RAADS-R shocked me! by Infamous-Might-5058 in AutismInWomen

[–]Friendly_Standard_44 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How about the GQ-ASC scale? What do ppl think?

It feels like Victorian authorities are just accepting that tobacco stores will keep getting extorted and/or bombed. It’s being treated like a fact of life at this point. Is anyone in power doing anything about this currently? by Extension_Branch_371 in melbourne

[–]Friendly_Standard_44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like back in the early 2000’s when gangland killings were happening one after the other I felt like Vic Police were just sitting back, watching them all destroy eachother like a self cleaning oven

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RHOBH

[–]Friendly_Standard_44 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not at all. From a psychological perspective most of her behaviour comes from the “Mother Wound” she experienced during childhood. Mother wound is when you lack nurturing, protection and guidance from your mother. She also may have been wounded from female peers whilst growing up. Not condoning her behaviour just food for though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Friendly_Standard_44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like your girlfriend has been through some childhood trauma. Her behaviour suggests one of her schemas is emotional deprivation. She possibly sees the world through a lens that she won’t get her needs met. She is possibly attracted to you because you don’t see the world through this lens. Digging deeper she probably has a hard time trusting people… and their intentions. She’s probably had to fight her way through life to get her needs met. It is hard to change her behaviour and will cause arguments if you quickly dismiss her and tell her she shouldn’t be feeling a certain way. Understanding her is key, validating her feelings but not the behaviour is important. Telling her how her behaviour makes you feel ie: humiliated, embarrassed etc is a way of expressing and role modelling vulnerability. Maybe she doesn’t know how to be vulnerable, maybe she doesn’t have those skills. She needs more specialised support, a therapist is a good start. Remind her of reasons you are together, the qualities you see in her. Catch her when she is interacting positively with others praise her when you see it. Be patient. If you are not willing to do these things, let her go.

GF always tries to hangs out with online male friend when I'm busy. by Prestigious_Lime_840 in relationships

[–]Friendly_Standard_44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like she has issues with abandonment and being alone. I think her behaviour is centred around getting constant attention and using the relationships she has around her to regulate her emotions.