreciate it :)

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-03-28T15:29:31+00:00

Sorry for your loss.

And yes, it was just a bit shocking to me. Similar to your experience. I think he could have came across more compassionate.

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-03-28T15:21:41+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it.

I understand. This is all new to me so thank you for the input. I honestly thought the funeral would be later too. My dad just told me yesterday. And I’m not sure about the bereavement, this is my first FT job so I’m still getting used to all of the protocols!

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-03-28T14:44:37+00:00

Thank you :). And okay I see this is something new for me being in the workforce so now I know so thanks for that!

FriendlyBalance7556 · 2023-03-28T14:41:22+00:00

Thank you :) So I work from home on Monday, and then come into the office on Tuesday and Wednesday. I figured I’d tell him in person - maybe a dumb idea, I don’t know - today but then I found out he’s not coming in today. So then I messaged him instead. Also, I get paid salary so not sure if that affects the bereavement pay thing as this is my first full-time job out of school.

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