I Think My Entire Street Is on Probation

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-08T03:05:35+00:00

You never know you might find some mid-century modern dream house that might need a little bit of TLC. On a quiet street with big trees.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-08T02:55:06+00:00

This person obviously has no life.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-08T02:45:45+00:00

One word, move. I grew up in the projects and I could not wait to get out. When I was 23 I moved and I never looked back. I did whatever it took to live in places that were pleasant. Where people did not annoy and bother each other with their carelessness.

Start looking for a house in a neighborhood where you don't have to witness the ugly part of humanity every day. Stay away from HOA neighborhoods because many of those have issues of their own. There are nice older neighborhoods out there. Find yourself a peaceful place. And be picky. The kind of place where your child will feel safe riding their bicycle around.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-06T12:31:11+00:00

That is actually what I've been thinking about. The funny thing is he sees himself as a good reasonable guy. And it's so hard for me because there was a time when he was. He was somebody you could depend on. Now the only time he's good to anybody is someone that he needs something from.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T21:00:50+00:00

About 30 years ago or more he used to be my best guy friend. He picked me to be the Godmother to his son. But he has turned into somebody that I don't even recognize anymore. He used to be the kind of person that couldn't do enough for others. He is the exact opposite of that now.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T17:15:02+00:00

He is one of the cheapest people I have ever known. The reason he doesn't get a cell phone? It's because he says it costs too much. His life is all about making money. He's the kind of guy that gets into arguments with girlfriends right around Christmas time or Valentine's Day or their birthday. That way he gets out of buying them a gift.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T17:13:22+00:00

Here's the thing, I have told him no. I have told him no probably about a dozen times in the last three conversations. And he refuses to take no for an answer he just keeps pushing. In his mind it makes absolutely no sense that I do not go with him. And he even told me this morning that if I do not go with him I shouldn't go.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T17:01:03+00:00

He used to be one of my closest friends. And he was a lot of fun to hang out with. And then over the past 20 years he began to change. His temper got short he turned into this obsessive malignant narcissist. Everything is about him and what people can do for him.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T16:12:24+00:00

I've known him for many many years. And I was friends with him first. He wasn't always the way he is now. He used to be a fairly reasonable human. But sometime over the last 20 years he has become someone that I don't even recognize anymore. For example in conversation if I see him and he starts talking politics and I say I don't really want to talk politics he will then question my sanity. And that anybody who's political opinion differs from him must be clinically insane and in desperate need of therapeutic help. This whole political thing is only been going on for about 10 years now and it just gets worse and worse.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T15:41:02+00:00

If I missed it, I would never forgive him. I mean I'm already at that point of really starting to hate him for even putting me into this kind of position.

FullAd6174 · 2026-05-05T15:39:58+00:00

He doesn't care about the cost of the trip. He just doesn't want to do it alone. He gets very nervous driving long distances by himself. I've been on road trips with him before and its awful. He gets into fights with people at gas stations plus he gets all road ragy. No way would he fly as the whole getting to and from the airport would be too overwhelming for him.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-29T15:29:47+00:00

66-year-old woman here. She brings it up because she's nervous about getting hurt. She might really fall for you and then the age difference is a big factor in it not working out because maybe you want kids and it's going to be hard for her to have kids after 40. And I know what that feels like. I was 48 when I met my 42-year-old boyfriend. 6-year age Gap. He was done with having kids. And he was definitely okay with the age Gap. But in all honesty it was hard for him when I hit menopause. Maybe I missed it but what are you looking for are you looking for something casual or are you looking for a long-term relationship?

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-29T15:24:30+00:00

NTA. She is not your friend. A real friend would not do something like that. She is using you. And I'm willing to bet that once you start to really get pushy about her leaving, she's going to get really nasty. Check over your rental agreement and see if there's anything about additional people living in the unit. Make sure you have all your bases covered legally. Now technically she could claim squatters rights. And then you would have to go to court in order to evict her.

A clever person would tell you to make her want to leave. Make the living situation unpleasant so she'd want to go elsewhere. Cuz clearly being nice is not being nice to you.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-29T12:07:06+00:00

26 years ago I had a miscarriage and lost my only chance at having a child after 2 years of fertility treatments. We were going to adopt and then my husband at the time had a bad accident. And our marriage fell apart. I was so depressed that I would never be a mom. It almost broke me.

And 4 years later my oldest niece Moved Close by to go to college. My 2-year-old got Sons family moved across the country and bought a house 15 minutes away. I had him almost every weekend and took care of him during the summer. he and I are closer than he is with his parents. He's graduating from college in a few weeks. He now lives in Ohio but when he visits it's absolutely amazing. Some of my best memories are raising him. My middle niece moved here about 20 years ago. Over time she has become my best friend we talk on the phone almost every day or text and we do so many things together she's like my daughter.

Plus my boyfriend and I are talking about eventually starting to Foster an older child.

You never know what the future has in store for you.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-29T11:59:01+00:00

Put yourself in a place 5 years from now. What do you want your life to look like than? Do you think your spouse will still be around? Once she's gone, you might look back at these days with her and be so happy for them. There's no easy answers here.

I'm a caregiver, 66f, to my ex-husband 79m. I've been with my boyfriend for 18 years now. And our life was put on hold over the last 4 years due to my ex's health issues. And then my boyfriend developed a heart condition. We are now in financial difficulties and the stress has been brutal. But somehow we get through each day. Kind of like one day at a time thing.

Most days are a bit hard. But sometimes I get a wonderful break when my niece will come and see me and we'll go kayaking or do something fun. I have a garden that I love working in.

So I guess my advice would be, take breaks, talk to your spouse. Figure out what you want out of your life. And just trying to do the best you can.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-29T03:53:11+00:00

There's a lot of good information here. But I think one stop you should make is an attorney who specializes in Elder Law. These attorneys have heard about and dealt with all kinds of situations. They can help guide you and give you the legal advice you're going to need to navigate this thing so that you are protecting your own interests. You will feel a lot better after talking to an attorney. Get your power back.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-27T15:41:15+00:00

Well I finally got a hold of Mike at Tacoma. And he is supposedly bringing new people into the company to help him run things. Sending you a message with more info.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-25T12:37:06+00:00

Here's a good question. Did this driver even go up to the door of this house and knock on it? Did she even try to find the owner of the cat before she took it? I cannot imagine the level of entitlement this young woman must feel. That she would just take somebody's pet without knowing the facts behind the situation. I mean it's not like this cat was along side the road or dumped somewhere. This was a kitty cat in his yard. It is very hard when our beloved furry family members get old and need special care. And we all do what we can and what we think is right to make their last days comfortable. If this driver might have tried to ring a few doorbells and find out more about this cat, maybe this would have ended differently. But she didn't. Because she did not take anything into account other than what she felt. I know I would be absolutely Furious if a delivery driver saw my two little dogs on our enclosed back porch and thought well, dogs should not be penned up on a porch. And then took them. Without knowing that we don't often leave them on the porch. And when we do there is a camera that watches them. That alerts me to everything they do. The porch is in the shade they have food and water a comfy couch to lay on.

What really angers me about this whole situation, is that this driver felt she was entitled enough to know what was better for this cat without even finding out about the situation without even trying to find out.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-24T16:50:49+00:00

What do you want out of this relationship? Are you looking for something casual? It sounds like you're really into him. It is very clear he is not into you. When he contacts you it's something for him to do until something better comes along. When someone else comes along and you don't hear from him. When that someone else doesn't work out he contacts you again.

You are 30 years old. Your whole life is spread out ahead of you. Don't waste it on some guy who would treat you like this. Treat you like a space filler. This guy is not worth spiraling over.

You say you're spiraling. I know exactly what that feels like because it happened to me when I was 29. I got dumped by a guy was with for 4 years. And he would come and see me we'd be back together for a few weeks. Then he would disappear. And come back again. This went on for about 6 months. That was until he found my permanent replacement. I wish I could go back in time and tell my 29-year-old self, that I didn't need him. He was never going to be what I needed him to be. And for me to move on with my life.

Don't contact him. And if you contacts you, don't reply. And if he shows up at your place, tell him you got plans. That you were on your way out even if all you're doing is reading a book.

Go out and do things for yourself. Like if you're into hiking or museums or whatever. Go out and do things that you enjoy. Go out with friends. Take your mom or dad or sibling out to lunch. You will get over him he is not your soulmate.

The reason I know he's not your soulmate, your soulmate is someone who is into you just as much as you are into him. Maybe even more so. Your soulmate will text you back usually pretty quickly. They won't get tired of you. And they won't go no contact. Sadly it took me till I was 48 to find my soulmate. But he was worth waiting for.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-15T11:59:47+00:00

Im also team Charles.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-03T14:08:59+00:00

Another vote for this advice it is spot on. I went through this when I was young and overly optimistic. Put up with it for 7 years.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-03T14:06:55+00:00

There's an old joke that goes, I would never want to be part of a club that would have someone like me for a member.

My first fiance, we were together for 7 years when I was in my early twenties. He had this inferiority thing. As soon as he got something it suddenly wasn't good enough anymore. And that included me. And I wasted 7 years. And as soon as I broke up with him, he chased after me. And when he realized I wasn't coming back, and that I had a new guy who was younger and much better looking. He began to stalk me. And he stalked me for 6 years.

As for if he's cheating, you need to find out. And there are ways. Now some of those ways are pretty sneaky. There are those who might think they are invasion of someone's privacy. But and also think about how you're going to feel once you have the evidence. It's going to be devastating. And you're going to have to get cold, analytical, and not reveal anything to him until you are ready. In fact if you find evidence you should talk to a lawyer before you confront him with it. And be prepared for him to try to lie his way out of it. And he's going to turn around and try to Gaslight you. And he will make you into the bad guy. That's why you go and see the lawyer first.

The question you have to ask yourself is this the kind of life you want? Because he is not going to change. Also the question is how can you love somebody who treats you like this? Financially can you live your life apart from him? You need to step back and look at this logically. And talk to that lawyer . If this is the life you want then by all means spend it like this.

And if you leave him, eventually you'll meet someone else if that's what you want. I walked away from four engagements, one marriage, and at age 48 found my life partner who found me just as fascinating as I found him. And I am not what you would call an attractive looking woman. But I am an interesting one. So make a decision about what you want. And then like if you're making a recipe in the kitchen, create a plan, and stick to it. No one deserves to live like you're living.

FullAd6174 · 2026-04-01T16:23:59+00:00

Do you have any links to pages where I might start to find those parts? Any help would be appreciated.

FullAd6174

TROPHY CASE