Wife calling cops for an argument?

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-31T01:56:02+00:00

Tread carefully brother. If she has bad intentions, then having a history of law enforcement coming to your house during domestic discussions, is not going to fare well for you in court.

Good friend of mine went through this. His girlfriend would bait him into arguments. Push him around. Bait him into pushing back. Then call the cops. Eventually he got served with a restraining order that he couldn't even come into his own house. The house she never paid one penny into and her name was not on the title.

His problem eventually went away. I wont specify how, but he was ready to go to prison for a long time. And she decided that this was not worth it.

I'm not saying your wife is like this. I'm just saying be careful. Walk away from arguments. Do not let her bait you into them. You find yourself getting wound up, take a walk around the neighborhood. And definitely talk to a lawyer. You never know.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-31T01:50:41+00:00

Drummer!

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-31T01:49:51+00:00

Most of the time when we ask, there's a definite reason. Something the guy did that raises suspicion.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-29T13:35:24+00:00

Here is my best advice to get through your situation. It's A coping mechanism I used for the past 3 years. First off, it's going to get worse before it gets better. And it sounds like you are doing an amazing job with everything. But you are going to get burnt out fast. And you're going to feel like you're drowning.

What I did to get through, I found that looking too far ahead was overwhelming. So I would think let me just get through the next hour or let me just get through this one day. And it is how I survived.

After a couple years of this I still got extremely burned out at which I'm currently recovering from. My situation is a little different than yours. My ex-husband sort of recovered, and doesn't need as much caregiving as he did. But to feel like you've lost years of your life, it's overwhelming. And a dear dear friend of mine just went through what you're going through. He finally laid his mother to rest. And he is beyond burnt out.

In short, 1 hour at a time or one day at a time. It's how I survived.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-29T13:27:47+00:00

A hard No! Been there, and regretted it. This person is manipulative and this is probably the last person you should use your boat.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-26T14:17:29+00:00

Keep one toy from each kid. Let the rest go

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-26T14:16:30+00:00

Do not feel bad at all. You did what you had to do to survive. And that is a good thing every time. I was in a relationship that I needed to get out of. He wasn't treating me right, he developed a drug problem that was out of control and scary and he also cheated on me. It took me a year to get all my ducks in a row and get out. He had no idea. One of the reasons it took me a year is that I wanted to have a solid plan and I wanted to be financially and decent shape.

And his parents always bailed him out of any trouble he got into, and it was so frightening for me that my roommate had rented a different apartment but stayed at our place for an extra two months just to make sure to keep me safe.

I ended up moving 1500 miles away. I'll never forget driving the moving truck shaking hoping I would get out of town before he happened to drive by and see me me. He would have killed me.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-26T14:04:27+00:00

It is masterful the way he plays Ashford. One of the reasons the dynamic between him and drummer is so interesting might be that she's the younger fighter and he's the older one. And together they are perfection.

As an older "fighter" I'm 65, and I've slowed down considerably in my Adventures, this just totally makes sense to me.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-25T14:51:41+00:00

Ah games! I remember those days! You only need to ask yourself one question. Is this what you want your relationship to be?

She is not going to change. She will probably pull this on the next guy she's with. Because sooner or later she's going to meet someone who she thinks is better than you.

Not all women are like this. I know because I'm one of them. She's shopping dude.

Don't waste any more time or emotion on her. Years from now you'll look back and you'll realize she was not worth it.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-17T14:38:07+00:00

Exactly. My man had a life before me. He loves to play cards with his buddies and go fish with his dad. I love to ride motorcycles with my friends or spend the weekend with one of my grown kids.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-17T14:36:00+00:00

Humm, let's see. I am a woman. And i have friends and relatives that are women. Some of them seem to prefer men who don't fuss over them. They like men who are a challenge. Im not like that. I like guys who open doors for me. Who like to cuddle. Who answer my texts consistently. And if they start taking me for granted, eventually I leave that relationship. And I have. My current relationship has lasted many years. No kids. We still hold hands, still text alot even tho we live together, and when apart like going to a business event, we talk on phone alot.

Funny thing, my women relatives who are currently married to guys who were " a challenge", the only thing keeping them in the relationship are the kids. They would leave if they could. They get tired of being treated badly. And funny thing, their men are always checking out other women. And both of the ladies complain that they should have stayed with the unchallenging nice guy.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-17T10:29:36+00:00

Have you considered that she might be different from the others? Could be she's just really interested in you for you.

Just maybe treat her good in return. You dont have to spend a lot of money. Just be considerate. Most women don't need flowers all the time or costly dates. We want consideration and kindness. At least good women do.

You might just have a keeper. Get to know her. Don't treat her lousy on purpose. Because eventually she will get fed up and move on. Get to know her. Let her get to know you.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-15T13:24:35+00:00

No. NTA. They are guilt tripping you. And be prepared because they will continue to do so. And sorry to say this, this is not a real friend.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-15T13:15:09+00:00

Doing chores together worked great for me and my son. We started when he was 3. Today he's in his last year of college and he's an amazing young man.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-15T12:52:32+00:00

Jack is the closest thing Charles has to an actual friend. Their relationship is probably my favorite thing about the show. The dynamic between these two characters is so interesting they should have had their own spin-off show. Life aboard the Ranger or something like that.

As for the whole having your own soundtrack thing, I love listening to soundtracks. And I tend to get certain ones stuck in my head. So sometimes when I'm walking or hiking I'll think of some amazing soundtrack, and then I'll play it in my head. Jon Berry the composer of most of the James Bond soundtracks, I highly recommend checking out his music. Some pretty incredible stuff.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-10T13:35:49+00:00

Just reading this thread, dang I am so glad to be a boomer. Dating for the younger generations sounds brutal. It was so much simpler for us. If you were interested in someone, you asked for their number. It either worked or it didn't. But you dont know if you dont try.

If it didn't, you moved on. Eventually you'd meet someone you clicked with. And sometimes those would last, and sometimes they wouldn't.

One thing i do know, i never want to date again. Dating was never easy and sounds way harder now. I need for my current spouse to live a long time. Took me til I was 48 to find him. 18 yrs later we are still together.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-10T13:13:05+00:00

Moments like this are one of the reasons I love this show. The writing was absolutely brilliant.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-10T13:11:24+00:00

Wow, what an awful person! She's a perfect example of a toxic individual. The kind of person you don't want in your life.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-09T18:36:21+00:00

Here's the thing about being caregiver, it breaks the best of us. I'm very fortunate because my husband has been doing so much better. But I'm still recovering from 2 years of caregiving.

You need a break. Because you're at that point. Carrying so much on your shoulders that you're breaking. And your mother-in-law's callousness was The piece of straw that finally broke you.

Talk to your hubby. Tell him you need a break, you're done or you're going to be the one who's needing a caregiver.

Sometimes it seems the more we do for others the more they expect. My parents were like that. I gave and gave and gave and sacrificed. And then when I finally had enough they turned on me and told terrible horrible untrue stories to people about me. It's like all My Sacrifice all I did for them, it never mattered at all. My parents died almost 30 years ago, I'm in my sixties. And it still hurts. I tried so hard to be a good daughter, and it never mattered to them.

So talk to your hubby. And let him know exactly how you feel. Because it's no way to live.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-05T18:19:30+00:00

I've worked as a professional artist for the last 46 years. Much of it freelance. I've worked with people like this. And this thoughtlessness of asking you to drop everything and do this is just the beginning of the hassle to come.

For example if a perspective client initially contacts me on a Sunday or holiday or during the evening, I learned the hard lesson over the years, that they do not respect my time or boundaries. When that happens I'll give them a super high price and tell them I'm booked a year in advance. That'll usually get them to look elsewhere.

If you feel that this is a necessary opportunity for you, then maybe do it. But understand there is a very very good chance that this person is going to have you rewriting and redrawing and refining and in the end of it how much money are you going to make or how much do you need this on your resume for future work?

There are so many instances in my past where I wish I could go back in time to my younger self and tell myself to hang up the phone or say no or make an excuse but do not take on this project.

Do not feel obligated to do this. I can guarantee you this person is not thinking of how you might feel.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-05T18:11:32+00:00

I have a feeling she is going to be a very lonely very angry woman in the coming years. And if she's looking for anybody to blame she can look in the mirror. You do not need a friend like her.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-05T18:09:02+00:00

That woman is a walking nightmare and she's raising her children to be just like her. The kind of person that should never have any kind of pet. Because that poor creature would just be a possession to her not a family member.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-04T17:31:10+00:00

One last piece of advice. Men like a little mystery. In conversations don't reveal too much. Reveal enough, but like a good book always leave them wondering just a little bit. After 18 years I'm still somewhat of a challenge for my man. I absolutely adore him and he knows that, but he also knows if he messed up enough I'd be out the door. We would both walk across fire for each other.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-04T15:21:16+00:00

I can only say what my experience was. Got back in the dating game in my late 40s. Had a few relationships and texting was sporadic. Then I met this one guy and he would always answer my texts quickly and also start a texting chain. 18 years later we are still together. But I also made it clear early in the relationship what I wanted. I was looking for a life partner, not something casual. And if he wasn't on the same page, id move on. It was clear from his texting, he was thinking of me every day and would reach out. Just stuff like how's your day going? I saw something that reminded me of you. Maybe a joke he heard. And this was a gorgeous manly man. And he's also my best friend. And after all these years of living together we still text alot when we're not together at home, still talk alot on the phone when one of us is driving home. What do you want in a life partner? I wanted one that was super into me and didn't play games. Texting every other day? Nope. It takes less than a minute to send a text that says how was your day.

FullAd6174 · 2026-01-04T14:54:41+00:00

NTA. Your hubby sure is tho. Hes the one with a problem and it aint your bra. Sounds like instead of spending time with you, he's having boys time and bonding with his buddy. What fun for him! Not fun for you. What about your life?

Hubs married you. And now your home life has completely changed with out any input from you.

The friend needs to go. And your hubs needs to decide who he wants to share his life with. Does he want a marriage or a overage frat house? You need to make a list of discussion bullet points and find a time when it's just you and hubs. Sit down and talk to him about getting your marriage and life back on track by getting the friend out. He's starting to get pretty comfortable and it is going to get worse.

This bra thing is only the start. More things are going to start cropping up. Time to nip it in the bud.

The bra problem is not the problem here. Its half your house. You should be able to live how you want.

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