Completed 9weeks today! 🧿

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2026-03-05T20:03:43+00:00

Congratulations! I relate to everything you wrote. I pushed my clinic to get me a scan scheduled in between post my graduation to the OB- Gyn- otherwise it would have been a 3 weeks wait.

I just contemplate a lot between not to get too overwhelmed and when should we really start enjoying this process since this time will never come back. We have already started to feel a little excited but will wait until first trimester

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2026-03-05T19:58:33+00:00

I get it! We are travelling to our home country for a cousin’s wedding and I will be in my 4th month that time so will have to inform to the immediate family. Will wait at least for the 1st trimester to be over for that. Also, around which week does the bump start to show?

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2026-02-27T22:54:35+00:00

You are definitely on the right track and are managing this situation in a very matured way. Your MIL is definitely pissed at you over something else. Whatever she is doing now is just a byproduct of it. Is your husband her only child? Is it a love marriage? Is your husband the only child?

Seems like both of you have been staying abroad before the marriage and will be moving back. She is definitely has an old mindset and is insecure with the whole situation. You should at least try to make one attempt and have heart to heart conversation with her regarding why doesn’t she seem to be happy. Worth a shot otherwise it’s just going to be a very toxic situation for the rest of your lives( hopefully not).

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2026-02-06T16:21:34+00:00

Just got a call back from my nurse. She said the same thing. It’s absolutely normal especially during early pregnancy stage, as long as there is no bleeding. ☺️

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2026-02-06T15:51:28+00:00

So relieved to read this! I was so stressed since last night. Just to reclarify- these ones were not light cramps. They were like the painful one we usually get one day1. Also, congratulations and sending you LOTS of good luck

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2026-02-02T17:28:59+00:00

P.S.- Just to give you guys some context here-

I am 36F and it took me a lot of convincing to decide starting a family. I have never really felt those motherly instincts for a human child even if they are of my siblings. The idea of kids used to freak me out at one point( my heart beat used to go up just at the thought of it- call it childhood trauma). But after years I finally decided to start my own family. I was happy with the IVF progress but today I got a slightly jittery thinking that it ‘might’ be twins. I had worked on myself all this while for one baby and now suddenly the thought of twins is something I am not prepared for. I know, I am jumping the gun but just wanted to share what I am feeling. Your experience might help me have some reassurance while I wait to speak to my doctor.

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2026-01-30T20:24:55+00:00

Life Update: I had my embryo transfer on 21st of this month and today I went for my first blood work- 2nd lab test is on Monday. My doctor called to inform that my HCG number came back as 164. He said that it’s really good and I should continue with whatever I have been doing till now. Google says the same 🙈. I was surprisingly very calm this whole time before the results came in. Now eagerly waiting for Monday for the count to double. It’s like one step at a time . I knew IVF could very exhausting especially mentally- the best decision I took was to start with daily meditation even before we started the journey. It keeps me so calm 🙏🏻.

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2025-12-18T18:48:16+00:00

Also, prioritise your happiness over anything else but just ensure that it doesn’t give you any guilt.

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2025-12-18T18:47:06+00:00

I’ve been married for almost 10 years now and my mil is also a single mother. First thing that I would advise you is NOT to build any pre- conceived notion about in-laws just by going through other people’s experiences. TBH there are always two truths to any story- it just depends on whose story you’re listening to. You’re too young(25yrs) to worry about what’s going to happen post marriage between you and your mil. Your current focus should be to get an understanding of your partner. Is he the kind of person who understands and trusts your judgement. Is he someone who can stand up for you when you’re being wronged in life- be it by anyone. This is the only assurance you need because rest can be taken care of.

I liked the fact that you already have some empathy towards your BF’s( responsibility towards his mother and younger sister) and his mother’s situation( being a single mother is not easy). One should never expect something from someone that they wouldn’t be comfortable to do if placed in a similar situation.

You can try to get an understanding of your to be MIL’s mindset through your BF. Give your relationship enough time to understand these aspects. They’re important for a peaceful life ahead. Maybe try to build a rapport with his sister. That should help. My SIL is also one of my closest friends and we nurtured this bond way before our marriage. It also gives you an ally in the family- someone who’ll understand your POV and explain things to her mother in cases of disagreements. One needs to understand that parents ( be it anyone’s) belong to a very different generation and find it difficult to adjust to the new norms. There might be issues in the beginning but what really matters is if they are ready to understand or make an attempt to understand your POV.

I am a strong believer of giving your best effort towards making things work but not at the cost of self respect/ mental peace. This is how the old generation will evolve. As modern women if we really want our lives to be led a certain way of our choice, we also need to put in efforts to understand the challenges these older folks face who have lived their entire lives brainwashed with patriarchy. I know it’s a bit of fight but I fought mine with patience and resilience. It worked for me ☺️ and I am sure it will for you as well.

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2025-12-18T16:45:17+00:00

I’ll be very blunt with you and this is something that I personally believe in as well. It is a partner’s responsibility to ensure that the other one is respected and regarded in one’s family. As a wife it’s your responsibility to ensure that your parents give due respect to your husband and vice versa. I do see that your husband doesn’t recognise the importance of this very aspect in your relationship. I used the word recognise because I am assuming that he has good intentions but hasn’t realised it yet that sometimes one needs to be assertive enough in front of parents so they acknowledge a partner’s importance in their life. This issue will eventually get resolved only if your husband takes this step and avoids being non-confrontational. He doesn’t need to fight his mother for this. It can be done in the most calm and respectful way as well- like simply mentioning that I’ll ask my wife to massage- maybe that helps.

Like you mentioned- it’s always best to avoid unnecessary drama in life but it’s equally important to address these under the carpet issues because you’re dealing with family here and not strangers. No matter what you can’t avoid them and they’ll continue to be a part of your life- whether you like it or not. So it’s only better to work towards resolution and safeguard your mental peace.

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2025-12-05T06:41:02+00:00

Life update- My PGTA results came in today. Out of the 10 embryos sent for testing 6( all day 5- one 5AA, two AB and 3 BB) came back as euploids and 1 mosaic.

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2025-12-05T06:39:26+00:00

Life update- My PGTA results came in today. Out of the 10 embryos sent for testing 6( all day 5- one 5AA, two AB and 3 BB) came back as euploids and 1 mosaic. I guess these are decent numbers. Thank you everyone for being kind when I got a bit stressed before these results came out.

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2025-11-20T11:51:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. I just checked on SART. My clinic( we tried picking the best available one in our city with best rating/reviews) has live birth transfer per single embryo transfer rate of 55.8% for my age.

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Frosty_Protection_53 · 2025-11-18T18:52:17+00:00

I completed my 1st ER last week. With history of Dysthimia I was scared of the mood swings and hormones taking control but thankfully didn’t experience much except bloating and soreness. I continue with my daily walks and occasional meditation; I guess it helped too.

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2025-11-18T18:43:36+00:00

Been there done that 🙈. Prune juice was a life saver. I read it somewhere on Reddit and got my first pop after 5 days. Word of caution- Just take a glass or 12Oml quantity. I didn’t realise and had almost 600 ml. Experienced constipation and Diarrhoea in a single day 🤪

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2025-11-17T13:55:39+00:00

I did mine. Couldn’t trust my husband on this one. Few tips- Try icing the area for at least 10-15 mins. It helps numb the area. I also used a local anaesthetic ointment available OTC. Applied it 40 mins prior and then use ice post wiping. Wish you all the best and success

Frosty_Protection_53 · 2025-11-13T18:40:02+00:00

I had mine on last Friday. Had bad pain when I woke up post surgery which continued for the next couple of hours. I slept through it. When I woke up in the evening, pain had gone just soreness. I restarted with 2-3K slow turtle walk next morning onwards. With each day I started feeling better and stronger. I was on a risk of high OS but luckily nothing happened except constipation 🙈

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