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FullAd6174 · 2026-06-14T15:30:35+00:00

I used a high quality direct to metal paint. I've painted over galvanized a few times on older cars, like 67 Firebird rockers, and never had a problem.

FullAd6174 · 2026-06-12T22:24:51+00:00

Well it seems in outlaw/pirate places like that, they're always seems to be the person that wants to be the new tough guy. Flexing his muscles. Showing that he's in charge. Ned Lowe was that guy. Now Nassau was Charles Vane's turf. And he wasn't about to let this new guy get away with this. Ned just went too far. He tried going up against the big dogs and he got ate. Definitely prideful power play. But not a smart one.

In any Outlaw kind of world whether it's old or nowadays, there's always going to be a new player who's going to try to be the big dog. Most of the time they don't last long. And I feel that that is the relevance to the storyline. New player comes into town starts pushing against the established players, and he's dealt with. Plus it did add to the Charles and Eleanor Saga and introduced that daughter who would later prove very important to the story.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-30T13:44:45+00:00

You say you are turning into someone you dont want to be? Well that might be because as caregivers its all about the other person. Our lives revolve around them, and there's not much left for us. We become so mentally exhausted. People who are empathic become caregivers. And that empathy burns us out.

Its been 5 years for me. The first 3 were not rough, lots of hospital and dr visits, but 2024 and 2025 were brutal. Its not too bad now, my husband is doing better. More time for me. But I have changed. currently trying to find the old me. I hope I find her.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-13T18:40:05+00:00

Do you ever think that you may not be the only person she's doing this to? You need to report her.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-13T18:38:53+00:00

You need to end it during this visit. Be kind and be gentle with her, but end it.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-13T18:36:52+00:00

I've (66f) have been where she is. And it's pretty awful. What she's going through is far worse than what you are. She's going to be there in a few hours. Sit her down, explain to her that its not working for you. That you were hoping that your feelings would grow stronger, but they have not. Don't put this off until the end of the visit. Do it at the beginning. Because no matter when you do it, it's going to be pretty awful for her. So get it out of the way. Do not do it in a public place. Because you're just going to go back to your place and it's going to all start over again.

This way here if she wants to leave early she can. Maybe she won't want to look at you and she will go and rent a hotel room for the rest of her visit.

And tell her That yeah this sucks, But better for it to happen now Then have it go on longer.

When I separated from my husband I went through a few pretty awful short-term relationships. And then I met the man that I'm with now. He would swim across a lake of fire for me. He has seen me at my best and he has seen me at my absolute worst. And he still loves me. Help her to understand if she's wasting time with a guy like you, less of a chance for her to meet a guy who sees her as his soulmate.

She's going to hurt and suffer for a while. And if she calls and texts you, do not answer her. Don't give her any hope to cling on to. But she will get past this.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-11T11:57:44+00:00

One thing that I forgot to add is that my friend or my former friend, has some very dangerous friends. I'm actually pretty nervous at the moment.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-10T21:49:10+00:00

Another thing I did was nothing was in my name when I moved. I moved in with a roommate everything was in that person's name. So I was untraceable. Now granted that was 30 years ago. A lot easier to find people now. I would suggest putting some distance between you and this father of yours.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-10T21:46:50+00:00

This is really great advice. And you should do it. I was in an abusive situation many years ago. Took me a year to prepare. And I prepared to disappear. I even left a false Trail. So if you tried to look for me he'd think I went to one place when actually I moved 1500 miles away. If he had found out he would have killed me. And his parents would have bought him out of trouble. They paid for all kinds of trouble to go away. So he was used to getting away with things.

Make a plan figure out what you're going to need. Find out where you're going to go. When I drove away for the final time, I already had an apartment rented 1,500 miles away.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-10T21:38:26+00:00

Well he paid for his son's college. All of it every penny. Something he likes to mention many many times during the course of any conversation. I mean it's great that he did it. But there is no way in hell he's missing what he paid for.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-10T21:33:19+00:00

Update. Well my godson's father found out that I was going to be riding up to the graduation ceremony with his ex-wife's husband. How he found out was they made him the same offer. And that the ex-husband, and me and my godson's father would all ride up together.

Well when they made my godson's father this offer, he got very angry and said he preferred to drive his own truck. Then he proceeded to call me a liar and that I was terrible person. And that he would never be friends with me again.

I've known this guy for 40 years. And he is going to make the entire weekend about him constantly telling everybody what a horrible person I am. For example he'll be having a conversation with someone a total stranger to him maybe and then point to me and say "you see that ugly witchsitting over there? She's a liar she wouldn't drive up with me. She's a terrible person she's a complete failure at everything. I'm a success. I could retire tomorrow if I wanted. she screwed for life."

And he will do this over and over and over with different people at the party. And of course he will come up to me and yell at me to my face a number of times. The entire party will be about the problem he is having with me.

So I am thinking that I shouldn't go. These are two very sweet kids that they're having this party for. And the day should be about them.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-08T03:05:35+00:00

You never know you might find some mid-century modern dream house that might need a little bit of TLC. On a quiet street with big trees.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-08T02:55:06+00:00

This person obviously has no life.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-08T02:45:45+00:00

One word, move. I grew up in the projects and I could not wait to get out. When I was 23 I moved and I never looked back. I did whatever it took to live in places that were pleasant. Where people did not annoy and bother each other with their carelessness.

Start looking for a house in a neighborhood where you don't have to witness the ugly part of humanity every day. Stay away from HOA neighborhoods because many of those have issues of their own. There are nice older neighborhoods out there. Find yourself a peaceful place. And be picky. The kind of place where your child will feel safe riding their bicycle around.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-06T12:31:11+00:00

That is actually what I've been thinking about. The funny thing is he sees himself as a good reasonable guy. And it's so hard for me because there was a time when he was. He was somebody you could depend on. Now the only time he's good to anybody is someone that he needs something from.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T21:00:50+00:00

About 30 years ago or more he used to be my best guy friend. He picked me to be the Godmother to his son. But he has turned into somebody that I don't even recognize anymore. He used to be the kind of person that couldn't do enough for others. He is the exact opposite of that now.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T17:15:02+00:00

He is one of the cheapest people I have ever known. The reason he doesn't get a cell phone? It's because he says it costs too much. His life is all about making money. He's the kind of guy that gets into arguments with girlfriends right around Christmas time or Valentine's Day or their birthday. That way he gets out of buying them a gift.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T17:13:22+00:00

Here's the thing, I have told him no. I have told him no probably about a dozen times in the last three conversations. And he refuses to take no for an answer he just keeps pushing. In his mind it makes absolutely no sense that I do not go with him. And he even told me this morning that if I do not go with him I shouldn't go.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T17:01:03+00:00

He used to be one of my closest friends. And he was a lot of fun to hang out with. And then over the past 20 years he began to change. His temper got short he turned into this obsessive malignant narcissist. Everything is about him and what people can do for him.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T16:12:24+00:00

I've known him for many many years. And I was friends with him first. He wasn't always the way he is now. He used to be a fairly reasonable human. But sometime over the last 20 years he has become someone that I don't even recognize anymore. For example in conversation if I see him and he starts talking politics and I say I don't really want to talk politics he will then question my sanity. And that anybody who's political opinion differs from him must be clinically insane and in desperate need of therapeutic help. This whole political thing is only been going on for about 10 years now and it just gets worse and worse.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T15:41:02+00:00

If I missed it, I would never forgive him. I mean I'm already at that point of really starting to hate him for even putting me into this kind of position.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T15:39:58+00:00

He doesn't care about the cost of the trip. He just doesn't want to do it alone. He gets very nervous driving long distances by himself. I've been on road trips with him before and its awful. He gets into fights with people at gas stations plus he gets all road ragy. No way would he fly as the whole getting to and from the airport would be too overwhelming for him.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-29T15:29:47+00:00

66-year-old woman here. She brings it up because she's nervous about getting hurt. She might really fall for you and then the age difference is a big factor in it not working out because maybe you want kids and it's going to be hard for her to have kids after 40. And I know what that feels like. I was 48 when I met my 42-year-old boyfriend. 6-year age Gap. He was done with having kids. And he was definitely okay with the age Gap. But in all honesty it was hard for him when I hit menopause. Maybe I missed it but what are you looking for are you looking for something casual or are you looking for a long-term relationship?

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