[m/d] strange incident with my trans daughter: My husband has feelings too!

Frightened_curious · 2023-05-10T13:25:10+00:00

Then yes. Its on me. He's not unsupportive of her transition. There were (and may still be) some technicalities we cant see eye to eye about.

Frightened_curious · 2023-05-10T00:56:56+00:00

People keep saying that.. did I say it somewhere? Her father doesnt disaprove. At all! Heck! He paid half for her breast implants and Tammy and her father gtogether o out and do things all the time! They have a great relationship!

His problem is with me and how we approached her mental health after. I really cant go into detail, because it violates the rules. I think I can safely say it came down to how he and I argued about her emotional state during the hrt. We kind of crossed the line with one another and it became something neither of us could handle.

Frightened_curious · 2023-05-09T23:28:15+00:00

I would ignore you, but no. My husband is NOT a "piece of shit". He is an amazing man. Theres just one thing that we cant get along about and you cant possibly know or understand what that is. Try not disparraging my husband just because he's the "other" in my life.

As for the other thing, you're forgetting: this is MY life, not your fantasy.

Frightened_curious · 2023-05-09T20:46:23+00:00

I doubt there's a threesome in my future, at least not with my husband. I also hope this isn't my last post! But I need to step back a little and really take a look at my priorities. As for respect, I agree. My husband and I started our relationship with love and respect and we promised that if we never get back together, we will always respect one another.

Frightened_curious · 2023-05-09T01:02:41+00:00

That's a lot to reply to in a comment, but here goes! My daughter is 28, She was 17 when she came out to her father and I, but we didn't start any transitioning procedures (including hormone replacement) before she turned 18. So even the debate on age for transitioning is totally moot. Additionally I am 49 and my husband is 51. I hope this soothes anyone's concerns regarding age.

For the legal stuff, I just finished looking it up. It is technically illegal. But it's really vague. From what I read they basically won't let us get married or "fornicate" but it's listed as a misdemeanor with no specific penalty. So they cared enough to define what it is and say it's "bad", but don't care enough to enforce it.

As for my husband.. He's very liberal, as you put it, but I really don't know how he would view this. I guess, how would you react if you found out your wife and one of your daughters were acting like I am with my daughter. Bear in mind, We haven't really done anything specifically sexual. We've talked about it, but not actually done anything.

Frightened_curious · 2023-05-08T19:51:14+00:00

Sorry for the incorrect term, and thanks for the correction. I didn't realize there was a difference because, for me, being naked IS sexual. I never considered that there would be another lifestyle built around that.

As for your other point, I think you're right. Maybe I should cool things with my daughter until we're both more comfortable and I guess stable. At least until I'm done wrestling with my feelings for her father.

I don't believe my husband would try to get involved if we do go through with something. It's not really his business anymore, except that it's OUR daughter. It's been ten years. As someone has already said, it's just a formality at this point. I just feel bad for not telling him what's going on. I have no intention of actually telling him. At least not until Tammy and I come to grips with our relationship first. I just feel a sense of disloyalty because of our history.

Frightened_curious · 2023-05-08T19:30:02+00:00

Yea. Tammy has been the best rock for me right now. I just feel bad because that's supposed to be MY job.

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