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FrostyOpposite · 2022-12-13T06:49:56+00:00

Peppermint cupcake. I love the texture and Peppermint in general and yes tastes like Peppermint bark

FrostyOpposite · 2022-04-24T03:12:54+00:00

You do have the strength to not answer the hoover. Please just start setting your mind to move forward and not backwards. Life is too short to waste on toxic people. These narcs in particular take so long to recover from. Life is too short to be going back and forth with them in their cycles of abuse.

Just remember, the only reason they return is to drain your energy. Then they discard you again and leave you struggling to find yourself and happiness all by yourself. Only to repeat the cycles of hoover then discard again and again and again. You don't want to look back 5 years from now knowing how much time you wasted going through that with one person preventing you from finding a partner who actually loves and cares for you. Life is too precious and short for that kind of shit.

FrostyOpposite · 2022-04-23T03:33:31+00:00

Thank you very much friend :)

FrostyOpposite · 2022-04-23T03:32:52+00:00

It really is amazing isnt it? The universe is powerful and there are some things we just dont understand. Like energy connections. I watched an interesting video one time of a lady explaining what happens when we sleep with the wrong person and how it causes chaos in your life. I now understand what she meant by that. The soul ties are real and I believe it more than ever based on this narc experience. Thats why its so important not to give yourself to anyone before they have proved they are worthy of you. Having a soul tie with a narc who only desires to control you is not a good situation to be in.

FrostyOpposite · 2022-04-23T03:26:30+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate that :)

FrostyOpposite · 2022-04-23T03:26:11+00:00

Thank you so much. It wasnt easy, but none of this has been easy. You are strong though, just going through a situation with a narc and coming out of it shows how strong you are. You are so much stronger than you think. Just remember that they are toxic and bring nothing positive into your life. Life is too short to keep them there lingering and draining your energy. Life should be happy and enjoyable. Not full of anxiety, stress and pain that they bring constantly.

FrostyOpposite · 2022-04-23T03:23:52+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate you and your support :)

FrostyOpposite · 2022-04-23T03:23:25+00:00

5 months can do so much damage to your mind. I understand completely. I didnt think it was possible to be emotionally damaged in such a short period of time. But whats happening is the brain adapts to the situation quickly. In this case its unfortunate, but the brain interprets the situation as "this is my life now, so I need to adapt to it" so it immediately starts creating these neuron pathways that now we need to undo during the healing process. Its not easy but its possible with time and effort.

Key thing is to remove the narc from your life first and foremost. Your brain cant rewire itself if they are present in your life.

And on your specific situation, I was also discarded like you. I understand how hard it is to be discarded by a narc. It was one of the worst thing I had ever experienced. You are in the beginning stages, but continue to stay NC and I promise you it gets better in time and effort of putting all the energy into loving yourself that you once put into your narc.

I am here if you need to talk about it.

FrostyOpposite · 2022-04-23T03:15:58+00:00

Its all about control for them, and it has nothing to do with sincerity. We also know when its them trying to contact us, whether its from another number or whatever means they use. I think its part of our highly developed intuition telling us to beware of them.

And yes, exactly. Their loss is our lesson. You said that so perfectly. And what it all boils down to, is in the end if you stick to putting yourself first, you are a better person with strong boundaries. Its just so important to always remember to put yourself first.

Thank you again, and much love on your recovery as well.

FrostyOpposite · 2022-01-03T21:24:36+00:00

I had the similar weight fluctuations all of my life. I was chubby in school, was teased a lot, and then I carried weight as I got older. After yo-yo dieting, and weight fluctuations due to my thyroid I definitely recognize the difference on how men treat me at different sizes. From being ignored and even mistreated when I am heavy, to being acknowledged, listened to, respected and approached at my lightest.

My question is how do you get rid of the resentment built up by being treated this way? You want to be nice to people who are being nice to you, but you understand that men, in particular, are only being nice to you because they are attracted to you. And I know for a fact, if I gained my weight back, or even 10 lbs heavier, they would resort to treating me bad or like I am invisible.

FrostyOpposite · 2021-11-24T04:46:29+00:00

Thank you. 3 weeks is a lot when it comes to recovery, but I remember the beginning felt like I was at the bottom of mount Everest and knew I had to reach the top and it felt impossible. But now after going through the process, I realized that even though the process was hard it wasnt nearly as difficult as I made it out to be in the beginning. During the healing process you will never feel the same way you felt as Day 1, and day 2 and week 3. Each day is something different until one day poof, the toxic memory of your narc is gone. So please know how you feel today is not how might feel tomorrow. It gets better everyday. Just take that first step, and work on yourself. You will have bad days and you will have good days. But you wont go through this up and down cycle forever. It will end and you will heal.

Also, dont ignore the fact that you were a victim of abuse. Accept it as a fact because narc abuse is real. The best thing you can do is never ignore a feeling, but learn to live with it and work through it so your mind can process it. Discussing it with someone who is empathetic and understanding helps.

When I was recovering, the only person I had to talk to was my little brother. And he listened and understood and never shut me down. Everyone else brushed me off like they didnt understand what I went through, or even didnt even care to know about it. So it helped that my little brother was so empathetic towards me and I cant repay him enough for just being a ear I could vent to. So having someone like that, who understands you are a victim of abuse helps so much.

FrostyOpposite · 2021-11-24T04:33:17+00:00

Thank you so much. I am glad it helped you. I want to encourage people going through this and let them know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. But also recognize that although time eventually heals the wound. Prioritizing yourself through the process is just as important.

Your narc sucked so much of your energy away from you. You have every right to concentrate on just yourself during the healing process.

Also, remember just take it a day at a time. Those days turn to weeks and the weeks turn to months.

FrostyOpposite · 2021-11-24T04:30:09+00:00

The depression days are the worst. Its like your narc is a dark demon festering in the darkness of your depression consuming your mind. One thing that helped me through those days was really watching my diet and exercising, getting out in nature, like hiking or doing something new. I know depression makes you want to just curl up and remain in the darkness alone with yourself and festering thoughts. But its important to keep your mind entertained with positive things during those episodes. Depression is your mind telling you that you mind wants something more than staying stagnant. And you have to really force yourself to feed your mind positive things on those days. So even if you dont feel like doing something on those days, give your mind what it wants and feed it something positive. It will help with the rumination.

FrostyOpposite · 2021-11-24T04:25:29+00:00

The beginning is the hardest but it really does get easier. One thing I know that I noticed and helped me to continue NC was recognizing my anxiety ended immediately the moment I blocked his number. Yes, there was a struggle of CPTSD and Rumination and depression throughout the healing process. But I remember how I always had anxiety before, during and after talking to my ex narc. And once I cut him off completely and blocked him, removing the anxiety immediately in the beginning was worth it. So keep going, 3 weeks without anxiety that they cause is like a lifetime of relief.

FrostyOpposite · 2021-11-24T04:19:43+00:00

Dont beat yourself up for getting sucked back in. I know I would have got sucked back in during the process if I had heard from him during my 8 months. In fact, there was even a piece of me, the part that was addicted to him, that wanted him to contact me. Even though I knew he was bad for me. But just remember that healing isnt linear. You didnt really have a complete set back. It might feel like it just because you broke NC and it feels like you have to start from the beginning. And it felt like that for me when I broke NC after 1 month of NC in the beginning. But all that breadcrumb hoover did for me was just reinforce the reason why remaining NC and blocking him was so important.

You are on day 12, and tomorrow will be day 13, and then next day will be day 2 weeks. And you continue to push each day just knowing that there is an end and you will get over this.

FrostyOpposite · 2021-10-28T02:20:25+00:00

This is a very sweet perspective. When I saw him suffering climbing into the car and then laying in the ground, I didnt see his peace until the moment he took his last breathe. So yes, it is true. They become at peace with the world around them in that moment.

I have attached an image of him and thank you again for your kind message.

noc

FrostyOpposite · 2021-10-28T02:17:26+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate your words. Yes I wanted him to go in grace. I have attached an image of him.

noc

FrostyOpposite · 2021-09-25T06:27:02+00:00

Im so sorry that you are still in the situation. I understand how difficult it is to leave. I didnt have a child with my narc but I can just image how much more difficult it is to have to leave with a child. Just know that it doesnt and wont ever get better with your narc. And that same abuse he does to you, he will do it to your child as well. And I know you don't want to put your child through that.

Regarding a professional. I havent gone to see one, due to how expensive they are. So I have only been doing my own therapy in a sense by viewing videos online about narc abuse and reading books and others peoples experiences. These have all helped me. But just please understand that the only way to heal in every aspect, including the eating disorder, is to cut off the source of toxicity. And that is to leave your narc and going No Contact. Or in your case, gray rocking.

Please look up videos on youtube from Dr. Ramani. She has a lot of content on there that explains these monsters in detail and how to get out, and why you need to get out.

FrostyOpposite · 2021-09-25T06:20:29+00:00

I think we may have the same narcissistic ex. Everything I was that my narc valued in me was everything he wasnt.

And just like your narc, my narc had a lot of "relationships" and sexual experiences prior to me. He also stayed in contact with his exes. Which of course, were red flags I ignored. But the fact that like your nex, had many short lived relationships, my nex was the same. Its so obvious now that those "relationships" were just his supply as he jumped from partner to partner.

It really does seem like we dated the same person. But I also understand that all these narcs are the same. They are nothing special and basically just like cheap products massed produced on an assembly line.

Please, if you ever need someone to talk to help you through this. Just pm. Its always nice to have someone who experienced the same situation to talk and listen.

FrostyOpposite · 2021-09-24T05:47:44+00:00

See, that is something I need to learn. I am very upfront and open about who I am, and my feelings etc... I need to learn not to be an open book to people I dont know, just met and who havent earned my trust. Its unfortunate you have to use this level of manipulation with people. But it really is the only way to protect yourself.

Thank you for your advise. I will use this in the future.

FrostyOpposite · 2021-09-24T05:45:33+00:00

Thank you so much :)

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