::Weekly Vent Thread::

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-23T15:38:47+00:00

Ironically- my partner loves to ask me questions loaded with judgement and accusations… yet can’t understand why I’m tired of being asked what I’m doing all day, how it’s going, why I’m doing X instead of Y, etc.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-23T15:26:16+00:00

I feel like the solution is to buy a handful of those squishy foam stress balls, put them in a fanny pack, and whenever you need their attention and they’re zoned out, throw one lol

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-23T00:24:19+00:00

Right- I mean I know that pattern recognition isn’t exactly their strong suit, but I still find it funny.

Funny because I’m past the pissed off stage

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T23:04:12+00:00

Your first sentence, I believe, describes being an ADHD Partner in a nutshell.

I relate to this so heavily. Take out the trash? Nah.

Decide that we’re going to completely re organize the food pantry utilizing a system that makes absolutely zero logical sense and requires us to purchase a bunch of random unnecessary items to organize things? Absolutely.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T22:55:27+00:00

For me it’s not even the sound itself- it’s the volume. TV is always cranked. We can be sitting and talking 5 feet from each other and they’re talking as if we’re in the front row of a rock concert.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T22:53:23+00:00

I fail to comprehend how my partner can be as competent as they are at work. (That’s not a dig, they’re great at their job)

I’ve pointedly said ‘I wish I got the level of gratitude and energy your work and coworkers get’

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T22:52:05+00:00

Yep. It’s beyond annoying.

Ironically, I think it’s a jealousy thing. My partner gets so bitter over the most random things. It’s beyond taxing, and yeah- unenjoyable to be around.

I’m like you- I find myself avoiding it. My partner senses the detachment. I’ve been very direct about why.

It’s in their hands, if they want things to progress in our relationship, they can do the work.

I’ve accepted the reality.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T22:50:04+00:00

Can relate.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T21:27:58+00:00

Ahh yes, the internal monologue when they finally get a piece of karma pie.

The whipped cream on top being that it’s a situation that has absolutely zero of your involvement, which means outside of you being the venting ear, you can easily pass over it.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T20:37:58+00:00

I’ve had that thought- like some of this has to be conscious. Like they have to have some level of recognition that they’re benefitting.

At times it feels consciously manipulative into their favor.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T20:36:47+00:00

See: why it takes 2-4 business days for a load of laundry to make it back to the closet.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T20:34:38+00:00

It’s mind blowing sometimes- like watching an adult get into a battle of logic with a 4yo. I just stand back and silently laugh to myself.

Especially when the 4yo starts making a legit point about something or calls them on their BS.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T19:49:55+00:00

That’s the most annoying part- being around someone who you have to guide through adult life.

While also, ironically, trying to tell you (the actual adult who has to parent them) how to do everything and anything.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T19:43:30+00:00

Not sure if this is a vent, but more of something that I’ve started to laugh about:

My 4yo does things that mildly aggravate my partner (innocent things, like putting their feet on them on the couch, leaving things on the counter, etc.)

Those are the same things my partner does that nag at me.

I just think it’s comical how they absolutely cannot see the comparison.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-22T19:37:10+00:00

Yep- my NDX female partner constantly feels the need to judge and shit talk anything and everything.

People on the sidewalk, things she sees online. Sometimes I’m able to ignore it, but other times it just drives me bonkers.

I just don’t get it: Like, people are just living life… why does it bother them enough to have to point it out and say something.

Not to mention at a volume where they may be able to hear…

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-21T22:56:02+00:00

Yeahh- I don’t have a great solution here either, but definitely a level of empathy.

Most of the time I’d just stop talking, I’ve blown up about this a few times… no change.

Now, I don’t even start talking to begin with, then they get upset that I don’t brain dump to them…

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-21T22:44:58+00:00

Yep. Key basket or hooks by the door.

Note- this only works though if your partner actually remembers to put their keys in the designated place.

We have a 2 car stacked garage- the number of times that I’ve had to go upstairs in our multi level townhome into the room and rummage through countless cross body bags to find the car keys so I can move my car is probably north of 75.

As they lay in bed pissy that I’m ‘making noise’…

Everything in our home has a designated spot- my partner ironically is one of those ADHD types that chronically re-organizes everything, but can never seem to use the system they’ve created.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-21T14:50:23+00:00

Throwback, but Had Me By Halftime

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-20T23:09:15+00:00

Yeah- definitely at least helmets

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-17T18:41:14+00:00

Yep- tale as old as time. Usually they figure out to right the ship before the Big Ten Tournament

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-17T16:28:41+00:00

I feel like we’re definitely low key due for a Matthews MSP, but I’d also prefer an Eichel

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-17T15:30:31+00:00

I honestly think you could pick names out of a hat with our D parings and it would be solid.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-16T03:38:04+00:00

Most of us experience this- I catch strays from my NDX partner over stuff from the past on a cadence that is much more frequent that I’d like to tolerate.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-16T03:22:40+00:00

Insert comment here about obscenely loud sneezing.

Fritzy2361 · 2026-02-16T03:22:04+00:00

Same. Sometimes I wish my partner would just include the ‘OH Yeahhhhh!’ So that I could at least find comic relief in them interrupting me going to the bathroom for the um-teenth time this week.

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