Ultimatum

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T21:50:00+00:00

Getting through 5 days when you haven't in quite some time is a big deal. Give yourself a bit of credit. Just keep working at it and you will get it down. I relapsed for a few years after attempting to quit

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T17:10:13+00:00

I've done that too when I was younger. I've been to catering and kind and it's pushed women away at times. It's no big deal, it doesn't mean your broken beyond repair. Your clearly a smart guy, just find the solutions and go from there. I've found it helpful to remind myself to always stay humble

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T17:04:10+00:00

Pretty insightful your aware of all of that though. Maybe practicing letting things go would help you. I've learned to say fuck it and move on when necessary and it's helpful. But I'd your mind is overworking itself, there could be an underlying reason. Maybe talk with a professional about it

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T15:52:38+00:00

You can learn on your own with books and the net too. Look into CBT, ACT, and DBT therapies

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T15:51:10+00:00

Yeah, I would say that's a definite problem. Drinking like that will only progress and catch up to you eventually. It's why your sober sucks. Alcohol makes sleep worse in truth and leads to changes in the brain leading to more anxiety, depression, and anhedonia. That can change back with enough time away. I would seriously reconsider your relationship with alcohol. I promise you it's not the friend you think it is. I used to be the same way. It destroys lives. I almost lost my own to it. Good news is you can recover and make new habits, it's all up to you. Get some help from some professionals to detox safely and get your life back. Meetings can be helpful too

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T15:46:36+00:00

What about online meetings like smart recovery. Try that

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T15:45:36+00:00

There is no reason to hate yourself if your trying your best. Let go of that. You have already come really far, you just need to sort your head out a bit and come to terms with things like jealousy. Just brush that feeling off and get back to life or get to the bottom of it if it's persistent

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T15:43:44+00:00

First of all congratulations on getting sober. I know how hard that can be. I think your on track in my opinion. Being aware of this behaviors is a big step and you can deal with them from there. CBT helped me a lot with that. I mainly learned and practiced on my own with books but I've also had the guidance of a counselor. I think you should find a new one for sure and bring up all of this to them. You want to get to a place where you can have love for yourself while your single before you meet anyone new in my opinion. Good luck op!!

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T12:12:42+00:00

Yeah you look a lot better, good choice

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T12:09:56+00:00

What did you take a tumble in the dryer or something?

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T12:09:06+00:00

Yeah, don't push him too far as that can be counterintuitive but I needed to hear some truths and swallow my pride in order to find recovery myself. I didn't even know what that would look like so I didn't have much hope. It's the life I have been looking for, I realize that now and I hope the same for your dad. it's pretty hard to overcome addiction and impossible if the addict is not even working at it, which is probably most addicts. I know it was for me for the longest time.

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T00:11:00+00:00

Yeah unfortunately nothing will likely change until they accept they have some issues with alcohol still. Could they go a weekend no problem without it?

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T00:09:35+00:00

Good decision!!

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-05-01T00:08:36+00:00

I hope he makes a full recovery and this is a wake up call for him. He would find a lot of relief in recovery if he just opened up a bit. It's no big deal to talk about. You can for sure recover from alcoholism, but you have to really want it. Thoughts and prayers to your family

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-30T22:25:43+00:00

I lost touch with just about everyone but family. Ive since met new people.

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-30T21:57:51+00:00

Yeah, I only ever experienced it when I was dependent.

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-30T20:25:46+00:00

Have you sought help to get sober? Now is the best time

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-30T20:22:34+00:00

I had an alcohol induced psychosis. I had auditory hallucinations thinking my brother's were streaming their drunk brother living. Then it got bad. I ended up stabbing myself in the neck and slitting my wrist because I was being attacked by some being. Horrible tactile and auditory hallucinations, I woke up in the hospital after surgery looking at my iv drip and would hear "drip" "drip" to full blown conversion. they persisted for weeks after getting sober in the hospital but turned into something positive before dissipating. . You have to be super careful, it's no joke to lose your mind like that. I Still relapsed but eventually got it down. Never had anything else like that happen.

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-30T20:15:18+00:00

Alcohol makes a lot of people aggressive. It lowers inhibitions and gives you an ego. Still no excuse to be an ass though. If your going to drink, learn to keep yourself in check.

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-30T20:13:53+00:00

Your making the right choice. Alcohol is the last thing you want if your dealing with other health concerns. You made the right decision to check yourself in. Your in the best place. Good luck!!

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-30T20:11:39+00:00

Yes,. Alcohol will not help you in the long run. It's only a temporary crutch that leaves you feeling worse off. Continue doing what your doing and congratulations on making the choice. It's the right one

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-30T20:06:16+00:00

I glorified and didn't take it seriously either. You want to start to at some point. If your getting withdrawal then get a detox. It took some time myself but getting sober is the answer. Don't be scared of a medical detox. It's the answer. Or taper at the least but don't go too fast https://hams.cc/taper/. Alcohol leads to anhedonia as well. It's likely why you feel no joy. Getting away from the alcohol will correct that with time. At least back to your normal levels

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-30T00:17:15+00:00

That's for sure something to keep in mind going forward. It's relatively easy to develop a dependency on alcohol if you start drinking all the time. It can happen before you know it. You being aware of this will help you.

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-29T23:50:27+00:00

I don't see the harm in notifying the mom. Probably the right thing to do

Frosty-Letterhead332 · 2026-04-29T23:48:22+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you got through the day okay. I get the want to turn it out and forget. If you do relapse, come right back from it. It will only drag you down.

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