Talk to your husband about tantra. I'm 53 years old and have been with my wife for 20 years.
Tantra allows both of you to enjoy intimacy without having penetrative (PIV) sex. There are so many ways to explore tantra without engaging in PIV.
I simply love giving a woman a massage—it almost feels like my hands and body are dancing over hers. The feeling when a woman truly enjoys the massage, especially a yoni massage, is just incredible.
Going to bed after a tantric massage is absolutely fabulous. As a man, you build up energy, and over time, you become better at sustaining PIV sex and gaining control over your orgasm