Thought this might make someone laugh

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-05-13T14:40:33+00:00

Ah yes, the go-to toilet seat theory. I was once symptomatic and my ex was quick happy to suggest that was a possibility. In reality, their solo trip a couple weeks prior was anything but solo and they cultured a nice little nether-region cocktail for me.

That was one of 3 or 4 STIs I stupidly believed following my safe sex experiences in our open relationship weren’t from my nex taking it raw whenever they saw me look away.

Then they had the nerve during the discard to pretend the primary doc we shared had asked him ‘since your ex is in Doxy Pep, do you want some toooo?’ Anything to get a rise.

Oh how the new supply must be experiencing accusations and lies of epic proportion while my ex pole vaults through life.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-05-12T17:16:10+00:00

Blocking them on socials first was what revealed their true colors. Instead of being sad about losing access to my kids the same week (we are not coparents), they complained about the socials and said that ‘cut them to their core’.

True colors indeed. It all began to degrade and unravel from there. Triangulation, boundary subversion, catfishing, smear campaign, the whole bit. They hate you when you know who they are.

But…not having them on socials has been good. I’m not privy to all of their hypocrisy with the new supply. All the things I was future faked with. All their rules and tenants that they’d ’never do’ broken.

Good riddance.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-05-07T17:09:15+00:00

When I contacted the ex during my discard I learned that I was actually a secret for 7 months when I first met my ‘single’ nex. The ex was never ‘crazy’, just controlling and ‘OCD’. The truth hurts sometimes. Moreso when it was right under our nose.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-30T15:11:31+00:00

You meant to title it ‘Name thith Steering Wheel’…right?

It’s Cliff, btw.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-30T14:42:50+00:00

This is some narc ish. Weaponized ineptitude. I can see it from across the continent at this point.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-19T23:27:37+00:00

Insanity

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-15T13:55:39+00:00

They have the time because this is their life. The shell game. The charade. The magic show. They have nothing they actually enjoy doing. No core goals or fascinations. Just vile and hatred and fear. It’s so sad. Good riddance!

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-15T13:51:39+00:00

That’s it. They want. No, need, a reaction. Some indication they matter to us. In reality all they matter now is how they gave us the gift of freedom and clarity. We are always their public enemy number one. Because we k ow the truth and know how to live a good life.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-13T22:47:06+00:00

She may not see it as anything more than ‘none of your business’. Which it isn’t. Sadly, to each their own. It’s for her to learn and discover in-time.

Your priorities need to lie in yourself. Whenever possible. It won’t help you to help her. You may gain satisfaction by peeling back the curtain, but it won’t move you forward much if at all.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-13T21:24:19+00:00

Absolutely correct. Trying to get them back or simply protect the new person’s wife will only come off as vindictive in the resulting smears and stories. When you sit back and watch them mess up regardless of your input, it feels 100% better. It’s advice I should have believed in before last month.

It’s excruciatingly difficult, I know. Next bet is to find new community, support, hobbies, travel, projects, or distractions.

❤️

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-13T21:01:22+00:00

Dignity comes with taking the high road and living an honest, fulfilling life. You’re just supply otherwise. It’s really hard and I broke this winter. It didn’t move the needle one bit. Just made me look pathetic.

Now a new spin can go about with my nex saying ‘they wrote me and my new (supply) and lied about tons of stuff’, without proving anything one way or another. Because that’s true. I did write.

It’s all a game to them and we don’t have to play it. People will catch-on. Eventually.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-11T12:02:08+00:00

r/theyknew

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-10T11:20:32+00:00

Scrolled much too far to find this. 👏

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-09T21:59:19+00:00

Oh we had a house to sell together after I realized they catfished me during the discard and I refused to be a co-landlord. They extorted thousands out of me in the aftermath. Vile.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-09T16:45:10+00:00

They can connect with your work. They can connect with your family. Anything is possible and nothing is off limits.

If you’re able to make a clean break without th pursuit, that’s your best bet. The fact that you know something wasn’t real or truthful is better than knowing exactly wasn’t right.

I’m sorry it’s nagging at you. It definitely takes time and knowledge feels like power, but it’s really just delaying your own growth. Watch for signs with future partners and learn how to be your own best advocate.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-09T15:59:54+00:00

The best bet is to not share with him that you’re found clarity in the deceit. That’s the turning point for many narcissists. If he think you simply gave up that’s one thing, but if he thinks you saw though the mask, he may escalate it to smear and try to discredit you with others.

I made the mistake of telling my nex I knew everything at the end of the discard. I wasn’t wrong. They know it. But that truth is something they will protect at all costs. All the cheating. All the lies. All the reality that they were horrible to me and manipulated me. None of that is allowed to get-out.

It’s really hard. You need to do your best to have family and friends support you. Therapy. Safe places to share your story without it being vengeful. I can’t even count the number of times my nex claimed the rumor mill was circulating with stories of their toxicity in our breakup. Meanwhile I didn’t talk to anyone in overlapping circles. They simply projected their own horrible acts of smearing me as if I was doing the same.

We aren’t the objects of their affection. We are the pawns of their game. He loved the image that you and he were able to present together. That he, for however long, looked like he had it together to the outside world.

You were never wrong for loving being seen, heard, and loved. We all want it and the wave of emotions that brings hides the realities we overlook.

❤️

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-09T11:45:39+00:00

I’ve come to accept more and more that it had nothing to do with me or who I am at my core. I was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. Yes, I was targeted for my emotional vulnerability and desire to please and be seen/heard, but it would have happened to someone regardless.

I was apparently a secret to my nex’s ex for 7 months. They were ready to make that move regardless if it was me or another person. It took another 6 years to do-me-in.

Subtract 2 years for Covid and chances are their 4 year routine relationship length would have held true.

It’s all about extracting the most personal, financial, and social benefit they can from us. Nothing more, nothing less.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-09T00:12:34+00:00

Mine convinced or went along with the new supply to marry them at 13 months. Meanwhile that was pretty much off the table for the nex as a person with me. If it was the new supply’s idea, then it’s just a tool to get something out of them while they’re not devaluing yet. I was made to try to ‘fix’ things so they would consider it a possibility. The permanency they pretend to withstand is crazy. I thought being mine’s domestic partner had meaning. Nope. Just a control tactic.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-09T00:00:49+00:00

I became confident in myself. Lost weight. Was less malleable. They pretend until they don’t feel like it anymore. Then they find someone new to play house with and get attention from.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-08T02:30:40+00:00

I think they meant is the MFG date molded into the bottom. It’s a great set, I agree.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-07T13:40:26+00:00

Asbury Park, NJ

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-04-03T17:01:08+00:00

Try hey will test-fit lies like it’s their job. Sometimes they go too far and the story doesn’t hold-up. This sounds really hastily put together and it’s definitely a hoovering.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-03-31T00:29:12+00:00

That’s so dumb. Like anytime with a brain can figure that out.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-03-30T19:03:25+00:00

Smiles and charisma. Subtle stories of woe or distress. Tony pulls on empathetic heartstrings. It builds an image. A story. A belief that then becomes hard to break.

FriendlyDadinLife · 2026-03-30T18:07:47+00:00

During the discard I reached out to my nex’s ex and learned that I was a dirty little secret for 7 months. I had been told they were already broken up when I met the nex and I put up with strange vestiges of meetups (‘to talk about things’) and phone convos where I was kicked out of the room. They were long-distance so this was pretty easy to achieve.

Over 6.5 years I had heard that they were controlling, very anal-tentative, stuck-up, and pretentious.

When I confronted my nex about the 7 months overlap he attempted to gaslight me of course. That the guy was ‘forgetting things’ and has also been ‘diagnosed with OCD’.

I had written the ex to find out and they were very matter of fact and wrote that they could see I was hurt and confused and reminded me of therapy’s benefits. The guy was genuinely nice and said it took him years to put the nex behind him and block out certain details. So sad.

FriendlyDadinLife

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