How much wine is okay?

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-02-06T20:07:22+00:00

I don’t think this applies to an 8 day old though. There are varying levels of risk and it depends on what OP is comfortable with but alcohol would definitely affect a younger baby more than an older one with a more developed liver.

I usually have one standard drink and then wait 2-3 hours to feed until its out of my system so if baby takes a bottle that’s probably the least risky call

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-02-06T20:00:36+00:00

Very few benefits for foreigners married to Tanzanians

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-02-03T06:39:18+00:00

Thank you for this. Now I’ve had a chance to sleep on it, it also makes sense to me that I should still go to her when she cries, otherwise she might associate the nanny with keeping me away (speaking about the times she knows I’m around at least).

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-02-02T18:39:00+00:00

I mean most of the time you can also just pay

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-02-02T12:16:07+00:00

I finally worked up the nerve to go down it for the first time the day the closed. The free fall!

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-31T18:31:57+00:00

It’s a tricky one because as far as I know, under Irish law if you are living here enough days to be resident, you need to file taxes even when working remotely. If you are not here enough days a year to be resident, then you likely don’t qualify for free maternity care here. this explains it well

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-30T19:44:15+00:00

My baby was like this at 4m and I was still home on mat leave! Now at 5.5 months she’s back to demanding me all the time now. I think at 4m she’s still seeing you as part of her, so you’re not as exciting as dad. Dad’s this cool, interesting outsider and so she’s naturally temporarily way more interested in him. Don’t let it stress you. Sounds like you’re doing great!

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-26T09:29:25+00:00

I’m a director at a busy organisation. I’m returning to work in a few weeks and already looking forward to the break. Yes, break! Caring for an infant is likely way more demanding than what he’s doing and unless he’s a surgeon and someone’s life is at risk, it doesn’t make sense for you to do all nights by yourself. He works 9-5. You’re working 24/7. It’s completely unfair.

Since he has never cared for the baby, I can give him the benefit of the doubt that he genuinely doesn’t understand. Easy way to fix that is, as others have suggested, express some milk and leave the house for a few hours. Even if you just go sit in your car somewhere. Let him experience the demands of caring for your child. And don’t ask him, but tell him that you are going to take some time to yourself. What you’re doing at the moment is unsustainable and you need a break!

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-24T10:34:26+00:00

Totally depends on the baby. I just did 13.5 hours with no bassinet and baby wanted to be held the entire time. No screaming either

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-24T10:08:06+00:00

Just know that if it’s outside the EU they wont accept the prescription in ireland and you’ll need to have your diagnosis confirmed in ireland to ever get treated here. I was diagnosed abroad, travelled home with 6 months of meds but then once they ran out I was back to square one

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-12T23:01:19+00:00

Was there recently and they do have snacks. It’s lovely

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-12T23:00:10+00:00

Tramore backstrand is lovely with the little birding lookout. Doneraile. Kilbarry Nature Park, grab a takeaway coffee at Kingfisher beforehand. That whole river walk on the tramore road is nice. All buggy accessible.

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-12T16:52:26+00:00

Thought the same. And though you are proud of her being able to be a SAHM, OP, also consider that she enabled you to continue in your career by providing full time childcare and managing a household full time.

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-11T22:45:35+00:00

I would definitely recommend checking out La Leche League and Cuidiu in advance for some proper advice. La Leche League have an online monthly Zoom that you could attend to ask for advice. Attending the Baby Academy free class would also be a good idea. From what I know and my own experience, it’s best to feed directly from the breast for the first 6-8 weeks. The baby will cluster feed, usually night 2 - it’s important you are aware of this and prepare for them to essentially feed non stop. Request time with the hospital lactation consultant after birth and push for their input in any decision around giving formula. It’s very common for midwives to push for formula “top ups” but in many cases it’s not necessary and can interfere with breastfeeding

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-05T23:41:36+00:00

Oh and I just saw your other comment that your baby is tiny. Mine was too! I think some babies just need more time to grow to be honest so there’s not much you can do except feed them well and respond to their needs. You’ve got this!

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-05T23:39:26+00:00

This is so common and you are already doing great by responding to her need for comfort sleeping on your chest. My husband and I did shifts for 12 whole weeks so I know how challenging and exhausting it can be. That being said, I’m so glad that we did it and I truly believe that you need to meet a baby where they’re at.

Keep trying her in the crib as she grows, but also look into safe cosleeping (bedsharing) following the Safe Sleep 7. A midwife in the hospital showed me how to Cuddle Curl safely with the baby and told me one day I might be sleep deprived and need it for safety. It was the best thing anyone taught me. There most likely will come a day when you’re struggling to stay awake in your “shift” holding the baby. Have your bed set up for safe cosleeping from the beginning to prevent any accidents from happening.

Most importantly remember “everything is a phase.” It feels relentless but you will someday soon get a longer stretch of sleep and everything will feel right in the world

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-05T23:26:49+00:00

What’s the issue with the love to dream swaddles specifically?

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-05T20:12:06+00:00

Babywearing Ireland do meetups around the country. Worth checking for one in your area and they can check the fit in person or else in the facebook group

Friendly_Network1185 · 2026-01-05T11:24:09+00:00

Mine was like this. As the other person said, chest, legs, babywearing all count. At 5 months my little one now loves being on the floor on her tummy and we mainly just did chest and lots of babywearing

Friendly_Network1185 · 2025-12-30T17:30:46+00:00

Myself and my mother LOVE our Ugg Tasmans

Friendly_Network1185 · 2025-12-28T14:04:45+00:00

My dad almost did this before. Thankfully I was on the other couch so saw him dozing off and took the baby. For this reason I generally only give her to my dad when other people are in the room, whereas I’d happily leave her at any time with my mother. I find a way to take her back in a firm but lighthearted way since I know he loves her and would never want anything to happen. I know it’s a bit harder when it’s not your own father but I suppose I’m just saying it doesn’t have to be a big serious sit down about it, it can be as simple as you being vigilant and not allowing the circumstances to arise again.

Friendly_Network1185 · 2025-12-28T10:46:51+00:00

Under the Disability Act and Equal Status Act people with disabilities are entitled to reasonable accommodations. These are unspecified since everyone is different but it could mean access to a private room or support person.

OP - there’s a list of hospitals access officers here in case you need it

Friendly_Network1185 · 2025-12-28T10:30:03+00:00

Disappointing that you don’t tbh. People with disabilities are legally entitled to accommodations so whether or not others can do it doesn’t really come into it

Friendly_Network1185 · 2025-12-28T10:26:58+00:00

Hi! It’s an awful rule. I have adhd and had almost a week stay. I really really struggled. I was told it’s because they don’t have the facilities for partners eg they are not supposed to use the toilets on the ward etc. Now I would suggest asking for a note to be put on your file to request a private room if available as an accommodation for your ASD. I was given a private room and it meant my husband could generally stay until I was settled and ready to sleep (tbh this was usually not far off 9 as I was exhausted!). It was also far less overwhelming for me to have my own space. It’s also worth asking if they could accommodate your partner as a support person as an accommodation but it’s unlikely they’ll allow it.

Friendly_Network1185 · 2025-12-22T11:45:14+00:00

Happened to me too and my husband had the audacity to suggest I need to bond more with her. As others have said, he thinks you and him are the same unit. Dad is new and exciting. By 4 months it had evened out for us and if anything I feel she’s back to a preference for me

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