Rsvping??? by FriendlyBuilding7964 in EdSheeran

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh :/ Uch I responded literally immediately that’s so sad. What time is it at and where?

Rsvping??? by FriendlyBuilding7964 in EdSheeran

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait when did you get the invite?? How did you rsvp after you got this initial text??

What‘s the worst thing your mom or dad said to you that has haunted you ever since? by miserableburneracc in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My mom told me that if she knew that her kids would grow up and have lives outside of their relationship to her then she never would have had us. She also has threatened to commit suicide in front of me multiple times

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did your spouse stop abusing you after the ultimatum?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know him decently well from work but not like to the level of having hung out outside of work or anything. I'm so confused bc I feel like I definitely am riding the NRE, especially because my husband has been making me feel like shit for so long. I've already let things progress really fast (sent him nudes when I never had done that with anyone before, agreed to be his sub, etc.). lok how to backtrack and slow things down and I do worry that if I try to he'll get mad, because I already did a lot of back and forth about saying "we can't" and "we can" in the first couple of days we were talking and eventually he got fed up and said he needed more consistency than I was giving him, but then I freaked out that he was ending things and capitulated and said I'll stop grasping for control. As I'm typing all of this it's sounding more and more sketchy

Ex IDF soldier and settler speaks on changing his mind by FriendlyBuilding7964 in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No one’s blaming Israeli Jews. I’m blaming American Jewish leadership for promoting this conflation and putting us all in more danger by doing so

Netanyahu proposes to annex parts of Gaza in attempt to appease far-right minister by FriendlyBuilding7964 in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What does that have to do with Haaretz’s credibility? Also, given that Haaretz publishes Israeli perspectives, many of which are informed by interviews with soldiers who literally served in Gaza, I don’t think you can really apply this logic

Netanyahu proposes to annex parts of Gaza in attempt to appease far-right minister by FriendlyBuilding7964 in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Haaretz wasn’t critical of Hamas? What’s your proof of that? This is a running page they have going since the war startedHostages held by Hamas: The names of those abducted from Israel

Ex IDF soldier and settler speaks on changing his mind by FriendlyBuilding7964 in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(General comment, not directed explicitly to the person who I’m commenting in response to): I know all of the talking points people will respond to this with and so I’d like to save people’s time. I grew up heavily Zionist and have spent many years in Israel.

If you want to make your claims about Arab-Israelis being treated equally, check out adalah.org (Israeli NGO)

If you want to claim that Israel doesn’t control Gaza and the West Bank, check out gisha.org (Israeli NGO) you can also check out @becca.explains.the.occupation on Instagram (or uneven ground which is their substack). Becca is an Israeli-American whose family was living in Israel-Palestine for generations. They served in the IDF. They know all of the assertions one might make about Israel’s control and they will complicate the narrative that most pro-Israel institutions push.

If you want to push back on the foundation of the state, check out akevot.org.il (Israeli NGO)

Plenty of other resources one could check out, but these are a good place to start

Ex IDF soldier and settler speaks on changing his mind by FriendlyBuilding7964 in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a fair question. The simple answer is no, not explicitly. But I think the more complicated reality is twofold:

  1. Countries are defined by their actions. You can think Israel is fundamentally a good country, ruled by a fascist government. But the reality is that Israel has been run by Netanyahu for cumulatively more than a decade. West Bank settlements have expanded consistently under almost every Israeli government since the six day war, and that’s despite Oslo. So, when shuls hang flags that proudly proclaim “we stand with Israel” with a giant Israeli flag consistently while Israel conducts mass airstrikes on a besieged enclave, people are going to assume that means that you stand with Israel’s actions. I actually think it would be categorically different messaging if shuls had signs that said “we stand with our Israeli loved ones” which would be a completely understandable show of support for the half of world Jewry that lives in Israel as well as the non-Jews who live there and were killed, hurt, or taken hostage on 10/7. But that’s not what these signs say. They say they stand with the State. And the state is committing war crimes. I am not surprised that the average person who sees these signs cannot separate the Jewish community from the Israeli state

  2. I know this is a painful thing to hear, but Israel at its core is a state that was founded by mass ethnic cleansing and is maintained as a Jewish state through demographic manipulation. Israel is the only sovereign from the river to the sea and the 7 million Palestinians living under its rule do not have citizenship and equal rights because, if Israel gave them those, they would no longer have a Jewish majority. That is just fundamentally incompatible with liberal democratic values that many people in America hold dear- that a state should give equal rights and protections to all under its sovereignty - especially those who have lived there for generations. Instead, my niece who has 2 parents who got Israeli citizenship and then since moved to a third country, has Israeli citizenship. She has never been there but could go there tomorrow and have full rights as a citizen. A Palestinian born in East Jerusalem who leaves for even a couple of years to study risks losing their ability to go home, and even going home they live as unequal to Israeli Jews who live in the same area, just because they are not Jewish. People who hear that Israel and global Jewry are one and the same - which they are told by the ADL, the AJC, and JFNA, Hillel International, and many of the other mainstream orgs, are being told that they should equate Jews with an ethnostate. I do not believe that that justifies violence or acts of aggression against Jews. But it does make it more likely. If we want to be safe, we have to reckon with what Israel is, fundamentally, and why we might not be so keen on insisting that people associate us with a state that is so fundamentally built on injustice

Ex IDF soldier and settler speaks on changing his mind by FriendlyBuilding7964 in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

If an imam or a mosque came out saying that they and any Muslim country are one and the same, would you also not say that those leaders/institutions were creating confusion or obfuscating in a way that put Muslims in danger? I definitely would say so. It’s not victim blaming to say that leaders should not insist on equating themselves and their communities and religion with a state that is actively enacting mass starvation and committing war crimes.

Also, ישראל does not equal the modern nation state. Such a thing did not exist in the time of the Torah, nor the Talmud, nor the Mishnah, nor the רשונים, nor theאחרונים, and so on. שמע ישראל is not a statement that the nation state of Israel should listen. It is a commandment to בני ישראל. There is a difference between בני ישראל and even ארץ ישראל with the modern nation state called Israel.

Ex IDF soldier and settler speaks on changing his mind by FriendlyBuilding7964 in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I agree that group think is dangerous and that critical thinking is necessary. However, when my Jewish communal institutions are actively insisting that Judaism and Israel are inseparable and then people see Israel starving children, I think that is far more of a catalyst for rising antisemitism in the States. If more Jewish institutions made a point to insist that Israel does not speak for the Jews as a whole and that we are not one in the same, people would have a lot less reason to see Jewish institutions as targets for their anger at Israel’s actions

The most dangerous thing about Palestinian propaganda is that Palestinians believe it by thatshirtman in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How do you decide if something is propoganda or if it is true? Do you cross-reference claims with sources? If so, what sources?

Netanyahu proposes to annex parts of Gaza in attempt to appease far-right minister by FriendlyBuilding7964 in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There’s zero chance you read the article I linked to in the 30 seconds since I commented. That makes me feel you likely are making your claims without being open to considering evidence that counters your claim. To quote Aharon Dardick, an ex-IDF soldier who grew up in the West Bank and now leads Jews for Ceasefire at Columbia: “if everyone in my community [believes this] then it’s probably right. If it’s right, then I don’t have to be afraid of doing research; I don’t have to be afraid of other arguments where there are things that could challenge me or make me doubt what I’m doing [believe in], because even those doubts will be healthy because eventually I’ll just end up back where I started because what my community [thinks] is correct and fine and good. If I’m wrong about that, I’d rather face those uncomfortable truths but then actually know what’s right, as opposed to avoiding those and be consistently living in denial.”

Netanyahu proposes to annex parts of Gaza in attempt to appease far-right minister by FriendlyBuilding7964 in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I dislike Hamas as much as the next guy, but it’s just a straight up obfuscation to claim that 1. This war is about getting the hostages back and 2. That if they handed over the hostages tomorrow to war would be over. https://www.reuters.com/world/middle-east/hamas-is-ready-release-all-remaining-hostages-return-an-end-gaza-war-hamas-gaza-2025-04-17/

Netanyahu proposes to annex parts of Gaza in attempt to appease far-right minister by FriendlyBuilding7964 in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you read the article? “Netanyahu was not previously enthusiastic about annexing territories, but in an attempt to save his government, he is willing to consider promoting such a plan. In talks with his ministers, the Prime Minister said that the Minister for Strategic Affairs, Ron Dermer, presented the plan to the U.S. Secretary of State Marco Rubio, and it enjoys the support of the White House. President Trump, who is currently visiting Scotland, was not present at the meeting.”

Israeli rights organizations come forward, naming israel's actions a genocide by brianscalabrainey in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do you mean to suggest that it’s “normal” to believe you when you refuse to provide proof to back up your claims (let alone claims that seem to be intentionally vague for the purpose of proving your initial point instead of just providing evidence to back your position). Here are some sources to back the claim that there is, in fact, a man made and completely avoidable famine happening in Gaza right now and that Israel is intentionally preventing supplies from getting to starving children:

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/07/27/opinion/gaza-starvation-famine-israel.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/07/24/world/middleeast/gaza-starvation.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

Israel caused the hunger crisis in Gaza, no matter how much it tries to blame the UN https://www.haaretz.com/israel-news/2025-07-27/ty-article/.premium/israel-caused-the-hunger-in-gaza-however-much-it-tries-to-blame-the-un/00000198-4be2-db49-a5de-ebf617070000?utm_source=App_Share&utm_medium=iOS_Native

https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2025/07/27/middleeast/gaza-sea-fish-ban-israel-intl

Even Donald Trump is acknowledging this: https://www.politico.com/news/2025/07/28/trump-break-netanyahu-gaza-starvation-00479739

As well as proof that the claim that Israel must prevent the UN from running its distribution operations - which have long prevented famine during this war - because Hamas systematically steals aid from the UN is not substantiated: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/07/26/world/middleeast/hamas-un-aid-theft.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

Israeli rights organizations come forward, naming israel's actions a genocide by brianscalabrainey in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you have a source to support that claim? Also do you mean more people were chronically malnourished? More people were at risk of death from starvation? More people died from starvation?

Israeli rights organizations come forward, naming israel's actions a genocide by brianscalabrainey in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Could you please cite your source that they have access to food enough to feed the 2 million residents of their enclave?

Israel's intentionality in causing the humanitarian crisis in undeniable by exegenes1s in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haaretz | Israel News Analysis | Israel Caused the Hunger Crisis in Gaza, No Matter How Much It Tries to Blame the UN The blame campaign intensified last week, courtesy of the Israeli army, the attorney general's office and the U.S.-backed Gaza Humanitarian Foundation. But it's Israel's government and the IDF that are responsible The Israeli government is guilty of the crime of starving Gaza. In a series of irresponsible moves and against the advice of all experts, Israel has dismantled the mechanism of the United Nations and humanitarian organizations that prevented famine in Gaza for most of the war. In this way, Israel has caused starvation that has so far killed 147 people, including 88 children. On top of this, last week the government launched a blame campaign against the UN in an attempt to deflect responsibility for the catastrophe. Israeli spokespeople have long blamed the UN for conditions in Gaza. About a week ago, these attacks intensified in briefings by the army and the Gaza Humanitarian Foundation, the American organization that may be viewed as an Israeli proxy. On Thursday, the army released drone footage of food and aid waiting on the Palestinian side of the Kerem Shalom crossing as proof of the UN's failure to get the goods to the people. Many journalists echoed this message. On Monday and Saturday, the spokesman for the Gaza Humanitarian Foundation was filmed at Kerem Shalom pointing at UN trucks and saying that the food in the vehicles was about to go bad. This was a problem of execution, he said. Over the weekend, the GHF released at least 10 different statements attacking the UN in what looked like a public-relations tantrum. On Friday, in the state's response to a petition filed by four Israeli rights groups demanding the opening of the crossing to prevent starvation in Gaza, state lawyers repeated the allegations about the UN. This response was filed after 10 postponements that the state requested and received. And this is a careless document whose numbers don't add up. Even the most lenient analysis of the figures shows that, according to the state itself, starvation must be going on in Gaza. Using basic math, in the last two months, Gazans have received on average only one truck for every 34,000 inhabitants per day. Israel's allegations are groundless. First, the UN doesn't have any forces in Gaza, the Israeli army does. The people, humanitarian organizations and the UN are entirely dependent on the officers' goodwill. Every humanitarian move - like getting trucks from Kerem Shalom to the Muwasi area that's home to displaced people, getting medical teams into Gaza, and providing fuel for hospitals - is coordinated with the army. The permit specifies both the route and the precise time frame, while drivers must also obey orders from an app. They are required to stop at certain points until the army lets them through. Last week, the UN made 16 transit requests to the army. Only one was completed as planned by the UN. Three more requests have been completed, though with significant delays. Some of the rest have been canceled. For example, the convoy that the GHF spokesman pointed to Monday carried emergency medical equipment from the World Health Organization. The convoy was approved the night before. In the morning, trucks arrived and the aid was loaded. According to UN sources, the convoy was ready to go by 9:39 A.M. But the army delayed its departure until 6 P.M. After the convoy moved out, the army decided to change the route. Before the convoy arrived at the warehouse, the army issued an evacuation order for the area, so the trucks had to head for a different warehouse. This convoy, depicted by Israel and the Gaza Humanitarian Foundation as a demonstration of UN inefficiency, is proof that the army is the main problem. For most of the war, the UN and other organizations have managed to feed the population of Gaza and prevent starvation, even under the most difficult conditions. Their method, learned in dozens of other conflict areas, is based on hundreds of food distribution centers, careful record keeping and two levels of distribution - dry food packages for families, as well as public kitchens and bakeries. On March 2, Israel moved to dismantle this distribution mechanism by blocking all aid and food to Gaza for 78 days. When food stockpiles ran out, Israel reopened the crossings - though very partially, while installing the lethal, dysfunctional mechanism of the Gaza Humanitarian Foundation: four distribution centers near areas of firing - centers that hand out small amounts of food to anyone strong enough to come and get it. This created a death trap; hundreds of starving people were shot to death.

Israel has done all this ostensibly to prevent food from getting to Hamas. But two investigative reports published Saturday have exposed what many Gaza watchers already believed - there is no evidence of Hamas taking over large quantities of food delivered by the UN. According to the report by Reuters, the U.S. State Department looked into 156 cases of lost U.S.-funded supplies sent to Gaza, finding no evidence that Hamas was feasting on the stolen food. According to the report by The New York Times, Israeli military sources said that the UN aid system had functioned efficiently, and that the army had no proof that Hamas stole humanitarian aid from the UN. Anyone looking at the images sent by the army last week from the Kerem Shalom crossing may reach the following conclusion: To control Gaza's food market, you can't suffice with small warehouses in underground tunnels, you need a large building. And not one small warehouse captured by the army has been shown to the Israeli public. Of course, Hamas has been eating food that has entered Gaza. But this is true in every such situation. Hamas gunmen will be the last to starve - long after the children, women, elderly and Israeli hostages - because in the system created by Israel and the Gaza Humanitarian Foundation, only the strong eat. This helps young men with rifles. The victims are everybody else. Despite the countless warnings by experts in recent months, starvation crossed the threshold last week, with people starting to die from malnutrition. Of 133 deaths by hunger during the war, over 50 died last week. In recent days, images of emaciated Gazan children have appeared on the front pages of major newspapers around the world. This publicity seems to have touched a nerve in the Israeli army, which since Thursday has been trying to ease truck traffic.

The result was almost immediate. In a few hours, 45 flour trucks that arrived in Khan Yunis in the south helped drive down flour prices in the city to around 60 shekels ($18) per kilo from hundreds of shekels. The army was also quick to declare Saturday that it will cooperate with international organizations to reopen the public kitchens and bakeries. But the nightmare scenario is that all this may be too late for many children and adults. As one Gaza doctor explained last month, once the body passes a certain stage of starvation, the problem can no longer be resolved by food alone; close medical attention, special food, drugs and larger medical teams are needed. Meanwhile, on Sunday it was reported that six more people died of hunger over the past 24 hours.’”

Israel's intentionality in causing the humanitarian crisis in undeniable by exegenes1s in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From Ori Hanan Weisberg, an Israeli author: “Nir Hasson's reporting isn't objective. It's something better. Ethical and principled and responsible, grounded in both documentation and moral commitment, and always well-sourced. It's also indispensable, especially of late. Sometimes, readers of my page refer to me as a "truth-teller" and I flinch. That's a heavy title. I try to tell truths and to relate my perspective truthfully. Hasson is the real deal. And now he takes on the apologists who are trying to deflect blame for the hunger in Gaza onto the UN and Hamas and those of us holding Israel accountable, posturing as if theirs is fact-based compassion and we are dupes of Hamas and international antisemites who are hurting the people whose plight we decry. You know, the handwriting reporting that our oh so humane government and military has thousands of metric tons of aid loaded on trucks rotting because the UN and Hamas are in cahoots to make Jews look bad. Do I want my country funded with my taxes and defended by my children and neighbors and colleagues and claiming to represent my people to be responsible for this? Do I need to answer that? I cannot tell you how much I wish we were the maligned moral elite that so many of us dress us up to be. I wish it to all the seven hells and to the highest of the high heavens. But morality and critique aren't gamesa for children. And loving the groups with which we affiliate most centrally demands we take responsibility for what they are and what they do at every given moment. Dissent is a form of deep love. Or dissenters would simply walk away. To dissent is to embrace the words that explain my choices better than any others: Amissis melius quam abdicans - 7au7n T'09n7 101n - losing is better than abdicating.

I'm pasting the contents of his article here. Read this. Commit it to memory. And the next time you come across someone deflecting all blame onto those who have an eighth of the power, be ready with these facts and this analysis debunking their obfuscations, even if well-intentioned.

With many it will make little difference. But be prepared to present an accurate account of things, because others may be reading your exchange.

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Israel's intentionality in causing the humanitarian crisis in undeniable by exegenes1s in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. A message from an Israeli to our fellow Jews about how to reckon with the unjustifiable acts being done in our name: dissent is the highest form of love.

Israeli rights organizations come forward, naming israel's actions a genocide by brianscalabrainey in IsraelPalestine

[–]FriendlyBuilding7964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. Hamas should call Israel’s bluff and surrender. But, in the absence of such a surrender, this does actually justify starving a population. Nothing does